frustrated

[mommyof2nowtp]

My mom has custody of my 12 year old niece. Her dad, my brother,is currently in jail going to prison. My niece is getting out of control. She will hurt my daughter deliberately with doors and say she didn't mean to. My daughter is 6. She talks terrible to my mom, ignores her, won't share, talks to boys.  My mother has rheumatoid arthritis and has a hard time herself but yet is still working caring for my niece and does all that she can with a heart of gold. She doesn't know how to discipline or know how to say no or take things away. I started crying tonight because I noticed the back leather seat of my jeep was drew all over with pen. She admitted she did it and was just snotty and ignored my mom and said she didn't care. Idk what to do its like she angry and is trying to hurt me and my daughter or take it out on us and I feel it's just going to get worse

[laur23]

I'm sorry but She's not 5 years old acting out.  She's 12, and knows exactly what She's doing.  It's one thing to have a smart mouth and be talking to boys but She's acting like a damn baby drawing on your stuff and harming your daughter is just a whole other level of issues...   She knows exactly what She's doing and there's absolutely no excuse for it.

[janellemassy]

If u dnt feel comfortable spanking her or feel tht giving her extra attention will help take things away from her. Like if she has a tv, a game system of any kind, or computer. If u put things where she cant get them she will have no choice but to do what u say to get it back. Take away her outside time or whatever will get her attention. And dont give in! U have the athority to do so and i doubt tht ur mom will care if u try to diciplin her if she is being a brat. Whoever told her tht u cannot diciplin her is clearly not there anymore.

[mw89]

Yes but she also sounds like a total snot that would call the police and say that she is being abused by her aunt if she gets spanked too.
come on guys its 2015 you know we dont have as many rights as parents as we use to. Its considered like child abuse  if we spank too hard or too many times.
she does deserve a good ole *** whooping with a switch though!

[meekie15]

all that "love on her "etc. sounds good but in reality she sounds like a little snot who doesnt have any respect for anyone. discipline amd teaching her right from wrong is love too.

[meekie15]

the devil is a liar. not everyone agrees on spankng as discipline how ever i do. pop her one Good time  and she will know ur serious and you mean business. its def. ur place when shes terrorizing your child. and tell her in a stern voice disrespect to ANY ADULT will not be tolerated

[mw89]

Take her out on  a one on one outing that may get her to turn things around and talk to yoy

[babyhalestorm]

This child needs the love she is not getting from anyone else, no one is there to love her like a father/mother should, discipline will only push her further away! You can not fix this child by sending her away or hurting her more, as an auntie you need to love her, hug her, let her know she's needed and wanted.

[mommyof2nowtp]

What would be the appropriate thing to say? I've said something before and she yells "I didn't do it god!" And starts crying or gets a really bad attitude

[logansmommy0731]

You need to defend your daughter. Dont let ANYONE harm her especially the niece. She needs discipline or she will get way outta hand

[mommyof2nowtp]

The thing is as she was growing up even though I'm her aunt she was taught that it's not my place to discipline her. I can't do anything even when she is hurting my daughter

[meekie15]

i would simply sit her down and talk to her. if that doesn't work spank her. its not okay to be disrespectful bc shes "going thru something"

[MommyOfTwoBoys05]

girl im sorry but seek for social services put her in a group home she will learn one way or another to respect others... i sure did wen i was there it wasnt fun but i learned

[onebabygirl4me]

It sounds like she's having a hard time .. her dad's not around her mom's not around.. she sees that your daughter still has u and is probably resentful towards her so she hurts her.. it sound like this girl would benefit from thereby before and it will get worse. She's doing most of this bad stiff for attention and she's probably hurting really bad inside and lonely (talking to boys for attention from men she no longer has father around) I would definitely take her to get some therapy before it's too late.. good luck it's not your fault or yiur mothers no matter what happens.