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25 weeks and now strict bedrest
I was so hoping for good news today when I had my appts!! I had one appt. to measure the length of my cervix because last week I had some spotting and it started funneling and softening. 5 weeks ago, my cervix length was
8.5 cm and today it is 3.5cm. Apparently that is a big drop in a short amount of time and for only being 25 weeks. I am also starting to dilate and I'm 50% effaced already. Sheesh!! I really feel fine...I do, but apparently my body is changing so quickly this time around. I asked my midwife to double check things because I wanted a second opinion and she completely agrees with the other midwife and OB.
With my second pregnancy I didn't start dilating until I was 28 weeks. My goal is to make it to June 9th to deliver with my midwife (my due date is July 7th) otherwise, if anything happens before June 9th, I will be going to a hospital and my midwife has no authority there. :( I'm not really feeling lots of contractions, but in order to be dilating and effacing you need contractions to help that, so my midwife thinks I am having them but just not feeling them all the time. When I do feel them, I do have pressure, but it only happens a few times a day.
I'm frustrated, depressed, and I have to neglect my son once again because of bedrest! I feel like a horrible mother. I hardly ever get to do anything with him. This happened with my 2nd pregnancy and everyone else had to take care of him. And when my second son arrived and was so sick, I hardly did anything with Jeremiah again. He is my son, I want to take care of him. =( UGH and to top it all off and make my day even better, our township keeps harassing us about the fact that we buried our son, my 10 month old son who died of a rare liver disease might I add, on our beautiful 6 acre property even though there are no laws forbidding it. Sure, keep harassing us...they even wrote a story about us in the paper today, only telling their side of the story and putting our address out there for the world to know. THANKS!! My husband will be contacting them and giving his side of the story because it doesn't seem fair what they did and what they continue to do to us. We have not broken any laws and no one is complaining except a couple of people who are high up in the township. AHHHHH.
Anyway, I am trying to stay positive (I know I don't sound very positive right now) but I just need to make it another 11 weeks! I just want a healthy baby this time, so I will do whatever it takes! Thanks for listening to me rant.
8.5 cm and today it is 3.5cm. Apparently that is a big drop in a short amount of time and for only being 25 weeks. I am also starting to dilate and I'm 50% effaced already. Sheesh!! I really feel fine...I do, but apparently my body is changing so quickly this time around. I asked my midwife to double check things because I wanted a second opinion and she completely agrees with the other midwife and OB.
With my second pregnancy I didn't start dilating until I was 28 weeks. My goal is to make it to June 9th to deliver with my midwife (my due date is July 7th) otherwise, if anything happens before June 9th, I will be going to a hospital and my midwife has no authority there. :( I'm not really feeling lots of contractions, but in order to be dilating and effacing you need contractions to help that, so my midwife thinks I am having them but just not feeling them all the time. When I do feel them, I do have pressure, but it only happens a few times a day.
I'm frustrated, depressed, and I have to neglect my son once again because of bedrest! I feel like a horrible mother. I hardly ever get to do anything with him. This happened with my 2nd pregnancy and everyone else had to take care of him. And when my second son arrived and was so sick, I hardly did anything with Jeremiah again. He is my son, I want to take care of him. =( UGH and to top it all off and make my day even better, our township keeps harassing us about the fact that we buried our son, my 10 month old son who died of a rare liver disease might I add, on our beautiful 6 acre property even though there are no laws forbidding it. Sure, keep harassing us...they even wrote a story about us in the paper today, only telling their side of the story and putting our address out there for the world to know. THANKS!! My husband will be contacting them and giving his side of the story because it doesn't seem fair what they did and what they continue to do to us. We have not broken any laws and no one is complaining except a couple of people who are high up in the township. AHHHHH.
Anyway, I am trying to stay positive (I know I don't sound very positive right now) but I just need to make it another 11 weeks! I just want a healthy baby this time, so I will do whatever it takes! Thanks for listening to me rant.
I am so sorry. How terrible (to both). Sending prayers. I would love to see all of the nasty newsletters that this is going to generate, can you post the link? Hugs.
I am so sorry that these people are putting your family through so much after all you have already been through. I am also sorry to hear about the bedrest I will keep praying that she stays put till 36 weeks.
I am praying for you, Chantal, and your sweet baby girl. I am so sorry y'all have to go through so much stress all at once. I just can't imagine having to be on bed rest through all this township mess. Stay strong and know we're all here thinking of you and your family!
P.S. My husband's aunt had to be on bed rest through 7 months of her 2nd pregnancy and her first son was only 2 years old. The rest of the family had to help out watching him and I know it wasn't easy for her to not be able to take care of her baby, either. Do NOT feel guilty or feel like a bad mom because you can't be as active right now with your son. He won't hold a grudge and he knows how much you love him. :-)
P.S. My husband's aunt had to be on bed rest through 7 months of her 2nd pregnancy and her first son was only 2 years old. The rest of the family had to help out watching him and I know it wasn't easy for her to not be able to take care of her baby, either. Do NOT feel guilty or feel like a bad mom because you can't be as active right now with your son. He won't hold a grudge and he knows how much you love him. :-)
Chantal , I am so sorry for you and your husband and your family...I read the article online and I want to fly there and smack the h*ll out of the township folks! Just madness. I know it is easier said than done, but try not to let it stress you out too much. Your precious little baby girl (yay congrats) needs to stay tucked inside for a little while longer! I am praying for you guys!
Big Hugz
PS! Don't be trying to run anywhere! Sit your behind down! :-)
Big Hugz
PS! Don't be trying to run anywhere! Sit your behind down! :-)
Oh Chantal!!! No running anywhere!!! And did you say SHE?? Did you find out the sex?? I must have missed that. I could swear that you guys always waited. If you are having a girl, I am so super happy for you. Well, I am happy for you anyway. LOL! I just have 5 girls and think they are so much fun :)
Yea I definitely hope this little one stays put!! I keep talking telling her to stay put until 36 weeks and that she needs to obey mommy. lol :) When I go for my next appt., I will see if I can talk to the OB and find out about progesterone shots or a cerclage for future pregnancies. I'd like to think it wouldn't happen again, but it seems like if it happens once, more than likely it may happen again and again.
Yea, the township stuff is crazy. Part of it is financial issues on our end, but part of it is that it's our right to do what we did. We did not break any laws and the township knows that. If they had something put in place for future burials after we already buried our child, it doesn't mean they can now harass us for money, they have no right. Personally, to give them the money, is basically saying we agree with what they are doing. I don't think my husband is giving up that easily. He wants to take a stand and fight for what is right and the township can't do anything about it in the end. We pay our taxes, we plan on keeping his grave site beautiful every year, and hopefully attaching it to the deed so it will forever be a burial site, and we have it marked and have a temporary head stone until we finish making and carving our own to be placed there permanently. I am so tempted to run over to the township building and give them a piece of my mind...
Yea, the township stuff is crazy. Part of it is financial issues on our end, but part of it is that it's our right to do what we did. We did not break any laws and the township knows that. If they had something put in place for future burials after we already buried our child, it doesn't mean they can now harass us for money, they have no right. Personally, to give them the money, is basically saying we agree with what they are doing. I don't think my husband is giving up that easily. He wants to take a stand and fight for what is right and the township can't do anything about it in the end. We pay our taxes, we plan on keeping his grave site beautiful every year, and hopefully attaching it to the deed so it will forever be a burial site, and we have it marked and have a temporary head stone until we finish making and carving our own to be placed there permanently. I am so tempted to run over to the township building and give them a piece of my mind...
Nicole! Ha ha! Well, I am on fb, but I don't use it like ever!! I've only got like 4 friends on there and 2 of them are soap stars. LOL! I'm such a dork!
Michele I didn't know your on fb! You turkey!
Chantal I think the only negative comments are from people who don't have all the facts. I hope they show your side of the story and set it straight. Its scary to think things like this can happen. I hope I'm never the subject of a half researched story on the news. Good luck tomorrow!
Chantal I think the only negative comments are from people who don't have all the facts. I hope they show your side of the story and set it straight. Its scary to think things like this can happen. I hope I'm never the subject of a half researched story on the news. Good luck tomorrow!
Gosh Chantal, I am so sorry. I just cannot believe all of this is happening at one time.
As far as your cervix situation...I wish I could say I was surprised, but I kind of figured history would repeat itself :( I have a cousin that had like a spastic uterus or something. I don't know the exact medical term but she had to be on bed rest for her entire pregnancies. She had 4 full term and 1 she lost at around 5 months. She couldn't do anything but get up to bathe and use the restroom for her entire pregnancies. Man, I would go crazy!!! Next time around, I really hope they can put the stitch in your cervix and I think you will have a lot less problems. For now, I will continue to pray that this little sweet baby stays put until it is safe for he/she to come into this world.
As for the township...OMGosh!!! How can they be so cruel?? I don't understand why they care that your baby is buried on YOUR property anyway. It just doesn't make any sense at all. I will look on FB and see what link Nic is talking about. It is just crazy to me and I am so glad that your husband is getting to tell your side. Although, you shouldn't need a side to bury your son where you want to bury him...on YOUR property!!!
Just know we are all here and praying for you and your family. You are always in my thoughts...
As far as your cervix situation...I wish I could say I was surprised, but I kind of figured history would repeat itself :( I have a cousin that had like a spastic uterus or something. I don't know the exact medical term but she had to be on bed rest for her entire pregnancies. She had 4 full term and 1 she lost at around 5 months. She couldn't do anything but get up to bathe and use the restroom for her entire pregnancies. Man, I would go crazy!!! Next time around, I really hope they can put the stitch in your cervix and I think you will have a lot less problems. For now, I will continue to pray that this little sweet baby stays put until it is safe for he/she to come into this world.
As for the township...OMGosh!!! How can they be so cruel?? I don't understand why they care that your baby is buried on YOUR property anyway. It just doesn't make any sense at all. I will look on FB and see what link Nic is talking about. It is just crazy to me and I am so glad that your husband is getting to tell your side. Although, you shouldn't need a side to bury your son where you want to bury him...on YOUR property!!!
Just know we are all here and praying for you and your family. You are always in my thoughts...
Tabitha, I hope so too!
Joy, I know...what a day! seriously!! I pretty much cried the whole way home from the last appt. We seriously cannot have a normal life! But yea, the bedrest will be for 11 weeks and I am praying baby stays put until then!!! I am trying not to stress so much, because I know it's good right now for the baby or me.
Hubby will be getting interviewed tomorrow thankfully! And I believe he wants to call a few other news reporters about it. So there will be another side to this story. There are so many comments now on the one news report and so far just about everyone who has commented fully supports our decision and thinks the township needs to back off. I suppose if they don't stop, we will need a petition. I will be sure to keep you all posted on that! I already have a ton of people behind us on this, and I honestly don't think the township will stand a chance.
Joy, I know...what a day! seriously!! I pretty much cried the whole way home from the last appt. We seriously cannot have a normal life! But yea, the bedrest will be for 11 weeks and I am praying baby stays put until then!!! I am trying not to stress so much, because I know it's good right now for the baby or me.
Hubby will be getting interviewed tomorrow thankfully! And I believe he wants to call a few other news reporters about it. So there will be another side to this story. There are so many comments now on the one news report and so far just about everyone who has commented fully supports our decision and thinks the township needs to back off. I suppose if they don't stop, we will need a petition. I will be sure to keep you all posted on that! I already have a ton of people behind us on this, and I honestly don't think the township will stand a chance.
I have an idea - can you and your husband release a statement to some of the news stations and media?
I knew about the latter stuff (the township stuff) but I had no idea about the bedrest. Oh Chantal I just cannot believe all of this is happening and all at once! I read the articles and these people are just wicked and have it so twisted it is disgusting. I'm so so so sorry!!! Please let us know how we can help, petition, etc.
I just seen the news footage:( I hope this gets resolved soon. Maybe your DH get your story out will help. Have you thought about a petition??
Wow...they had a video on our local news....they taped our house and explained their side of this and said we refused to go on camera which is totally not true!! Now thousands of people know where my house is! It's getting out of control now.
Thanks girls. It's just Jeremiah is always on the go and I can't keep getting up to get things, so hubby and I are going to sit down tonight and try to figure something out. He is still at his grandparents right now, so we will figure it out.
I didn't have any monitoring yet, but I do go back in 2 weeks to re-check my cervix and see if anything further needs to be done. As of right now, no medications and I am trying to avoid them, but I know I have to do what's best for baby at this point. We will see. I will probably get checked every couple of weeks from here on out. Last time I was on medication to slow the contractions, so if the contractions pick up, I'm sure I will have to go on something again.
As for the articles, it's ridiculous. My husband will be taking action and taking this further. We don't plan on paying anything at this point, we will continue to fight until it's resolved. There is no law stating that what we did was wrong. It's only NOW that they want to make a law about it...but they can't force it on us, because it's done already. They are saying there is a fee for this, but really it's a fine, not a "fee". It really s ucks big time. Like I don't cry enough about losing my boy and this has to be in our face all the time now. My husband will be giving his side of the story so it can be printed. It's so one-sided right now and they are lying about certain things. UGH!!
I didn't have any monitoring yet, but I do go back in 2 weeks to re-check my cervix and see if anything further needs to be done. As of right now, no medications and I am trying to avoid them, but I know I have to do what's best for baby at this point. We will see. I will probably get checked every couple of weeks from here on out. Last time I was on medication to slow the contractions, so if the contractions pick up, I'm sure I will have to go on something again.
As for the articles, it's ridiculous. My husband will be taking action and taking this further. We don't plan on paying anything at this point, we will continue to fight until it's resolved. There is no law stating that what we did was wrong. It's only NOW that they want to make a law about it...but they can't force it on us, because it's done already. They are saying there is a fee for this, but really it's a fine, not a "fee". It really s ucks big time. Like I don't cry enough about losing my boy and this has to be in our face all the time now. My husband will be giving his side of the story so it can be printed. It's so one-sided right now and they are lying about certain things. UGH!!
Oh Chantal, I'm so sorry you're going through all this! What a day you're having. :-(
Will you be on any medications for the preterm labor while you're on bedrest? Just curious; I was on Procardia...but only for three weeks. I'll be praying for you because I know first hand how difficult this is. I went through all the same emotions while I was on bed rest, and for me it wasn't nearly as long as what you're going to have to go through. But knowing how serious the situation can get (I was hospitalized three times and put on magnesium sulfate twice), I'll be saying extra prayers for you!
I hope the situation with the township can get resolved in your favor. What a bunch of insensitive jerks--it seems they're just out to make a few bucks off of you guys with a zoning application or whatever they labelled it. I can't believe that! As if everything you've gone through wasn't difficult and heartbreaking enough, and now they just can't leave you all alone and let your sweet baby rest in peace. I'm so sorry. I hope this all works out in your favor.
Hugs to you ♥
Will you be on any medications for the preterm labor while you're on bedrest? Just curious; I was on Procardia...but only for three weeks. I'll be praying for you because I know first hand how difficult this is. I went through all the same emotions while I was on bed rest, and for me it wasn't nearly as long as what you're going to have to go through. But knowing how serious the situation can get (I was hospitalized three times and put on magnesium sulfate twice), I'll be saying extra prayers for you!
I hope the situation with the township can get resolved in your favor. What a bunch of insensitive jerks--it seems they're just out to make a few bucks off of you guys with a zoning application or whatever they labelled it. I can't believe that! As if everything you've gone through wasn't difficult and heartbreaking enough, and now they just can't leave you all alone and let your sweet baby rest in peace. I'm so sorry. I hope this all works out in your favor.
Hugs to you ♥
Double s*ck! I can't believe they are giving you a hard time about where you burried your son. Also Jeremiah is young enough that he isn't going to hold a grudge against you for being on bedrest. It's a great opportunity for you guys to catch up on the latest Disney movies.
So with the contractions did you ask them about doing any home monitoring or taking medications to stop the contractions. You must be having them. Did they put you on a monitor at the drs office? Also whats the plan from here? Will they keep measuring your cervix every few weeks?
I really feel like the home monitor and medications helped us get to 35 weeks last time there has to be something they can do for you.
Back to the newspaper thing, you know an army of people who support you. Have you thought about putting it up on FB? I imagine some of your family and friends will lose it on that editor for printing such a one sided story.
So with the contractions did you ask them about doing any home monitoring or taking medications to stop the contractions. You must be having them. Did they put you on a monitor at the drs office? Also whats the plan from here? Will they keep measuring your cervix every few weeks?
I really feel like the home monitor and medications helped us get to 35 weeks last time there has to be something they can do for you.
Back to the newspaper thing, you know an army of people who support you. Have you thought about putting it up on FB? I imagine some of your family and friends will lose it on that editor for printing such a one sided story.
oh Chantal I am soooooo sorry:( Nothing seems to be going right for you:( I am sure Jeremiah will be fine with out so much physical interaction from you. Nothing is stoppping you from being there emotionaly right? You have such a great support system, here on MH and at home, I know you'll do fine:) As for those pesky neighbors.......................we need to make a huge fly swater:))
Hugs!
Hugs!
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