SO SO SO IRRITATED

[a_babby]

As I have said before, I'm not with my baby daddy. I had the courtesy to tell him I had a new boyfriend and I even offered to let them meet, just out of respect. Today I find out he has a new girlfriend, is living with her, doesn't want us to meet, AND she doesn't even know he's going to be a father! Is it me or is this just wrong?

[Hannat06]

I Wouldn't Stress It. Unless The Baby Is Coming In The Next Few Weeks. Things Could Change And No Need To Get All Worked Up Over It Right Now.

[a_babby]

His bestfriend messaged me this morning asking if it was his, I said yes and he was like well he's going around telling everyone its not. Which just set me off. He was man enough to have sex with me unprotected he can be man enough to accept that hes going to be a father and just be there and help. Its not like I'm asking for much...

[Tay9662]

:) best thing to do is keep all This like make notes and dates, so if he fry's for custody or anything so you can show the courts your willing to make it work but he's being a **** and messing around bring women in his home you don't know and you don't want your kid around strange people. You don't owe him anything mine as well just pretend he doesn't exsist until pregnancy is over so you don't have the stress

[a_babby]

He won't tell me who it is! And has me blocked on fb.. its like he doesn't wabt her to find out and leave him because thats all he cares about

[mamaof4410]

That definitly would be an issue with me. If he won't set up the meeting I would try to contact her myself. Women tend to be alot calmer when they talk without the guy there. Explain the situation to her anf explain the conern that you haf about the baby staying and you not knowing her. If she's got a piece of maternal instinct in her she will get it. Just remember you don't know what he has told her about you and she might come off defensive but stay calm for the sake of your baby and be civil. Hopefully she's not some 18yr old with her thumb stuck up her a** and she understands. If she is willing to meet up just keep it direct and to the point.  So your comfy with her and vice versa keep the communication line open. I would never let my kids be with someone I didn't know and he should take that into consideration.

[a_babby]

Thanks ill deff be doing that soon

[Tay9662]

sweetie you don't have to let him have the baby at all until she's 6 months(all you have to do is give him 2 Saturday visits a month and he has to come to you, and will still have to pay child support), at 6 months they get the child every other Saturday for 6 hours and then baby has to be brought back to mom. Then at 1 year old the dad gets baby 2 Saturday visits for 6 hours and a overnight on one Saturday a month it changes to every other weekend when they turn 3. Its different if they try and get full custody but usually the courts wont take a child from its mom unless there proved unfit. Don't worry about it :) if you want call up a custody lawyer and talk about it or look up the laws in your state

[a_babby]

See thank you, I didn't know if I was being like too bitchy, my boyfriend and him work in the same bulding and my boyfriend sees him everyday flirting with many other girls too, which only bothers me because I feel like he's going to have a bunch of girls at his house taking care of my child, and I dont like that idea at all. Just wanted an outside opinion to make sure I wasn't being to over dramatic

[Kate037]

I would definitaly have an issue with that. You don't know her or what kind of person she is. Yeah that would upset me. If I  were in your position I would refuse overnights until she you met her. Its one thing to be with dad and a stranger for a couple hours, but for a whole night no way. I am wondering  how he's gonna pull this off if he doesn't tell her about the baby and.then all of the sudden he's like oh this is my child. I dunno. Id want to meet her too

[a_babby]

See that's my problem though, he expects me to let him take the baby over night and stuff when he/she is born but I really don't want some random girl around my child!

[StacyAl]

I wouldn't really care about him or his girlfriend. If he isn't gonna let you meet her, don't let him meet your boyfriend.