OT~~For all you Ladies who are pg with your 3rd baby or more

[frank_noahsmommy]

Ok this is just a question that came up in a conversation last night with my DH. It is not about me because I am not pg. We know someone who is pg with their 3rd child 1st is 10, 2nd is 6, and this one is due in the beginig of the year and it is a girl which is a first because the other 2 are boys. We were told to save the date because they are having a babyshower. My DH said to me, I thougt you were not suppose to have a babyshower with your 3rd? I had one with my 1st and with my second was DH 1st and it was 7 years later and someone mada a comment to him when we were going to have our's with our last son. I said to him maybe because it is a girl? He said well it's not like they don't have money to but what the baby needs. So I got to wondering is it ok??? What do you ladies think?? Would you have a babyshower after already having 2 kids??? I am just curious to know if you ladies have been in this situation? The person is a close family member, and know they are not giving it to themselves..lol

[frank_noahsmommy]

I agree with having a shower if there is more then 5 years in between and a different sex. I think it is wonderful to celebrate the birth or upcoming birth of a baby!!! Thanks for all your comments and stories, like I said I was just wondering how everyone felt!!!

[alexia226]

i have 3yo and 1yo little girls - so my mom threw me a shower for the first, but not for the second. i am not prego again...and my friends are telling me they are going to throw me a shower. i keep telling them NO i have EVERYTHING i could possibly need for a baby. so now we've agreed - if it's a boy i will let them throw a shower...i have all little girl stuff, so it will be helpful to get some baby boy stuff.

[AMINOHIO]

I had a shower with my first and second baby (there is almost 4yrs between them). I didn't ask for a baby shower either time; people just threw them for me. They were much appreciated for sure, but it's not something that I expected.

I'm pg with my third and my best friend already said she will be throwing a shower for me. I asked her if people would think it's a little weird since this is my 3rd. She said that since my youngest is 6 yrs old now and I have absolutely nothing for a baby she saw no reason why I shouldn't have a baby shower.

So, I don't think there is any right or wrong on this subject. I really just think it's up to the mommy to be, friends, and family and what everyone is comfortable with.

[Majikat]

I only had a baby shower with my first who is 7 my second is 5.... I wouldn't even think to have one with this one.... It would make no sense at all.... But I have seen some people have them for second and third pregs....

[chantal21]

I think it would be strange to throw yourself one if it's your 3rd and so on. I am having my third, not sure yet what we are having, but I had 2 boys (only 1 living now) and my sister-in-law is already talking about having a shower for me. I don't see it as a problem if someone wants to have a shower for me, but I would never throw myself one. BUT if I am having a girl, I would definitely love to have one because I have nothing girly in my house! Also, my church gives each lady a shower, no matter what # baby you are having. It's mostly just to pitch in with diapers, wipes and the essential things you wouldn't have for a newborn.

[Raerae336]

This is my third. My oldest is 3 and i had a shower with her didnt have one with my second girl (they are 15 months apart) but my mom and friends threw me one with this one because he was a total surprise i had given everything infant away and bc hes a HE lol. I think if family is offering, or friends.. Its ok.

[ketona31479]

Ok I've just had one, now pregnant with my second, My family gave my first baby shower, Was told the baby would be a boy so everyone got boy stuff turned out the baby was a girl lol. anyway this time my husbands family wants to have the baby shower my mom in law. I love to help people that need things, its just my nature to help people whether not not i can afford to help or not I always help, so when I find out someone is having a baby i start going through my baby things, stuff that still looks new, and my baby things start depleting. So In my opinion is unless you really dont need anything a 3rd or 4th baby shower is not needed. But if you like to "over help" family and friends like me, and in the same finantial stiuation then a 3rd or 4th baby shower MIGHT be needed....Thats just my opinion...

[trying43]

This is my 3rd, a girl, I have 2 boys 6 and 8.  I am having a shower.  Its been 6 almost 7 years from the birth of my last son so I dont think theres a problem with it.  Now with my second son I didnt have one because he and my oldest are only 18 moonths apart and we didnt need anything.

[30something13]

I have had 5 babies and the thing was to only have one with your first but now people are ahving them with each pregnancy. I do nto see the need unless you have thrown things out, it is a differnent gender, or maybe you are having twins. I had one with all 4 and my 4th was born when my first was 3. I had boy, girl, girl, girl. THey were premature and I had the tohers in car seats and nothing was the right season:( I did nto need one though really but I got one anyway from church, only family the first time around.

This last one my youngest was 10 and I had nothing! Besides car seats outdate in 5 years from manufature date and cribs are fixed side now so tings change in 10 years too. I will have more so I got gender nutreul things like car seat, swing, high chair first clothes and onsies socks etc... MOst likely I will be needing a full crib and nursery set though and car seat and high chair as he is now 6 months on Friday and we are trying again for another one. With people and close friends getting you gifts when baby is born there is really no need to have another shower if they are close together and you get nutreul colors of things but clothes are harder to find now moreso then 10-13 years ago!

[cassandra19]

well i didn't have a baby shower for my son i was 16 and didn't really find out till 7 months lol, but anyways i still got stuff after he was born. Then i had my DD 5 years later and had nothing so i had a baby shower that my friend was suppose to throw for me but i ended up having to pay for some of it. It was a little party so not really a shower, but i did have close friends.

I just found out i am having another girl, if it was boy i would of had a shower, but since it is a girl i will be having a diaper/meet party.

[wannabeamama6]

My mom had one for my oldest sister now 24 and one for my younger brother now 13.

There is a 6 year difference between me and my brother. He was my mothers 4th and her first boy. By that time she had gotten rid of everything and hadn't really planned to have another child. He also has a different father.

[frank_noahsmommy]

I am not having her one, her mom and sister are. I just got told to save the date and let my DH know and thats how this all started.

[roke]

I know of a lady who had one with her 3rd (her others were 4 and 6)....  ask the lady if she feels the need for one.  Or you could just throw her a "come see the baby" party with cake and decorations... just come and go type of thing.