Why are there so many young barely teens on here intentionally ttc?

[diva_lorri]

Hi to all -

It really concerns me the amount of young barely teens on here intentionally trying to get pregnant? An accident (although i hate this expression) or unexpected gift of a child is one thing you embrace and live with but an intentional act to be a child raising a child is another thing? It shows alot about ones maturity and mentality.

Are these posts for real or just bored 13 year olds? sorry to offend anyone but seriously ???

[natemomma27]

i was 18 and out of high school when i got pregnant, had my son at 19...then when i was 21 had my other son. neither of which was planned. i was actually told i wasnt able to have children due to an illness so i look at both my children being blessings and miracles none the less. i do agree that intentionally trying to get pregnant is very irresponsible (sp). i never had the oppurtunity to live life as the 'normal' teenager...i wasnt able to celebrate my 21st birthday...there are things i missed...granted i wouldnt change anything b/c i adore my children...but if you have the CHANCE to be young, take it...you have your entire life to have children!

[chitten]

Tell me about it - IIts my 21st birthday 3 weeks before im due to give birth - Can you imagine me celebrating whilst im the size of a beached whale. Not Impressed :)

That said - doc thinks im 2/3 weeks further than my EDD so id rather spend the day at home that in L&D.

Oh the joys.......... lol

[mami1323]

I think to each his/her own, however, I think that enjoying ones youth is soooo important.  I am 30 and just had my first...I am grateful for him but so happy that I waited until I was ready.  Even though we I thought that I was mature enough in reality you still have a lot to learn.  I wasn't ready to give my world to someone else.  Now at 30 I was.  I just think that being a teenager should be carefree and easy going.  School should be the main focus.  I'm their parents would have hoped for that as well.  If you can handle it and be responsible then that's great.  I'm just tired of seeing teens getting pregnant and sticking their parents with the child.  They still want to go to parties and hang out, meanwhile they have a new baby.  Now the parents have to financially support this baby and have to be a second parent.  It's really sad.

[precious03]

To me it seems like kids are learning about sex earlier on, but not necessarily the reproduction part and the what can happen from sex!!  Not only pregnancy, but the std's and everything.   I don't think that if you can't explain how an egg is released or how to keep track of your period, and understand that aspect, you definately should be waiting!!

[loismwallace]

Well, I'll be 34 yr old in July. I was married at 18 yrs just 3 mos after my birthday. Within the first 6 mos I was pregnant with my son. He will be 15 in October. I am VERY proud of where I am AND where I came from. I don't agree that it is the right choice for everyone, but it worked for me. BUT, I wasn't TTC until after we were married. I couldn't imagine having a child any younger.

I think at this point all we can do is embrace these young ladies and try to give them guidence. They are going to do what they want to anyways. We may be the only place for them to turn. Some times a kind word goes a long way. In the past some posters have bashed these young ladies and I think that just makes the situation worse. Unfortunately, they are children and I think we should handle them with kid gloves. But I be damn if I find my 12 yr old daughter or 14 yr old son doin' the BD. Thing is, NOT all kids have supervision.

[chitten]

Exactly, they are children and need handling with kid gloves. Im in no place to speak really - im 20 and 20 weeks pregnant - not what i had planned but the thought of even kissing a boy let alone BDing and TRYING for a baby as young as 13 makes me cringe.

I was brought up with morals and to have self respect. Ive made mistakes and went back to a loser guy who treated me like **** but at the end of the day i am an adult and made my own choices even though she was not planned this baby is already my world.

Babies having babies that are unplanned is one thing - sad but bearable - but TRYING for one? It makes me really sad. My lil sis is almost 13 and id string her up if she even thought about going near a boy - but she knows better. I only hope i bring my little girl up to have the same self respect.