Why too much Medhelp can be a bad thing

[NicMom]

So I've been doing great since my 8w appointment and not worried anymore or anything, but then....
I was reading posts today and come across not one, but three posts where women had a m/c between 8 and 12 weeks and didn't even know it until their next appointment. It wasn't like I was looking for it I try to sensor what I read on the title of the post. I'm so bummed out now because I'm all stressed thinking that the baby is going to stop growing and I won't know it until my next appointment. What makes it worse is that my dh is going to be out of town and won't be able to go with me. Because I'm nearing the end of the first trimester my symptoms are getting better also. Not going away, but getting better so that makes me even more jumpy. AAHHH

I wouldn't still have morning sickness if something was wrong right? I guess I'm just going to be dealing with the paronia off and on until I have that baby in my arms. Well my 12 week appointment is in 12 days and I think I'm just going to stick to the posts that I'm already following and not read anything new until after I see the doc. I'm just venting here, but don't you sometimes read something that you wish you could un-read?

[Linzola1]

Like everyone else has said there is not really a safe point but I can say that once you hit 12 weeks the chances drop like a crazy amount..... Good Luck and keep your head held high!

[NicMom]

JoyRenee- You are exactly right about losing the innocence of a pregnancy after you have a miscarriage. With my son I never worried about anything except how bad labor was going to hurt. Oh and I did hear the heartbeat and see the baby moving around so odds are everything is going to be fine.

jenkaye- If not see them every week being able to drop in for a quick listen to the heartbeat would be awesome.

The damage is done and I'm already freaked out, but I'm going to try to take it easy until my next appointment. Once I reach that second trimester I will calm down. I'm almost there.

[jenkaye21]

I am with you; I have read about so many others experiences that I am now terrified of having a missed miscarriage.  Even though my previous miscarraiges have been at 5-6 weeks, and I am now 16 weeks, I am still nervous!  It never completely goes away.
Don;'t you wish we could see the doctor every week?? LOL
Anyway, your morning sickness is probably a *good* sign (haha), so hang in there and think positive!

[JoyRenee]

Unfortunately there's never a "safe point" in life or pregnancy. Don't let those posts get under your skin. Focus on just having a healthy baby and enjoy being pregnant. I worried the entire pregnancy with my youngest daughter and didn't enjoy it much because I was freaking out over everything. The whole time. It is not a way to spend a pregnancy!

I've had 2 miscarriages so of course I'm freaked out right now. I understand greatly that anything can happen at any point. I know a lot of sad stories that I won't get into. But that is the power of knowledge- you know too much and it can get you down.

If I'd never had miscarriages I would be naiively blissful and innocent during this pregnancy, not even thinking about all the things that could go wrong. But because I'm lost my "innocence" due to unfortunate circumstances I'm just enjoying this time anyway.

I'd rather enjoy what little time I might have being pregnant than to worry the whole time. Keep your chin up! Once you see/hear the heartbeat your chances of miscarrying drop to 12%. That means you have an 88% chance of giving birth at term, to a healthy baby.

[NicMom]

Thanks guys for your support. I think things will be okay and your right if something goes wrong I can't really do anything about it anyways. I'm just going to try and enjoy the pregnancy as long as I can.

Just reading the replys to this post proves my point. These things happen and it's very sad, but it doesn't happen to everyone and every pregnancy.

Zakanunu, I think that's great that you don't have morning sickness. Don't worry about the cramps I get them all the time too. It's a good sign it means your uterus is growing and stretching.

Thanks again.

[zakanunu]

I can't believe I actually reading this post. Today I have been suffering from tons of paranoia about miscarrying.  We are having major drama at home regarding my younger sister and it has caused me so much of stressed.  I have looked it up like a million times and read stories about stress and pregnancies.  I even started having these shooting pains, now not knowing whether its cramps or gastric pains have made me so scared, I keep going to the Loo to look for blood and keep looking for other signs. I never suffered from any morning sickness or nausea so I can't even say I can use that as a factor.

All I know is that I keep telling myself that everything will be okay. My 12 week appointment is next week and if God Wills then my baby will be fine.

[K1990]

I'm sure you are fine but for me I miscarried at 12 weeks but the baby died at 4 weeks and I still had morning sickness and all of that around 6 weeks...  But I am sure you are fine.  If you have heard the heart beat then you should be just fine.  For me at 10ish weeks they couldn't hear the hb so sent me an u/s and then said if miscarry and double checked blood any everything.

[Latrice414]

I understand how you feel nicmom, but to be honest, a pregnancy can end at any point during the pregnancy, things can go wrong at anytime, and the stories we see on here is just living proof.

Thinking positive and praying for a healthy pregnancy is what i do. I have my moments when i think about possible m/c but i dont let it consume me. I also pray that gods give me the strength to accept whatever my fate may be with this pregnancy.

God has a plan for everyone, keep your head up and stay positive:)

[sweetangel7]

I agree...every now and again, I have to pull myself away because of all the misfortunes of others that bring out the paranoia in me!  It is a love/hate relationship lol  

Try to give yourself some distance and find something positive to occupy your time...I hate waiting between doctors visits!

[GRose]

I know what you mean. When I was pregnant with Noah it never crossed my mind that I might loose him but now that I am pregnant and on MH I worry all time because of all the sad stories I hear.
Try not to worry and just enjoy your pregnancy :)