Pray for my SIL PLEASE!!!

[ashiepooh]

My SIL had her baby January 10, 2009.  Yesterday she woke to her beautiful little daughter not breathing.  Her heart had been stopped for 30 minutes before they got her revived!  She wouldn't and couln't breathe on her own.  They had her on the machines for 6 hours, while she sat there and bawl her eyes out with the only comfort I could give her was to cry with her!  They told her there was less than a 10% chance she would even make it.  Finally, after the 6 hours, she decided it was better for everyone if they pulled the plug.  She made it 15 minutes in my SIL's arms before she passed away!  

I sat there with her, trying in everyway to comfort her, and she held on for dear life to her little girl for 8 more hours!  And she finally let her go.  My heart is with her, and she isn't (my SIL) isn't doing good what so ever.  When her Grandma died 4 years ago, 4 days later she took an entire bottle of excedrin pm and ended up in the hospital not knowing where she was or how she got there.  The stupid hospital gave her percocets for the pain of losing her daughter.  And now we're all taking turns watching her.  She needs your prayers to get through this tragedy!  

I feel guilty about being around her since our babies would have been closer than anything, and so does my husband.  But if you guys have any advice that I could give her, or words of excouragement I would appreciate it!  

R.I.P. Sophia Joleen 1/10/09 - 1/18/09

[PENNY1705]

i am so sorry.

[JoyRenee]

Oh ashiepooh, I'm so very sorry. Funerals are never ever easy, especially when it is for a baby or child. My heart really does ache reading about this and even I am crying, and I don't know you IRL.

Take it easy. Sounds like your SIL is doing good so far but there are going to be days where she is inconsolable, angry, or downright depressed. It is a very long road. She will never get over this but with time the pain WILL lessen. It's very hard to see loved ones hurting while you stand by powerless to help them.

Just be there for her. That's all we can ever do. I love that she'll have a memory box for her little girl. And I just wanted to say, again, how very sorry I am! I was about to make a post to ask for an update before I found this. Please know I've been thinking of you and your niece for the past few days!

[ashiepooh]

As far as we know there was no problems with the little girl.  BUT on the dads side of the family, there is a huge history of lung problems.  In a way, I hope they can tell us it was something with the lungs, so there was physically a reason she had to be taken.  But we still don't know the results.

I have to tell you ladies today was one of the hardest days i've ever had to deal with.  Trying to not cry and keep it together worked for an hour, and then I couldn't stop!  I couldn't bare to actually go and look at her in the casket either.  But everyone had beautiful things to say!  

Thank you ladies for all your prayers!  I did have her read all this too, and she said it is comfort

[Mea426]

Will be praying for her...hope all goes well! :)

[utchick]

omg i so cried while reading this post thats the worst thing that could happen to a person and if i was you id stay by her side and be there no matter what its all you con do and shes in my prayers just help her keep it together and keep her safe from harm

[New Mommy 2 Be 2007]

that is so horrible, for a parent to loose their child it is the worst thing in the world. i cant even imagion the pain she is going through, that is my biggest fear. i dont understand why this would happen to people, was she a healthy baby? im so sorry i will keep her in my prayers, i hope she will pull through my moms brother lost their son at 7 months due to a hole in the heart. its horrible!