Telling Family

[Kelci0104]

So I'm really excited about my pregnancy, and so is my husband, but I'm a little nervous to tell my family. They weren't too happy about us getting married, and I haven't had much of a relationship with my mom since then (more than 1 yr). On to of that my sister just lost the baby she was expecting this next month in October. I an planning on letting my family know this week as it is a holiday, but I'm nervous about the reaction i might get. Should I be worried my sister might be jealous or upset? If there a better way to tell my family over another way? I love my family and I would think they'd be happy for me, but you never know.

[lish_marie]

on telling your family, i completely know your anxiousness. my family isnt a big fan of my boyfriend, and they are really over-protective. even though im 24, they all still see me as a kid..lol i figured the sooner the better. my mom was really excited. and so was my brother, who i thought would freak out..hes always been the super macho big brother...but its strange how the news of pregnancy effects people...he was really excited and has been super excited to get involved. my family took the news way better than i thought they would, hope things go as well for you..best of luck :)

[Kelci0104]

Thank you all. I took your advice and I let her know ahead of time. I think it was really good for her to hear it that way. At first she seemed a bit upset (she also seems like she's sick or tired so she may not have been upset) but then I called her back a couple of hours later and she seemed a bit more happy about it. I'm getting really anxious to tell my family!

[JaneRae]

We lost our son during birth at 39 weeks 3 days gestation. I always wonder why our son? But I have never felt jealous of others who got to bring their babies home. They didn't bring my son home. On our way out of the hospital with empty arms there were a couple of families bringing their little ones home. Life is cruel and unfair but its life. Don't feel guilty about a new life, ever.

[drlueckenotte]

Hey hun, so sorry about your sister, but congrats on your pregnancy.  Just a little take it or leave it advice, but you might want to tell your sister privately ahead of time rather than in front of a large group.  I'm sure she is still grieving over the loss of her little one, and it might be hard for her to hear your news without more feelings of pain and could be compounded worse in a situation where a lot of people are present.  I'm not saying that you must do this, but my husband and I went through seven years of infertility and I always appreciated my friends telling me privately to give me a bit of time to compose myself instead of finding out with everyone else and having to hide the pain I was feeling.  Good luck with your family! =)

[megan210792]

firstly I'm sorry about your sister. She will prob be jealous but she should think about your happiness its not hers or your fault that she lost her baby its just the way faith works. I was expecting back before Christmas and so was my sister I  law. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and my sister in law gave birth in the may it was hard and I was very jealous that I lost my baby but she still had hers and it hurt when she found out it was a boy and she did feel bad about still having her baby. But I was happy for her and my brother. Its only natural she will be jealous and upset but it wasn't your fault about her loss. Good luck and hope your family take it well and are happy for you

[lil_misss23]

Im sure they will be really happy to hear your news. I think you should let your sister hear it from you. It might be easier for her that way rather than hearing it through the grapevine. A baby brings families together. I hope you sort things with your mum. Im yet to tell anyone yet and im ten Weeks. I live 14 hours from my parents so I'll be telling them over the phone but I know they will be over the moon.