help please should i bring my sister to my scan aswell as my bf ?

[flutterbies]

My sister's quite young and unfortunately had to have a hysterectomy earlier this year ans unfortunately she has no kids ans will not be able to have any biologically of her own....so I know she will never get to experience this but I'm in the middle as to what I want and what I should do....she expects to come to both scans but my bf disagrees strongly it's our first child and views it as a special moment in our life's and we shouldn't have to share it with anyone regardless of her situation ...ladies please help would would you do ?

[CareyMc]

It sounds like he's being really mean about it. I mean, why wouldn't he be ok with her coming along to the 2nd one? That's so sad and my heart is just hurting for your sister...Especially since it's not your true decision to exclude her. I hope she is understanding of his mindset and doesn't become bitter towards you all.

[MommaAce]

I would take my bf if it's the first scan if it's y'all first time seein the bby. I'on think it's selfish, it's his bby & he has a right to want to enjoy tht special moment with you. Idk bout anybody else, but it was very emotional for me & I shared tht emotion with my bf. Yo sis should jst go to the second one, then she'll be able to see bby more detailed but I'm pretty sure you're gonna find out the sex & I jst think yo bf should be there to find out & not have to wait til' you call or go home for you to tell him.

[lilly_0427]

I think u should take your sister, ur bf will have the baby all the time, she will never feel that feeling....afterall it is ur sister...I would most definitely take her...ur bf should understand, I would take him to the other ones, but its a moment that she would love to feel & I agree with sammiemarie, ur bf is being a bit selfish....just an opinion

[klarcom]

I was able to have my husband, mom, and nephew in my 19 week scan. Maybe check with your dr office.  :-)

[Galvez]

i agree with lexi 915 y dont u get those out of the clinic ones u can have as many ppl as u wan. I understand both sides but like u said she will never understand wat it will feel like to be a mom and be able to see n feel a baby inside her so the closest thing she has thats still her blood is u. I know its u n ure bf first child but be grateful u can bear a child and have more if ud like. I would just really talk with my bf n try to get him to understand im not saying dont take him but if u explain ure situation to the doc they might be leniant n let the both of them see. Im just saying its my opinion to try to please both

[Dlacey]

I think you should bring your sister. I never heard of the one person rule in a scan room

[shyloveskai]

Bring your sister to the scan! He can be the only one at the birth if you want or attend a different scan with you.

[sammymarie92]

I can take as many people in the room as well. Personally I think your bf is being rude. This is my first child and I had my mom and my bf in the room my very first scan bc it is a special moment and I wanted to share it with special people in my life. But that's just my opinion...you do whatever you feel is right!

[rebecca_sasser]

Ive always been able to take as many people as i wanted in my room..id take the bf because i understand his wanting it to be special.....

[stinaann93]

Take her to the second one, she will understand. My husband finds the appointments personal but he can come unless its avalible one certain day of the week. I say take him to the first one and to theone wwhere you find out the sex. And her to all the other ones

[cheeselover316]

Here in my clinic in TN USA. U can have 2 people . But I can't see y he wouldn't want her. All she's going to is look.Wat else. But like u said next Time. I hope it works out. Sister love is strong .

[Mommy24721]

I had my older brother nd my kids dad in the room the first scan then the second third nd fourth the father was with me nd my fifth i was alone nd my sixth my mom was the only one with me nd that was on her birthday nd we found out its a boy that day as well :) my mom was thrilled best birthday present ever lol

[lexi915]

I could have as many people as I wanted at my scan with me so I'm not sure about the one person only rule never heard of that before but if all else fails you can always get your own scan different places offer them prices range from about 35 to $100 depending on how fancy you want them it would be nice because you can invite I believe up to 12 people

[wyrpamatz]

I think if it were me I would have my husband in there bc it would be our first baby and all. You can still involve your sister in other baby things as well.

[flutterbies]

My first scans on thursday so I think it will remain just for me and my boyfriend and at my 20week I hope we can both agree to letting her come with us as I know she was deeply hurt when I told her she couldn't come to the first scan ....hand on my heart I know if roles were reversed she would let me come ....thanks everybody it's nice getting an outsiders perspective it's really helped! X

[OurBabyDerp]

Personally i would make the compromise of taking just your boyfriend to the first scan and seeing about having them both at the second. I can't say i understand it can be tough for her, but it's yours and your boyfriends baby and as it's your first and the first scan you two should be the first ones to see your child. Just make sure your sister feels as involved as you feel comfortable letting her be. That's just my opinion though (:

[MeganHayden]

I could have as many as I want in my room. Go with what your heart tells you.

[secondtimemumtobe100]

I was only allowed one in my scans

[KDQ]

I would bring here. Every clinic is diffrent also as to how many people can come in the room. I've had both my mom and my hubby come with me with no problems. There will be a ton of first that just you and your bf will experience with baby. Your sister can only be there for some and this is a rare chance for her. She has had enough taken from her this year. Try to put yourself in her shoes.

[Leximama93]

I've never heard of the one person in the room rule but if that's the case then I personally think it should be your boyfriend. That baby is just as much his as it is yours and he has claim to it before your sister. Family was allowed in at my 20 week scan so maybe let her come to that one only so they can both get what they want.
I think it's a great thing that you want to share it with your sister because she won't get to experience it, but don't forget to let it be a special time for you and your boyfriend because its going to be the two of you making this new family.

[flutterbies]

Yeah I think I will bring her to the second scan, as we only have two scans and it's the only compromise I can think of ....I can see it from both sides of the coin to be honest I mean it's half his baby too so I can't expect him to give up his right to be at the scan but I think well just have to compromise , thanks ladies x

[matteosmommy]

I understand I have kinda the same problem I want myother to be there while I give birth but he has the " its our first child its our special moment" mentality lol. If it will cause that huge of a fight between you 2 then maybe bring her to one apt instead of 2 so u both compromise but if not just explain how you feel hell ! Hell have enough special moments with the baby its just the beginning :)

[secondtimemumtobe100]

u can only have one person in ur scans hun if I was you I wud take ur sister not bein funny ur bf will never no the feelin off bein a mum I think ur sister wud be over the moon to be there wit you

[vrh123]

thats youur sister,
she was there way before he was.
let her be a part of youur babies lifee.
she will never experience this herself.
a sister will always be a best friend, whether youu have nobody else.