Omg it's a 3-ring circus at my house!!

[Riot_Queen]

This boy won't cut me any slack!
Infact both my kids won't cut me any slack!!

Aiden is constantly crying and crying and crying, and fussing and crying summore!

I can't get him to sleep in his crib for more than a few hours every night, and then once he wakes up and I change n feed him, he won't go back to his crib cuz he screams.
And ofcoarse then he wakes up his sister and then she's crying cuz she wants to get up n play. omfg.

He wants me to hold him ALLLLLL the time.
And I have to hold him upright against my chest/sholder.
The only time I can hold him laying in my arm is if I'm feeding him. Otherwise, he screams.

And unlike Ivy when she was his age, after a few minutes of screaming her lungs out, she'd get tired and fall asleep-
NOT AIDEN.
He'll scream and scream and scream and the second I pick him up-
shuts right up.
Ugh.

I dunno what to do about it!
He's going to the docs again tomorrow to see about some reflux medicine to see if it'll help his crankyness cuz he could have reflux issues cuz this boy barfs EVERYWHERE all the friggin time and it's sicknasty.
But he also toots n burps more than any baby I've ever seen. He could also be gassy.
...Then there's colick.
Oh boy.

That could be any one or any combination of ANYTHING that can irritated a baby and make them cry.

Or he could just be a spoilt lil brat like his sister and just wanna be held allllll the time.
Ugh.

So meanwhile while Aiden is screaming his head off and I gatta hold him 24/7 even in my sleep, Ivy's over there getting into EVERYTHING, not listening and being a stubborn lil terd!
Walking around the house sucking her thumb whining all hours that she's awake.

So while holding Aiden, and trying to keep Ivy outta everything, and clean, cook my kids food, pick up after them and pick up after my slob of a husband- I'm about ready to strangle the next person that walks into the same room as me!!

I'm about to TELL HIM somethin- just cuz his slob a$$ is workin, don't mean he can throw his dirty cloths all over the place and leave cups and dishes everywhere.
If he ever gets lost, I'll just have to follow the trail of dirty tube socks and empty coke cans to find him!
It ain't fair!
Thank GOD he's off tuesday and wednesday cuz guess what, MY A$$ IS SLEEPING IN!
That boy dunno what "Being tired" is he always pulls that one on me, "I'm tired! I worked all day!"
Sh*t... 12 hours on your feet slamming prison inmates around and being PAID FOR IT ain't NOTHIN!!!
PLUS he gets a full, UNDISTURBED full night's sleep!
I am up from 6am till about midnight EVERYDAY. And I never get to sleep for more than maybe 30-45 minutes at a time cuz Aiden loves to make mommy miserable it seems to be.
AND! I don't get PAID for it!
I cook, I clean, I keep this house tidy best as I can and all I get is a, "I'm tired!"
UGH!!!

Sorry I ranted. This was really only supposed to be about Aiden screaming all the time and Ivy being a lil terd. lol

[mami1323]

I am also a little upset reading this.  Neborns don't manipulate us, they can't be spoiled.  He's trying to communicate with you because crying is his only verbal skill.  Your daughter is also desperate for attention and is used to being the baby.  She's not at an age where she can understand since she herself is still very young.  She follows you around because you are her mommy and she needs you.  I understand how overwhelming this all is, my son is in his terrible 2's and I can't even imagine having to care for him and a newborn at the same time, but it won't last forever.  Hopefully the reflux meds kick in and your son will be much more comfortable.  I used a baby bjorn and my son was a big boy and it was ok.  I had some back issues but I dealt with it.  I would also look into some meds for post partum depression.  I agree with tired, let some of the cleaning and cooking go and don't worry about your husband.  He's an adult and can fend for himself.  I would also inform him ahead of time that at 8 pm you will be leaving him with the kids and you are going to soak in the tub for about a 1/2 hour.  

[rdh1981]

I am with Tiredbuthappy and Joy, this is just so heartbreaking. Babies CANNOT be spoiled. I know your day is busy but man, take some time to hold your son. Let him know that you are there for him and comfort him like he deserves.  

My first son passed away at 7wks due to a heart condition and I only got to hold him 3 times. The third and final time was when he was taking last few breathes in my arms. I would do anything to hold again, but I cannot. My arms still ache for him. But because he was in the hospital I could not just pick him up anytime like you can!

He did bless me with his beautiful little brother named Cruz. Cruz is four months old and he spends every chance I get in my arms. He is actually sleeping on me right now as I type.  

Please understand how lucky you are to have two beautiful healthy children. I know you are a young mom, but you are the only mom they have.  Many women on this forum would trade spots with you in a heartbeat, so just remember that!

[tiredbuthappy]

it's no secret that my little one was difficult. colic is a terrible, draining thing that drains you physically, mentally, and emotionally. But everytime she woke me to eat in the middle of the night (every 2 hours!) i actually took a moment, kissed her head and thanked god for her. i know it sounds hokey, but it helped me get through it. i'd think of those who weren't lucky enough to be losing as much sleep as i was.

what was most difficult for me with a toddler and colicky infant was not the impact it had on me. instead, i felt so helpless and sad for my kids. for my screaming infant who i couldn't comfort. for my toddler who got chicken nuggets tossed at her in front of the tv if i had a moment. but, we survived and while it's still a bit stressful, 3 month later my toddler is doing great as a big sister and the baby continues to improve.

i don't want to sound harsh- as if i'm simply saying suck it up. but you're their mommy and this is your job, what you signed up to do. Instead of calling your daughter a terd and saying you want your newborn to shut up, reach out to the people on this forum for guidance and advice. Look at it differently. Ask, how can I make my toddler feel confident and comfortable admist this turmoil? or ask, how can i help my poor newborn feel secure and well enough to stop screaming and be put down? I suspect that your whole family, including YOU, will feel better if you view this situation differently. I also agree that you may want to look into whether or not you are experiencing postpartum depression. you come across as more than just overwhelmed- you seem to resent your kids and the impact they are having on you.

good luck, and i hope things settle down

[rdh1981]

I am not even sure if you are going to respond to this if you do I am sure it will be in anger. We just want you to realize how lucky you! Your little girl is not a terd and I can't even imagine telling my child must less my infant to "shut up"!

Be a Mommy!

Tired- good for you for kissing that baby through all the hardship and I know your little one must feel so loved!

[mami1323]

I don't think motherhood is easy for anyone.  I remember being so tired I would sit up feeding my son and crying hysterically.  I was wondering when he was ever going to sleep through the night.  My fiance was useless, I did all the work and was resentful towards him but never my baby.  I was also getting responses from him and other old school parents on parenting...telling me that I would spoil my son if I didn't put him down or let him cry it out.  I remember my fiance telling me he would be spoiled if I put him in our bed to sleep, and remember him getting on my case when he caught me and our son sleeping in our bed.  After awhile I told him if he didn't like it than he can see himself out of our house.  My bestfriend dealt with the same attitude from her husband and so she sent me a book that saved my sanity.  It is called "The Baby Book", it taught me about attachment parenting and about evening fussers and collicky babies.  It was my life line and I actually would read my fiance paragraphs from the book to show him that you can't spoil a baby.  He learned a lot from it as well.  I know you don't have much time to read but it may help you and give you some ideas that will help you during the tough newborn stage.  Just know, motherhood is a 24/7 job and although you wind up getting more sleep as they get older and your child becomes more independent, it is always a tough job.  But it is a blessing.

[Ashelen]

The ladies posting before me have put it perfectly....I remember crying for days after my daughter was born, because I was so exhausted. I had never even HELD a baby before she was born, so I had NO idea what I was in for, and after delivering her I bled so much my iron was 4 and my blood pressure was 60/40 which is almost dead. The next 3 weeks were so exhausted and painful (i tore from uterer to anus as well as up almost to my cervix) that I did nothing but cry and shake, and every time my daughter woke up to be breast-fed I felt like my mind was slipping and I was going to lose it. But then she would drift off in my arms and the tears would become joyful because I knew how close I came to dying just as she took her first breaths. It really put things in perspective. I know the first few weeks are going to be hell with an almost-two-year-old and a newborn, but remember what's important and it will help you through the hardest times.

Hang in there, and SPOIL those kids ROTTEN. right now ivy needs reassurance and the baby needs 24/7 spoiling I didn't put my daughter down for like 2 months and she's very well-adjusted and displays very little "spoiled" behavior at 15 months, so I don't regret it one bit. Newborns need spoiling, it's the only time in his life you can spoil him shamelessly and people will tell you you're doing it right :)