feeling lost, pregnancy vent

[maymommy147]

So I am 18, I had just turned 18 when I found out I was pregnant. At that point I was living in an student housing apartment in Denver and had just moved there from a small town in Michigan. My life was starting out great, I was the first in my family to graduate high-school and than go to college. I was starting my bachelors in interior design & my boyfriend all throughout high-school moved there with me, my dad got him a good job so we had plenty of money, freedom & this huge city to explore. I loved it, all the new people places & experiences. Than after my first quarter I found out I was pregnant, at first I thought I would just get an abortion & not tell anyone, but after realizing it was possible to keep the baby, I decided to. So, I ended up dropping out of school, we moved back home and are now staying with boyfriends parents. I hate feeling like I am not doing anything with my life but I don't even know what I want to do for a career anymore. The boyfriend has a good job & we only have a couple bills sincestaying at parents saves money, we have gotten our son everything he needs & I'm 32 weeks, I just get so down sometimes wondering what to do now.. I know a lot of friends parents who were teen moms that started careers and are fine but my mom had me at 18 and has been a waitress when employed & always seems a little ddepressed which I don't want for myself... I love my son already, I'm just scared and wondering if we are even ready for this, even though we have to be..

[MamaBear0612]

Make a plan for what you want for your life and your son, and stick to it. Write it down so it's more real and put it somewhere you can see it. Make sure you're always doing something to work towards your goals, and if you get derailed, just always make sure you get back on track.

If you want to go to college, you can...of course it's more complicated now but your incentive is higher...you're doing it for your son as much as for yourself. It might take you a little longer and you'll probably have to start local but it sounds like you have a lot of support and there's a lot of money out there for young moms who are students, so it's definitely doable. I know a teenage mom who started out on welfare. Now she holds a Ph.D. and has a son at Harvard. It probably wasn't her initial game plan, and I doubt very much of it was easy, but she got what she needed and wanted out of her life, and she made her son's life better in the process. Good luck.

[jdreyn]

I've been extremely lucky with my pregnancy, no sickness or anything. Everything has been great, I haven't minded it at all, till about a week ago, when the hubby went back to work & which leaves me at home bores for ten to twelve hours a day. i just sit there & think about everything.

[KTowne]

To both of you, I just want to say that this feeling of lost, will go away. I got pregnant at 17 right after I found out I was accepted to the college I wanted to go to with a full scholarship, and I had big plans to become a OB nurse, and then meet my prince charming and have a big family AFTER I bought a house, etc. As soon as I met my son, it all changed. Of course you're going to have hard times, of course money's going to be tight, but that happens with EVERYONE, not just a 20 year old that's pregnant. Having a baby will not stop you from accomplishing your goals, only you can stop you from it, if you say that it's going to be too hard, then it will, if you have an I think I can attitude, it won't. I'm now married to the man that I had my son with, my high school sweetheart as well. It really puts a test to your relationship, but in the end if you can be mature and work through things, you'll find out just how much you appreciate them. The first few years might be hard with your baby, but you will get through it, and you will accomplish everything you wanted, you just get a bonus, and he/she will love you with everything they've got! Congratulations, and don't feel so depressed, you'll regret not enjoying your pregnancy, trust me!!

[jdreyn]

I'm 20, be 21 on the 27th of this month. I'm 32w2d pregnant with a little boy, due may 27. I got married last May to my high school hunny & have been in nursing school for over a year, plus working full time along side my hubby. (He owns his own business) well, I found out I was pregnant, and dropped back to part time in college, but stopped going all together now Plus I can't work with the hubby now. I feel so lost, like I'm not going to be able to finish school or anything...