Sex in the final weeks..tmi?

[Babsi68]

Ok despite the fact that I have a 1 1/2 year old and another baby arriving soon (I'm 38+1) I'm not a very sexual person. My sex drive has gone severely down since right before we found out I was pregnant the first time. But of course, my boyfriend is a typical man, who is in the mood every single moment of the day basically and, before we got together (almost 5 years ago) was used to getting it at least once a day but most of the time more than once a day. I'm what you might call "vanilla" when it comes to sex lately, I just am so tired I just want to get it over with and I want to finish because it feels better than going thru it all and not finishing. Here's my problem: I can only finish in the basic position. I have tried me on top, on my side, "doggy style", in a chair, against the wall, you name it we've tried it! And me on my back is the only way for me to get it done. Being as big as I am now, that is physically impossible! Not to mention, from being so uncomfortable and running after a toddler all day, I just want to attempt to sleep!!! But he's asking for it and I feel bad saying no every single time but it just doesn't feel good for me right now and idk what to do!

Anyone have advice? Should I just suck up the fact that it makes me more uncomfortable just because he wants it? Idk any other positions to try for me to enjoy it...any one out there have tips?

[babynumber3in2013]

I'm not a very sexual person either (pregnant or not) and if it was up to my husband we would have sex multiple times a day! But about 5 months ago we bought a "bullet" and it is the best thing EVER! Seriously, I can ALWAYS get off and I love it lol. So you would be able to you it while on your side of what ever but I'm not sure about doggy style or you on top. But I highly suggest one! Also you could try "hand jobs". When I REALLY just do not feel like it, that's what I do... sorry for any tmi lol

[Babsi68]

He doesn't get anywhere from hand or mouth assistance it just feels good to him lol so that's basically pointless I'd be there until I go into labor lol I have tried that for him and it just doesn't work, he's weird haha. I just worry that ok, I've got 2 weeks left of this and then 6-8 weeks after baby but its already been about 2 weeks since we did anything, what if he gets so frustrated he goes somewhere else? He's never cheated before and I really don't think he would but it crosses my mind. And this whole pregnancy has basically been about me and how I'm feeling and everyone when we go somewhere is talking to me about it and kinda ignoring him and so I feel bad. I just don't think I can stand another 3 day recovery from having sex lol

[vro1991]

Honestly when i get that way, i don't even worry about me getting off. I give him some mouth and hand assistance and tell him he can stick it in when he is about ready to go lmao. Of course now he cant to that because I'm on strict bed and pelvic rest, and my sex drive has went way up in the last week but I'm not allowed :( so maybe try that? I would offer to let him finish in my mouth, but when I'm pregnant the thought makes me vomit because I'm like (okay my baby is getting this too, yuk). Ugh everything is so complicated when pregnant!

[Babsi68]

See that's just it, I don't really have a high sex drive when I'm not pregnant either and still when I'm not pregnant I can't finish in any way other than on my back. Lol I've been telling him no for a while and I gave it about a week ago and was on my side the whole time and it took 3 days for my body not to hurt afterwards so this time I explained it to him. I tell him how uncomfortable I am and how it just doesn't do anything other than make me hurt anymore so I can't just do it whenever. And the suggestion about him standing at the edge of the bed, our bed is basically on the floor and he's knelt down an tried it but that's one that hurts him more than me and I end up rocking back and forth so much that I start to get nauseas lol.

[mannequin]

I am the opposite right now, lol but I've had no problem telling my boyfriend no in the past. You're body is going through a lot, I'm sure he could understand your lack of sexual desire?

[2ndbaby77]

I find no pleasure in sex this last month or so. (37+4) . Do my boyfriend didn't get any for a while. I felt bad so I gave in the other night and the only way we can do it where it doesn't hurt me Is doggy style. I don'teven try to get off cuz I have no sex drive what so ever.

[aubree92]

I ment belly and all lol

[aubree92]

I was like that wen i was pregnat with my daughter i only liked being on my back with sex but the bally and all so wat we did he would stand at the edge of the bed so he could hold him self just above me and i would of course be on my back and have my legs wraped around his waste so that way they wernt hanging off the side .... lol i hope this helps good luck :)

[mrsreeder2be]

Lol you are nicer than me.... I told my SO no for the past month. I'm too tired and sore.. lol. I'm pregnant with number four!  Lol