Why are there so many young barely teens on here intentionally ttc?

[diva_lorri]

Hi to all -

It really concerns me the amount of young barely teens on here intentionally trying to get pregnant? An accident (although i hate this expression) or unexpected gift of a child is one thing you embrace and live with but an intentional act to be a child raising a child is another thing? It shows alot about ones maturity and mentality.

Are these posts for real or just bored 13 year olds? sorry to offend anyone but seriously ???

[diva_lorri]

Chitten - you took the words right out of my mouth  :-)

alley8 - read these posts on this thread then you can post again with understanding of the correct facts and correct intent this post was aimed at. this was never an attack on teen pregnancy ever.... im sorry you felt offended but it was never the intention.
it was a concern for 13/14/15/16/17 year olds INTENTIONALLY trying to conceive/ have a baby. one thing i must say to you though - is if someone is trying to have a baby to fill a void in there life (ie: lack of love/ family/bad childhood/ to fix a rocky relationship) then they need a physcologist not help to try to conceive no matter what age! a baby will not fix a relationship and will certainly not make all your bad memories/ feelings go away. you need to deal with them before you drag a solely dependant on you child into the situation.
im sure the majority of this entire forum will agree...

loismwallace -   definately wasnt offended :-) just hated the fact id started a controverisal post. im so not a 'trouble maker' type person lol...
i just didnt realise some people would totally take it as a an attack on teen pregnancy in general. soooooooo not my intention!
ive had a few friends who were teen mums accidently and they are some of the best mums I know. I also commend alot of people especially teens on there maturity, dedication and outlook on the gift of a child they were unexpectedly given. when they ttc so young thats just plain selfish.. simple!

all the best 2 all - lorri

[chitten]

I think people need to distinguish between "unplanned" prenancy and actively "trying to concieve."


If a girl falls pregnant young but it is not planned and she decides to keep her baby then we should commend her for taking responsibility and offer her support but teens at 14, 15, 16 and 17 TRYING to concieve is just wrong.

[CYW]

im 22, i had my son when i was 21..he is 7 mos old and i am a sahm..we planned our baby, however did npot think it would only happen 2nd cycle off the pill..especially after having been on it for 7 yrs..which was to regulate my period..not have sex..the bf and I are together however he is in school full time and works full time and we dont live together yet..i am a single full-time mom...its hard enough as is but i wouldnt trade it for anything in the world...i am returning to school in sept..at 13..having a baby let alone SEX should be the last thing on someone's mind and it's sad because so many of them are uneducated...on sex, life..etc...Babies are not dolls..They are the real thing and its awesome for those who have managed having had babies at a really young age.. 16..that is great! but it isnt and should not be for everyone..I'm with my son 24/7 no one babysits and why should anyone because i am here and i love being with my baby boy...its like this girl said.. she was apparently 20 years old...technically my age...she had ALOT of growing up to do versus a 16 yr old..she thought a baby only needed milk and i laughed because babies need WAY more than just breast milk and love...

[alley8]

okay so all of you have been taking about "young kids" getting pregnant. i am 16 yrs of age. i am not 100% sure if i am pregnant yet im supposed to go get blood work done wensday. me and my bf WERE NOT planning this but i do know that i wouldnt change anything. i have been on my own for almost all of my life. i had to raise my litte sister who is only about a yr younger than me bc my mom was so strung out on drugs. my grandfather mollested me when i moved in with my grandmother, i have had no child hood and i have been raising my friends kid basically for her  (remeber im only 16) i feel as though i am way older than that, and many say i act so to. so i mean whe u talk about younger children getting or trying to get pregnant did u ever stop and think hey... maybe they dont have anything or anyone to love.... and will do just about anything (including getting pregnant) to get it??

this wasnt planned for me again, but yet i dont regret it. let them make their own mistakes ya know? i dont agree but im also not going to put anyone down. its hard for me also bc my step mom will not believe me for ****. neither will my dad. but idk just wanted to add to the convo.
-Alley8

[sweetangel7]

I too have felt Kim's frustration of reading this because it seems in my personal opinion (and I don't want to be incendiary and start a big blow up) that these young girls who are actively ttc are causing all sorts of ills in the average person's life...I am a taxpayer and besides driving on the roads and having access to police/firemen if needed, I don't really reap any benefit other than knowing that I am paying for others to keep procreating, getting to stay home with their baby, having free health care, free food for them and their baby, free or substantially reduced rent, free education.  It just seems backwards that I did everything 'right' that benefits society (went to college for a BA and M, got married, bought a house, pay taxes, work everyday, pay $400/mo. for health insurance...) yet I know when I have a baby nobody will be there to give me a helping hand other than my husband and family...I will have to use my sick-time to get a paycheck and be able to put food in our mouths and diapers on my baby's bottom...I am saving money to pay for any time over 3 weeks that I want to or may need to stay home after giving birth...Not easy for the average, responsible American to have a child...I guess I am in a crabby mood today but I have been stewing over this since it was posted.

[Kim1989]

im glad someone finally asked. lately its been going on a lot. espically on the maternal forum. im sorry but i think young girls need to futher their education. especially if they already have a baby, they need to focus on getting a degree so they can better the lives for their children and themselves. i had my son a little over a month ago. im going to college in the fall. my babys father left me a 6 weeeks. and im raising my son as a single teenage mother. but to see these little girls and girls who are my age who are like proud to be poping out kidds left and right....please! and i think that being like 19 and 20 ttc or working on baby number 2 when they dont have a degree i think is nuts. you and your husband got pregnant and had a baby ok. im so happy that hes there. but working on your next child so early? theres time. im only 18 but i feel like A LOT OF PEOPLE, NOT JUST MUREY CANDIDATES are rushing into things really quickly. i thought it was like totally tabo to ttc at a young age. so many young girls think their "ready" or "mature" or "can handle it".....PLEASE!!!! its like everyone whos under like 18 always feels the need to sit ther and justify themselves. saying they had to grow up at a young age... everyones got a story. my dad lived with me till i was 4, tried to kill my mom, had to leave, lives in 1 1/2 hours away (now), got mental help, my mom was never there because she travels with her job. i spend many birthdays without my parents.....so please im sick of hearing it. not directed at you riot queen tho...your not who im talking about, so not trying to start anything. im mostly talking about the girls who are <18 ttc like its a hobby, CANT SPELL, who grammer sucks, and who doesnt want to finish high school, live off of the goverment, and not bother to create a future for their children.


SORRY FOR THIS ITS BEEN MAKING ME SOO MAD THESE PAST FEW MONTHS