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This is my first time posting here, so bare with me. For a bit of background; I'm 18 and my boyfriend and I have been together for quite a while now. I quit taking birthcontrol at the beginning of the year and my periods have been pretty normal (usually within five days of each other). Recently we have been ignoring the whole condom idea and just pulling out. This has happened about four times over the course of days 12-14. I have read a lot about pre-*** and all of that but nobody seems to have a legit/clear answer and I was just curious as to what you have to say about it. As far as my last period goes, it was shorter and I had some spotting a few days after it. Also, ever since my last period I have been so crampy and nauseous (sp?). Last night I puked a little ( I am now on day 16 or 17) and today I still feel like cuck to say the least. Back aches and hips ache and headaches and sick to my tstomach and sore/heavy breasts... Which could all just be early PMS symptoms too. What do you think? My period usually comes between day 26 and day 28 or so. Thanks for you opinions!
We talked a bit last night with a friend who is pretty much in the same boat as we are. We both want kids and we both want one right now, but we're still leaving it up to chance until we are both 100% comfortable with the idea. He isn't 100% but, then again, who is going comfortable and ready for their first child? I'm still buying him a new ring whether he wants to get me one or whatever. I know the significancde of it to myself and I'm sharing that with him even if he doesn't understand it. I subtly slipped the question of whether we were going to get married into a conversation and he said yes but that's where the conversation stopped. Maybe it's just my insecurities that made it hard to ask because I've never been afraid to talk to him about anything. We've talked about marriage before but now that it's down to be serious about it, I get scared to know how he feels or how long he will put it off or if he even realizes the significance in it. eh... I'm rambling now.
Hi,
I read some but not all of the comments, but I agree with coffeebuzzedliz, it is really early for symtoms and you're right pregnancy symptoms are close to pms symptoms. You could buy one of the 5 days before your period tests and take it in a couple days. I mostly wanted to comment on the pull out method. My husband and I have two kids, in the process of havng those two, we've had 4 miscarriages and decided that we were finished having kids. We were waiting on him to get into the vasectomy doctor and was using condoms religiously except for ONE time, he pulled out, did his thing (sorry) and put on a condom and we went for it again. So, I apparently dropped two eggs that month and his pre sperm fertilized them BOTH! I am 17 weeks pregnant with twins today! So careful, careful, careful!
I read some but not all of the comments, but I agree with coffeebuzzedliz, it is really early for symtoms and you're right pregnancy symptoms are close to pms symptoms. You could buy one of the 5 days before your period tests and take it in a couple days. I mostly wanted to comment on the pull out method. My husband and I have two kids, in the process of havng those two, we've had 4 miscarriages and decided that we were finished having kids. We were waiting on him to get into the vasectomy doctor and was using condoms religiously except for ONE time, he pulled out, did his thing (sorry) and put on a condom and we went for it again. So, I apparently dropped two eggs that month and his pre sperm fertilized them BOTH! I am 17 weeks pregnant with twins today! So careful, careful, careful!
It sounds like he would step up, he is just not ready to do it now if he has the choice and that how my husband would have been 10 years ago.
You need to be able to talk to him, roommates around or not, find a time or close a door. Talking to your partner is essential, don't just assume how he is feeling ask him!! If you don't ask you wont truly know. Good luck.
You need to be able to talk to him, roommates around or not, find a time or close a door. Talking to your partner is essential, don't just assume how he is feeling ask him!! If you don't ask you wont truly know. Good luck.
He would step up, there's no doubt in my mind. He does want to get married and have kids, but he isn't the initiative-taking kind of guy. He doesn't like confrontation, so he wont kick the roommates out. I want to talk to him about it. I want to know his true thoughts and feelings but we never get the chance with the roommates around lately. He's been babysitting for his friend who is a single father and he just absolutely adores it. He truely does want to take that step foreward, I believe, I think he's just scared to initiate it.
If you are ready then you need to be with someone who is also ready. You cant force someone else to be where you are in your thinking to life. He might step up and be ready if you are pregnant or he might not be and not be there and freak out because he isn't ready.
The time to take it is when you have someone who is ready to take it, or taking the step on your own and being a single mom.
The time to take it is when you have someone who is ready to take it, or taking the step on your own and being a single mom.
Yeah, I know what you mean about being young and having fun, at least for him. I don't see myself doing any of that stuff anymore because I already did all of the stupid stuff I wanted to do when I was fifteen ( I was a bad fifteen year old). Maybe not even having a baby is my next step. If I waited, I'd be more than happy to. I got him a promise ring about eight months ago and he said he would get me one. He still hasn't because he doesn't see the significance of a ring. It bugs me, honestly. I'm ready to be engaged again ( not that the first time was a big success or anything) or have a baby or even something as simple as that promise ring. I just want something more between us, somethign we can share that isn't a silly material item.
I also don't know how ready and willing he is to give up some of his social life. I'm all about it. I've been there, done that, don't care to do it again. He didn't really start going out and having friends until he and I started dating but I was way over that before I even met him. I don't drink or smoke anything, I don't take any medications except iron because I'm a vegetarian. I have a job, a car, a house, and I'm going to school... When is the right time to take that next step if I feel that I'm ready for it?
I know it is a lot of work. I've been thinking about it for a while now and so has he. My mom didn't have me until she was 30 and there is nothing wrong with that at all, but I'd rather be a younger mother. If I'm not, I'll be a little sad, but I know that I still have my chance :] I just want something more in my life and I really want to take one more step... buuut the waiting game must go on, I guess.
You cant force a guy to be ready! If you had asked my husband at 18/19/20-----26 if he wanted a baby or was ready for a baby he would have said NO, but if it happened he would have stepped up. Around 26 he was ready for the family/baby stuff because he had time to be young, party, do stupid stuff, and just overall enjoy being young! Now at 30 he is really excited for 1 or 2 more babies. It just takes time, time to mature.
I am happy you are in school that is awesome and you have a job, but realize being in school/being a mom and working full time is REALLY HARD! that is why I waited till I graduated and I don't regret that at all. I now work full time and am a mom and even though that is hard, I cant even imagine what it would be like to also be in school.......Most moms will quit school because it is so difficult.
I am happy you are in school that is awesome and you have a job, but realize being in school/being a mom and working full time is REALLY HARD! that is why I waited till I graduated and I don't regret that at all. I now work full time and am a mom and even though that is hard, I cant even imagine what it would be like to also be in school.......Most moms will quit school because it is so difficult.
Wanting a baby is one thing, a lot of women do! But you do need to consider being ready, and being 18 you are really young and have a lot of good baby years ahead of you, no reason to rush. The best time is when you are both ready! I had my first at 29, which to some is really late but for me is great. I went to school, got my masters, have a good career, married etc......and then had a baby! A baby is a TON of work and something to consider before having one, your WHOLE life will change. We are not able to do most of the social stuff we did before, since baby needs to be in bed, take naps, be feed etc....we have very supporitve friends and family, but it is still really hard. Now with that said we are working on baby 2, so we obviously love it! but talk to me or my husband and we will tell you its not easy. If you are pregnant congrats and I wish you the best!! If you are not really consider if you are ready for a baby and if that answer is NO or Maybe get back to using protection!
I'm going to school, I'm a supervisor at a retail store, and I'm pretty financially, mentally, and emotionally stable to move on. He wants to go to school but he is paying off past issues and working part time right now, so he has a little work to do. I don't know how to kick him in the butt, haha.
Not necessarily trying. But not trying not to... We have talked about it here and there and we both want to but there are a few things that need to be fixed around here before we can go any farther. I'm ready for that next step in my life but I'm not so sure he is ready for it. We have two roommates and I'm ready for them to be gone and for us to not only move of with our professional lives but our personal lives as well. He says he wants to but he wont take the initiative to do it yet. Typical guy? ha
LIke i said if you did get pregnant this month then it is too early to test. Your body has to have time to build up the pregnany hormone HCG and this early it would be really low. that is why they tell you to do it with the first urine of the morning, HCG is at its most concentrated. Or if you take it during the day dont drink a lot for like 4 hours and then try, but I still think you should wait until your period is due.
Are you trying to get pregnant?
Are you trying to get pregnant?
I just tried an HPT just to see and it was negative so if I were then it wasn't from last month. I wouldn't be able to have any symptoms yet if I am so I guess I'll just have to hold my britches and wait. Still don't understand these pains though.
Hello,
The fact that you are not on birth control and having unprotected sex/well the pull out method to me makes it seem like you are trying to get pregnant? Pre-*** can get you pregnant, it does contain sperm. If you cycle is usually 26-28 days long, that would mean about 13-14 days after the first day of your period would trypically be when you would ovulate and would be at your most fertile. It sounds like you kindof know this since you said above that it was especially around day 12-14 that you were not using a condom, so it sounds like you did what you would need to, to have the highest chance of getting pregnant. Now if you dont want to get pregnant you need to start using protection, especially during those most fertile days.
As far as what I think about your symptoms, you said above you are on day 17 and if you lets say you did get pregnant days 12-14 that would put you at not even a week pregnant. It would be really early to get so many symptoms but not impossible. You could also be having a lot of symptoms because you are thinking you are pregnant, withbabies are on the mind every little thing seems like a symptom. It would also be PMS. At this point it is too early to test through HPT, so I would wait and see if your period shows up or get an early detection test and try this when your period is due. If you were having unprotected sex prior to this month, there is always the chance you would be pregnant from previous encounters and could show positive on an HPT.
Let me know if you have more questions.
The fact that you are not on birth control and having unprotected sex/well the pull out method to me makes it seem like you are trying to get pregnant? Pre-*** can get you pregnant, it does contain sperm. If you cycle is usually 26-28 days long, that would mean about 13-14 days after the first day of your period would trypically be when you would ovulate and would be at your most fertile. It sounds like you kindof know this since you said above that it was especially around day 12-14 that you were not using a condom, so it sounds like you did what you would need to, to have the highest chance of getting pregnant. Now if you dont want to get pregnant you need to start using protection, especially during those most fertile days.
As far as what I think about your symptoms, you said above you are on day 17 and if you lets say you did get pregnant days 12-14 that would put you at not even a week pregnant. It would be really early to get so many symptoms but not impossible. You could also be having a lot of symptoms because you are thinking you are pregnant, withbabies are on the mind every little thing seems like a symptom. It would also be PMS. At this point it is too early to test through HPT, so I would wait and see if your period shows up or get an early detection test and try this when your period is due. If you were having unprotected sex prior to this month, there is always the chance you would be pregnant from previous encounters and could show positive on an HPT.
Let me know if you have more questions.
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