Omg it's a 3-ring circus at my house!!

[Riot_Queen]

This boy won't cut me any slack!
Infact both my kids won't cut me any slack!!

Aiden is constantly crying and crying and crying, and fussing and crying summore!

I can't get him to sleep in his crib for more than a few hours every night, and then once he wakes up and I change n feed him, he won't go back to his crib cuz he screams.
And ofcoarse then he wakes up his sister and then she's crying cuz she wants to get up n play. omfg.

He wants me to hold him ALLLLLL the time.
And I have to hold him upright against my chest/sholder.
The only time I can hold him laying in my arm is if I'm feeding him. Otherwise, he screams.

And unlike Ivy when she was his age, after a few minutes of screaming her lungs out, she'd get tired and fall asleep-
NOT AIDEN.
He'll scream and scream and scream and the second I pick him up-
shuts right up.
Ugh.

I dunno what to do about it!
He's going to the docs again tomorrow to see about some reflux medicine to see if it'll help his crankyness cuz he could have reflux issues cuz this boy barfs EVERYWHERE all the friggin time and it's sicknasty.
But he also toots n burps more than any baby I've ever seen. He could also be gassy.
...Then there's colick.
Oh boy.

That could be any one or any combination of ANYTHING that can irritated a baby and make them cry.

Or he could just be a spoilt lil brat like his sister and just wanna be held allllll the time.
Ugh.

So meanwhile while Aiden is screaming his head off and I gatta hold him 24/7 even in my sleep, Ivy's over there getting into EVERYTHING, not listening and being a stubborn lil terd!
Walking around the house sucking her thumb whining all hours that she's awake.

So while holding Aiden, and trying to keep Ivy outta everything, and clean, cook my kids food, pick up after them and pick up after my slob of a husband- I'm about ready to strangle the next person that walks into the same room as me!!

I'm about to TELL HIM somethin- just cuz his slob a$$ is workin, don't mean he can throw his dirty cloths all over the place and leave cups and dishes everywhere.
If he ever gets lost, I'll just have to follow the trail of dirty tube socks and empty coke cans to find him!
It ain't fair!
Thank GOD he's off tuesday and wednesday cuz guess what, MY A$$ IS SLEEPING IN!
That boy dunno what "Being tired" is he always pulls that one on me, "I'm tired! I worked all day!"
Sh*t... 12 hours on your feet slamming prison inmates around and being PAID FOR IT ain't NOTHIN!!!
PLUS he gets a full, UNDISTURBED full night's sleep!
I am up from 6am till about midnight EVERYDAY. And I never get to sleep for more than maybe 30-45 minutes at a time cuz Aiden loves to make mommy miserable it seems to be.
AND! I don't get PAID for it!
I cook, I clean, I keep this house tidy best as I can and all I get is a, "I'm tired!"
UGH!!!

Sorry I ranted. This was really only supposed to be about Aiden screaming all the time and Ivy being a lil terd. lol

[Riot_Queen]

Okay for all of you who are misunderstanding what I'm saying and assuming I'm negleting my children you're completely off the track.
I take very good care of my kids, all of my attention is towards them 24/7.
NO IT WILL NOT HURT MY KIDS TO CRY ONCE IN A WHILE.
My daughter does infact throw fits for no reason and walks around whining all day for no reason. I brought her time and time again to the doctors thinking something was bothering her and he himself told me THERE'S NOTHING WRONG, if you can comfort her, let her cry.
Inwhich I do because even holding her doesn't cut it most of the time.
She's a whiney baby and there's nothing I can do about it. Some babies whine more than others. What do you want me to do.

My newborn to y'all who seem to think I'm just setting him down all the time and letting him scream his top off, are also completely off track.
I hold him throughout most of my day. I had to do all my christmas shopping with him in my left arm and dragging my shopping crat behind me with my right because he was crying and wanted to be held.
I often feed both of my kids at the same time, breastfeeding on one side, and using my free arm to spoon my daughter's food into her mouth.

I sleep with him in my arm almost every night.
I cook with him in my arm, I use my computer with him in my lap. I crochet with him in my lap or arm. My MIL and I like to work puzzles and I often have to hold him while I'm doing that.
If I could hold him n shower at the same time I'd probably be doing that too.
But if there's something I have to do where he cannot be near me, like while I'm using household cleaners or I'm out for a smoke, if I know I won't be too long, or if I'm losing my patience, then it will not hurt him to sit there and cry for a few minutes while I'm doing whatever or blowing off steam away from my children,

I DO NOT, and if I have to repeat myself, **I DO NOT** mistreat, neglect or abuse my babies.
I was abused and neglected as a child and I've learned from my parents' mistakes and refuse my children to be exposed to any such situation.

I love both of them very very much. And although I get very frustrated and overwhelmed sometimes, I would NEVER take it out on them.

And for those of you offended by my language, I'm sorry you feel that way but it's the way me and my family talk.
We all call our kids terds, goobers, boogers, etc.
There's nothing wrong with referring to my toddler as a lil terd. It's better than referring to her as a "Lil sh*t" like I often hear other parents actually CALLING their children to their faces.
I do not address towards my daughter as, "Terd." It's just a name we use when referring to our kids when they're being stubborn or are misbehaving.

When I address her I use her name or her nickname I call her Sugar or Toogers. I never use fowel language in her presence either because she mimiced "Mother F*****" one day when I called her daddy that and that was the cut off right then n there when she was 12 months.

I have alot of emotional problems I will admitt. I am slightly depressed because of my living situation, I'd like to be out on my own instead of living with hubbys parents. But we can't afford it right now.
I have OCD and anxiety.
I have a problem with my temper, so if I lose patience I'd rather set them down and walk away for a few minutes so it doesn't go any further than that.
But none of those are causing me to be spiteful towards my children. I do not resent my kids. I will admitt I wished we wouldn't have ended up having kids this early, but they're here and I love them. It is not their fault that they are here, and I would never take it out on them.

But I do not appreciate all of y'all who are making assumptions, accusations or some of you I felt like you were bashing me, I do not appreciate that. I am a VERY good mother, I am happy to have my kids healthy and thriving, but I am not so happy with some of the things they do. And as a mother I have every right to get frustrated especially when I have a most of the time useless husband and am living like a single mother when I'm NOT a single mother.
Alot of us use this forum to rant about our kids and I don't see everyone else getting bashed.

Now if I were beating up my kids and letting them go dirty and starved, that'd be one thing, but my babies are NOT without. they have a better lifestyle than I ever had and I plan to keep it that way.

I'm sorry if I'm coming off strong but I'm a little dissapointed about how some of you reacted and apparently didn't understand half of what I said.

[chantal21]

I have to agree with what the ladies have said here. I just wanted to share with you something I went through with my son. Since he was born, he wanted to be held ALL the time and on my shoulder was the best position for him. I always thought he was colic and really gassy or in pain. I would complain to my husband about not sleeping, and how much he used to scream. He would scream and never sleep for more than an hour at a time. I was terribly tired and didn't know what to do. Now I am not saying anything is wrong your son (maybe he is colic), but my son did end up having a rare liver disease and that is why he was always crying and wanted to be held. He was in pain. It broke my heart that I got so upset with him at times. And obviously he couldn't tell me, only by crying. And here I thought he just wanted attention all the time, but I was wrong. We have a long road ahead of us and I cherish every moment now with my children. It has really changed my frame of mind and how I deal with my children now. Since his surgery, he has been such a pleasant baby and finally started sleeping more and even now I can't let him cry for long at all because he could irritate his organs or possibly have a bleed inside. The truth is, babies cry and will cry a lot. We are moms and we are to be there to calm our babies.
My house is turned upside down these days and I'd rather let the dishes pile up and not clean to spend time with my kids. My husband doesn't do dishes or clean really, but I don't let it bother me anymore. He does work all day installing all kinds of flooring. It's a labor intensive job and I shouldn't expect him to come home and clean for me when I have been home all day. Clean when you can. Get a sitter for Ivy and just spend time with Aiden and cuddle him and play with him, get some one on one time. The first few weeks after my son was born, I had to give Jeremiah to my inlaws a few times a week so I could just get some sleep and just focus on Jesse more. Don't feel bad asking for help. You can't be superwoman!! I'd love to be, but I know I am not, I actually need help. You do need a break once in a while, so I hope you have someone around you who can help you out. My husband comes from a large family, so I always ask his brothers or sisters to come over and help me as well.
Hey, hang there!! Soon enough you will look back and think wow, it's wasn't so bad. It's all worth it!! =)  (((HUGS)))  I know it's tough!!

[Ashelen]

I also wanted to agree with the person who said you might want to see about PPD....there's another post from when you were pregnant with Ivy in the teen pregnancy forum which showed a lot of hostility and resentment about your pregnancy and I don't blame you (please don't think I'm bashing you for a 2-year-old post) but it indicates to me that you may have severe depression that you're not dealing with and if you were treated you might find life looks a lot rosier and a lot less overwhelming....please consider it <3

[Ashelen]

The ladies posting before me have put it perfectly....I remember crying for days after my daughter was born, because I was so exhausted. I had never even HELD a baby before she was born, so I had NO idea what I was in for, and after delivering her I bled so much my iron was 4 and my blood pressure was 60/40 which is almost dead. The next 3 weeks were so exhausted and painful (i tore from uterer to anus as well as up almost to my cervix) that I did nothing but cry and shake, and every time my daughter woke up to be breast-fed I felt like my mind was slipping and I was going to lose it. But then she would drift off in my arms and the tears would become joyful because I knew how close I came to dying just as she took her first breaths. It really put things in perspective. I know the first few weeks are going to be hell with an almost-two-year-old and a newborn, but remember what's important and it will help you through the hardest times.

Hang in there, and SPOIL those kids ROTTEN. right now ivy needs reassurance and the baby needs 24/7 spoiling I didn't put my daughter down for like 2 months and she's very well-adjusted and displays very little "spoiled" behavior at 15 months, so I don't regret it one bit. Newborns need spoiling, it's the only time in his life you can spoil him shamelessly and people will tell you you're doing it right :)

[mami1323]

I don't think motherhood is easy for anyone.  I remember being so tired I would sit up feeding my son and crying hysterically.  I was wondering when he was ever going to sleep through the night.  My fiance was useless, I did all the work and was resentful towards him but never my baby.  I was also getting responses from him and other old school parents on parenting...telling me that I would spoil my son if I didn't put him down or let him cry it out.  I remember my fiance telling me he would be spoiled if I put him in our bed to sleep, and remember him getting on my case when he caught me and our son sleeping in our bed.  After awhile I told him if he didn't like it than he can see himself out of our house.  My bestfriend dealt with the same attitude from her husband and so she sent me a book that saved my sanity.  It is called "The Baby Book", it taught me about attachment parenting and about evening fussers and collicky babies.  It was my life line and I actually would read my fiance paragraphs from the book to show him that you can't spoil a baby.  He learned a lot from it as well.  I know you don't have much time to read but it may help you and give you some ideas that will help you during the tough newborn stage.  Just know, motherhood is a 24/7 job and although you wind up getting more sleep as they get older and your child becomes more independent, it is always a tough job.  But it is a blessing.

[rdh1981]

I am not even sure if you are going to respond to this if you do I am sure it will be in anger. We just want you to realize how lucky you! Your little girl is not a terd and I can't even imagine telling my child must less my infant to "shut up"!

Be a Mommy!

Tired- good for you for kissing that baby through all the hardship and I know your little one must feel so loved!