possible to get baby on a sleeping schedule?

[bethshahan]

I was told you shouldnt put a newborn on a feeding/sleeping schedule, is that true? If it isnt true how do you help them? My baby is definitely confused with day and night. Shes almost 3 weeks and seems to sleep more during the day and less during the night. She was up until 3 o'clock in the morning. Does anyone know anything that will help me or do I just have to deal with it?

[kennimae]

I feel you with the whole breastfeeding thing. Honestly the only way I got sleep is co sleeping but its not for everyone. Eventually I could latch baby on and fall asleep before she was even done.

[Galvez]

beth if ure bf ure baby will get on a schedule by herself ull see with time she will  even get to the point were she wakes up more in the day n only wakes up like 2xs a night or even once a night to nurse but all with time dont worry hun she will do it by herself

[bethshahan]

Thanks ladies! I think I'll just wait it out. I think I'm just going crazy because I'm breastfeeding so I get little or no help at night since my boyfriend cant really feed her and I dont like waking him since he works monday-friday. So I'm pretty much alone with her during the night and it may be making me go insane! Thanks for everyone's input and information.

[jodi81]

Try reading the book "baby wise" by Gary ezzo & Robert nickname m.d. its amazing and its all about giving your infant the gift of nighttime sleep. If you wanna wait until they are older try reading " healthy sleep habits happy child " by Marc weissbluth m.d. I read both and just loved them so helpful and both my kids are sleeping 12 hours thru the night. There are tons of benefits for your child and you to have them sleeping good. Hope this helps. You can order them on Amazon for a great price.

[LadyBeeley]

Personally, I would NOT ever put a baby on a schedule. But its a very close topic to me. My biological mom had noooo problem making me sit there and whine and cry to be fed until it was convenient for her.  And that eventually became her mindset when I got older. If she didnt want to feed me breakfast til she was done with this or that then I was s*** outta luck til lunch, between lunch and dinner or dinner. It became easy for her to ignore the fact she was depriving her child of food bc if she could put off a screaming infant, why couldnt she do it to a toddler? Theres a reason the state took us away. My therapist also said she believes it contributed to my weight problem now. Humans arent meant to eat on a schedule,  we are meant to refill our nutrients and energy when enough has been burned our body tells us we need more. Thats why smaller portions throughout the day are recommended. Granted my case as a baby was a very extreme one and I had i read this out of my case documents yeeeears later, I just felt I should give you insight from the other side. I doubt youd be like my mother, but since you asked if we recommend or not or if it should be done or not, I say the risk isnt worth it.

[kennimae]

I didn't really put my daughter on much of a schedule but followed hers instead. I think it was around 3 months she stayed up longer during the day. But every child is different along with your parenting styles (I.e. crying it out method, co sleeping, etc)

[K_Bmomma]

yeah newborns kinda make the rules for a bit, cant really tell them to go to bed or wait to eat till dinner time.. untill they are entertained with toys or tummy time just have to stick it out. i do try to feed my baby until he has enough in his tummy to be comfotable and play/ talk to him for a bit then fill him up and lay him down. doesnt last very long but he happy enough to stay awake and not so full he wants to sleep just yet. that helps a bit. good luck my son is just about 3 weeks old and having the same issue

[thepenguinsrock]

Its more a case of if a babies tired it will sleep you can't really do a lot with a newborn to keep it awake and its not like they understand bed time like an older child.  Also with a feeding schedule how can you make a newborn go without if its hungry? Its pretty much a case of waiting it out until baby can be entertained etc. My 1st son was born at midnight and never slept at night well until he was around 3months I was told its because he was born at night hes time was all messed up not sure how true that is though. Good luck :)