Unsupportive Mother

[Dipity16]

Hi ladies I was just wondering how do you deal with a unsupportive mother when you're pregnant at 18. I feel like 1 minute she's supportive and telling me I need to go outside and exercise and eat healthy, but then next she's telling me that if it was up to her she would take me to the abortion clinic. I dont know what to do. Its been a week since I told her I was pregnant so I get it that she won't be very happy still but I don't want this new development to cause me and my mother to not have a good relationship anymore. I need my mommy more than ever right now. This is causing me stress and tears and the baby definitely doesn't need this let alone me. Im just confused. Please help.

[Sesley12]

At first your family will be disappointed because they expect more from you. Than to be a teen mom, but once the baby is born. Everything changes. Everything will be about the baby. I was once at there, I got pregnant at 16. My parents were disappointed and so were the rest of my family. But when my daughter was born they loved her. And now they only ask about her.

[mrsmoore2012]

I also had my first at 23. I'm about to be 25 and having my second baby with my husband. We got pregnant on nuva ring with this one. My parents were not very excited at first with either pregnancy. I'm now 17 weeks into this one and they are both finally coming around. My husband was gone (unwillingly) for most of my first pregnancy and most of the first year of my daughters life. My parents saw me struggle to make ends meet, but they also saw me succeed in providing for my family and child. Now, my husband had a great job and i don't have to work so much during this pregnancy. The point is, if you as a young mother make the biggest decision of your life, to keep your child, you are already a good mother. Life is hard and people will not always be supportive, but your motherly instinct will kick in. You will work, struggle, live, breathe, and die for your child if you have to. Don't let anyone ever dull your sparkle! You keep going strong and be an amazing mom, despite any negativity from others.

[MrsKWhite4eva]

I had my first baby at 23 y and still my mom and dad had trouble accepting that..stay strong..u are their baby so sometimes its hard for parents to realize that u are not a little girl anymore..when the baby comes then  they will realize that you are indeed a young woman capable of caring for another human being...i am sure they will come around and remember u are not alone..good luck mama!!

[Brianamz97]

Sorry for your loss but congrats on your blessing ! Omg my due date is May 19th. I'm almost as far along as you are .

[MamaJanes14]

The first time I was pregnant, I was 16. My ex and my mom came up with a plan to stress me out as much as they could and I lost my baby at 14 weeks. It was awful. Now I am 20 and my mom has always apologized to me for hurting me and my deceased child. I am 35+6 with a little boy now and everyone involved is excited! They will come around sweetie :)

[Brianamz97]

I'm having a boy (: Elijah Aaron Titus. Ya it is hard when they make those comments about the pregnancy but I have no regrets in my decision. And then you get those good moments with your parents. Like this morning my mom came in my room, and was feeling the baby roll and kick and you could now see my belly move dramatically every time he does and so she just kept her hands on my stomache feeling him and was amazed and called my dad in to see it. It was a nice moment and I'm sure your mom will come around. I feel like once they realize that it's all real and it's really happening, then that's when they will start to feel comfortable about it. (: everything will be fine (: I'm super excited about him.

[kouklaxo]

I was 15 when i had my first, it took my mom until i was 6-7 months pregnant to be supportive. Im 21 now and 21 weeks pregnant with my second, and when i told her she again went off the rails. She's not completely on board, but shes coming round really slowly. It's hard for parents to come to terms with their teen being pregnant, but i believe that she will come around. My mom started slowly coming around when i showed her my 20 week ultra sound and told her that my little boy is going to get his sister. My son told my step dad in dec that he wanted a little sister it was funny, because he is actually getting his baby sister. Just give it a bit she will come around. Good luck with the little one!

[Dipity16]

That wasnt a bad word I promise! I meant to say that stinks but the other word haba

[Dipity16]

Thank you so much honey, that put a smile on my face :) im sorry you had to go through something similar to me also, it *****.
Thank you :) congrats to you as well! What is the gender? Names? :)

[Brianamz97]

It's tough getting support at a young age. I'm 17 and it took my parents a while to get used to the idea of me being pregnant. The day they found out,I was screaming at them and telling them I will never get an abortion because I simply have my beliefs and values against that. They were mad for a while but they understood when I held my ground and knew I was for sure in my decision. I'm almost 9 months pregnant now and sometimes my dad still makes comments on how they shouldnt even be going throught this. Just know, you're not the only young mother going through these same situations and every issue is different. I hope your mom will come through an understand and I'm sure she will. Give it some time and show her you are going to be ready to take care of your baby (: show her that you know your baby is a blessing. Your blessing. (: I'll pray that everything goes well! And congrats !