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baby showers
My mother in law is pushing me to have a baby shower, because this is her first grand baby. I am only 14 weeks pregnant, and honestly I don’t like to have a baby shower, I don’t like to people touch my belly.i am due in Feb of 2012, honestly I hate baby showers but I have no idea what should I do with my Mother in law, I told her that I don’t want any showers, and she is saying no u are going to get one. What should I do? thanks
Thanks ladies for all your responses. After reading them, I think I am going to tell her ok I will do it ,but should be on my way, not when I am 9 month pregnant or after the baby is born (because she wants to do that). I am going to say the only time that is good for me when I am 7-8 month. :)
Even if you don't want a baby shower per se, you can let her know that you would prefer something like maybe just a backyard bbq or something.
Truth is, if nobody offers to throw you a shower, it feels worse than if someone does, no matter what her reason. Try to get over it, the ladies at a shower are always so nice and amused and supportive that it overcomes any issues between you and the person who threw the party.
My sister held an evening event rather early in my pregnancy for me, my sisters and mother only, which was deliberately so intimate that I didn't think of asking to add anyone less close to the group. What wound up as my only baby shower was thrown by my neighbor, and she didn't want to invite anyone besides women who live on our street. (She was even shocked when I suggested we invite a woman who lives about a half mile away.) As a result, my sisters-in-law never got invited to any shower (for their brother's first baby). I would have pushed for them to get invited to the neighbors-only event if I had known that was it, but by the time it became clear that nobody else was going to offer, unless I wanted to throw myself a shower, there was nothing to be done. I think to this day, they feel like they were deliberately excluded.
Point is, though it happened mostly because my best friends don't live in the town where I live, I did wind up feeling kind of alone when no unexpected friend popped out of the woodwork and offered to host a shower. Be glad that your mother-in-law does want to, even if you think she has tainted motives. I would have taken tainted motives, if it could have gotten my sisters-in-law to a shower.
Good luck. It won't be so bad. :)
My sister held an evening event rather early in my pregnancy for me, my sisters and mother only, which was deliberately so intimate that I didn't think of asking to add anyone less close to the group. What wound up as my only baby shower was thrown by my neighbor, and she didn't want to invite anyone besides women who live on our street. (She was even shocked when I suggested we invite a woman who lives about a half mile away.) As a result, my sisters-in-law never got invited to any shower (for their brother's first baby). I would have pushed for them to get invited to the neighbors-only event if I had known that was it, but by the time it became clear that nobody else was going to offer, unless I wanted to throw myself a shower, there was nothing to be done. I think to this day, they feel like they were deliberately excluded.
Point is, though it happened mostly because my best friends don't live in the town where I live, I did wind up feeling kind of alone when no unexpected friend popped out of the woodwork and offered to host a shower. Be glad that your mother-in-law does want to, even if you think she has tainted motives. I would have taken tainted motives, if it could have gotten my sisters-in-law to a shower.
Good luck. It won't be so bad. :)
Well my baby shower is more like a revenge , because 10 years ago my mother in law throw a baby shower for her friend’s daughter , then she told her now it is her turned to give her a favorite and give her daughter in law a shower. she told me i want to get back all those gifts and present that i am been giving these people in the past few years for their baby shower and ect .
So tell her that because it's for you, you'd like to have some input on it. She sounds excited, but it shouldn't be a miserable day for you either. Try talking to her about it. IF she still refuses, tell her you appreciate the thought but you will not be showing up.
Maybe its all because I hate those decision that my mother in law is making for me, she is too pushing and so demanding
Honestly....just be grateful someone wants to do something special for you.
Just from piecing together bits and pieces of what you've said here and there you seem to have a bit of pregnancy depression...which is normal and understandable, but shouldn't be ignored.
You can tell your mother-in-law that you will have the baby shower if at least a few of your friends or family can attend...after all, it's YOUR shower.
And you CAN refuse. it's your right. you just won't show up. But..like I said...I would worry that you're so completely against someone doing something nice and celebrating this baby...at least someone loves you enough to do this, and is this excited about your baby!
Just from piecing together bits and pieces of what you've said here and there you seem to have a bit of pregnancy depression...which is normal and understandable, but shouldn't be ignored.
You can tell your mother-in-law that you will have the baby shower if at least a few of your friends or family can attend...after all, it's YOUR shower.
And you CAN refuse. it's your right. you just won't show up. But..like I said...I would worry that you're so completely against someone doing something nice and celebrating this baby...at least someone loves you enough to do this, and is this excited about your baby!
Has someone ever told you they last all day? In my experience, they don't. My shower lasted a max of 2 hours, if even that. It was a joint shower for my sister and I as well. No one touched me either, but I could care less about that personally. It was family and friends.
Is there something about baby showers that you hate?
Is there something about baby showers that you hate?
If you want to be really challenging, tell her that if she does it that way, you simply won't come. But if you want to be nice about it, ask her to just be sure to invite your mother and your sister (in other words, whomever is your closest female relative). Or tell her that if she does not invite them, you will. Showers aren't so bad, especially if they drop the silly shower games and the gals just chat. Register at Babies R Us and you'll be sure to get what you want.
ps -- Nobody touched my stomach at my shower.
ps -- Nobody touched my stomach at my shower.
Well it would he your baby shower and you can invite your side of the family and friends. Baby showers aren't really about you though and its kinda one of those days you just have to go along with. Its a celebration of life coming and its a way for friends and family to help you prepare for baby. You can casually mention thar you don't want anyone to touch your belly.
its all about her side of family and her friends, those are going to be the only one be invited. noone from my side, only her's
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