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huge fight over my 6 year old
So it all started when I purchased my six year old a cell phone. Now let me explain before everyone says what does he need a phone for because that was my arguement for the past few months when he was begging me for one. The last few weekends he's been going away to my moms and everytime I call they're either not home or he's out of the house with someone. And it frustrated me that the only way to talk to my son is if he was with my sister as hses the only one with a cell phone. So after much debate with my bf we decided to add him to our contract more for my piece of mind them him getting what he wanted since he'll be soending the majority of his summer at my moms. Well this triggered a huge fight amongst certain family members. Some implying I'm setting him up for disappointment and false security. Others saying I need to start telling him no because soon its going to be all about the baby. To my favorite comment of the night " I'm going to have to watch him when my baby is born because what I'm doing is going to cause resentment and my son will most likely phyically harm the baby" well that escalated into a bigger fight where she said I don't deserve to have another baby because I'm not correcting the mistakes I made with the one I have! And I have the mindset of a child if I cater to my spoiled sons every demand. HUH?? How did this come out of me buying my son a cell phone for when he leaves over the summer. So I snapped back thank you for your imput but I refuse to take parental advice from someone who had two of there kids taking away because of abuse and neglect. Well she broke down in tears and my family told me I was wrong for hitting a soft spot lol. Umm did they not hear what the h*ell that crazy b*tch said to me??
They are your kids and if you want to spoil them its your right like I tell people if I could buy my kids the world I would my kids deserve it because I love them that much lol
i think its okay to spoil ur son. i enjoy spoiling mines... because i Know Thats how people see it, but who cares they don't have to pay for it!
@to_soon~ yeah I think its a little pathetic of her to be jealous of my six year old but thats just her. And you're absolutely right about them being more vicious and now that im more aware of how she feels i'll definitely be keeping a closer eye on her. Also im sorry to hear that happened to you and your children its definitely not fair when the wrong person gets coddled for poor behavior but they jump on others parenting!
@mamabear0612~ my mother is perfectly capable of getting herself a cell phone she chooses not to have one. Its not that she can't afford one or I would have done that first. I dont see how much responsibility my son will have with it. He only gets it when hes not home or if he asks to play a game on it. Im aware that hes six and things break and get lost thats why I purchased the insurance on it.
@babymama2~ I should have started out with that but I didn't think that what I purchase my son would turn into a huge brawl. Not to mention I already feel guilty about my son feeling like hes being pushed aside for the new baby and for them to mention that needs to happen was also a little insensitive to my sons feelings.
I just don't get why a cell phone would cause such a huge argument that was irreverent to the situation.
@mamabear0612~ my mother is perfectly capable of getting herself a cell phone she chooses not to have one. Its not that she can't afford one or I would have done that first. I dont see how much responsibility my son will have with it. He only gets it when hes not home or if he asks to play a game on it. Im aware that hes six and things break and get lost thats why I purchased the insurance on it.
@babymama2~ I should have started out with that but I didn't think that what I purchase my son would turn into a huge brawl. Not to mention I already feel guilty about my son feeling like hes being pushed aside for the new baby and for them to mention that needs to happen was also a little insensitive to my sons feelings.
I just don't get why a cell phone would cause such a huge argument that was irreverent to the situation.
Im 4months pregnant, and my son will be 7 june 6 and he's getting a cell phone, and everybody say the same thing about me and i let them Know its my child, and when this baby gets here its going to get the same treatment, so tend their own business!
Not commenting on the family issues, but why didn't you add your mother to your plan and get HER the phone? Just curious, it seems like a lot of responsibility for a 6-year old.
Oh and one more thing... I can relate, my sister gave her oldest 2 kids up for adoption web they were 2yo and 6 mo old, her 3rd my parents have custody of and she had her 4th, a few years back when I still had only 3 kids O was working 2 jobs being a single mom while my sister was running off to visit some sugar daddy 2 states away while my mom and I were taking care both her kids for 2 weeks at a time, she was only ever home a week at a time, needless to say because she'd bring home gifts and money for my mom no one cared how much she was gone but god forbid Im working 2 jobs to support my kids and move out of my parents house, my sister got mad at me for taking too long at an mri for my then 5yo son and started going off on me that I was lazy I didn't do anything around the house, or take care of my kids, I was a pos cuz I was busting my *** working 2 jobs to support my kids and help pay rent. And of course running on no sleep cuz one my jobs was graveyards I went off about how the hell would she know she was never home and never had been a mom to any of her kids. Results... I got told to shut my mouth it wasn't my business even though I was the one that took care of her kids and I got kicked out, my kids and I couch surfed for about 2 weeks after that and I ended up losing both my jobs, so my point is, family may be family but when they are jealous of what you have,i.e. your kids they can be more vicious then enemies.
The joys of jealous family, don't listen to them, he's your son not theirs family always had something to say about anything and everything and when we have kids it just makes it easier for them to find something to say, your right not to listen to someone who has "lost" their kids, she is probably just jealous that you are in a position to "keep tabs" on your son and maybe sure he's ok and safe where she was not able to do it with her own
@ktowne yea im not even entirely mad at the situation anymore it just annoyed me I was the one being attacked and she got the sympathy!
@mrssandefur if my newborn comes out requesting anything he or she can have whatever it is lol. That baby would probably earn me some money in the headlines! I think a kindle fire would be a small price to pay for that lol. as for what I said I did feel a little guilty afterward but I definitely won't be apologizing for it until I receive one first!
@mrssandefur if my newborn comes out requesting anything he or she can have whatever it is lol. That baby would probably earn me some money in the headlines! I think a kindle fire would be a small price to pay for that lol. as for what I said I did feel a little guilty afterward but I definitely won't be apologizing for it until I receive one first!
Lol so you will or wont be buying the newborn the Kindle Fire s/he has been asking for? Jk I thought that this story was a little funny because I know a lady who got her grandson at 6 months an iPad and she only got it so that he would have his music and learning games and able.to have facetime or whatever with his.parents since she had custody of him. I thought it a bit much but at the same time it made sense.
As far as what she said verses what you said, I would have done the very same thing!!! I mean its your choice and your money what you get for your son! Why does anyone BUT your boyfriend need to have a say???
As far as what she said verses what you said, I would have done the very same thing!!! I mean its your choice and your money what you get for your son! Why does anyone BUT your boyfriend need to have a say???
Sounds to me like someone's jealous, and it's your child, no one else's, so who cares what they say? You did what was best for your family, and it was best, I would have done the same. A family member should NOT be treating you this way. I'll say though, new babies usually clear things up, me and my sister were fighting when I went into labor, and of course she broke down and came to the hospital and cleared things up because she wanted to see the baby, haha! Good luck hun!
Thank you ladies for your comments! I never realized that's how she felt about me or my child. I always believed it was her who showed resentment towards my child everytime he would get something new such as sneakers clothes or even a toy she would make comments. I brushed it off as she wasn't financially able to provide for her kids the way we can for ours so I never said anything to her. But this time she went to far. @txmamma yes it was her who did the abusing and neglecting and my mother is wonderful with him. I know I don't have to worry about his safety. At the same time accidents can happen and I feel better knowing I can call him directly.But he literally is always out do something from sun up to sun down and he loves it. I just don't have the energy myself to be out all day with him. But i do like to speak to him myself and ask him how his day is and I love hearing his stories about what he did. A weekend I can barley get through without speaking to him I can only imagine a few weeks in the summer lol I go through seperation anxiety. His phone has lots of parental controls and blocks on it. He has a total of 8 numbers (all immediate family members) in there and I turned the internet setting off and when he wants an application downloaded only his father and I have the password to do so.
Ooh she didn't! I would have done the same thing. Part of her consequences of having her kids taken away should be that it's thrown in her face...how else will she learn right? Ignoring the matter isn't going to help her....that SPOILS her in my eyes!
As for the cell phone, of course you want piece of mind and I'm sure that if there is any wrongdoing on his part then it will get taken away right? He is quite young but you have your reasonings and that's all that matters.
As for the cell phone, of course you want piece of mind and I'm sure that if there is any wrongdoing on his part then it will get taken away right? He is quite young but you have your reasonings and that's all that matters.
Well she hit below the belt first so its only natural for u to point out she has no room to talk. Especially for the reasons her kids were taken away. Unless she wasn't the one neglecting and abusing them. As for the phone, if I felt my child needed one I would buy one. But it would be one of those that can only call and accept calls from preset numbers. Are you concerned he's not safe at grandmas? If so, maybe look for new child care.
I don't blame you! You are doing what you think is necessary for YOUR son and I don't honestly think you are spoiling him just because you want to keep in contact with him. It dosent matter if he wanted it or not. So just because our kids want something and we think its good for them to have thats spoiling? Do what u have to do for your family and don't pay attention to negative comments. Its good you bought him one, now you can have a piece of mind where your son is? Congrats on the new baby. You deserve a precious little bundle of joy and don't let anyome tell you any different!
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