Worried about ripping

[diabetusbiscuit]

I talked to my dr about the epesiotomy and he says he doesnt typically do them unless the baby is stuck. He said that it is usually better to rip bc its natural..i dont know im just kind of iffed out about it especially since i have hemophilia and am a very slow healer. Anything anyone would mind sharing about your epesiotomy/ripping experience?

[keyshaE]

Yes if u stop pushing and let the baby go back in and come back out then you should be able to stretch enough also using oils and warm cloth helps aud in the stretching....I learned that from a midwife.

[ericatoday]

Well my son was 8.8lbs and I did rip but I didn't know anything about the massage or positions but the rip wasn't so bad and healed really well. and for lubricants

Lubricate your thumbs and the perineum. You can use many different types of lubricant like: KY Jelly®, vitamin E oil, or pure vegetable oil.

I looked it up for you. I didn't know either.

And for big babies the best position is all 4s. But also squating opens your pelvis up 2cm more so it will also help.

[diabetusbiscuit]

I read about the perineal massage before and was planning on doing that. Do you have any suggestions for oil?
Im not on anything for the hemophilia, i only ever needed birth control with my period but since im prego, but the dr said they wpuld watch more bc of that but nothing shpuld go wrong, but how often is that planned
im mainly worried about having a big baby since my husbands first was 10lbs so im expecting our son to be big as well

[ericatoday]

Do perineal massages. Google it. And I have information on birthing positions that will help prevent tearing

[mrsonens]

Not everyone tears, I only had a slight graze with my son, and my close friend had very similar, it's also helps to stop pushing when they tell you to, in uk we use midwives and they kept telling me to push a little and then stop n breathe I guess it gives u time to stretch, 3 pushes and he was out

[calico236]

From my research, your body will heal a natural tear faster than a surgical one. I'm assuming youre on something for your hemophilia?  If not I know they can give you a clotting agent. Just get on either you or your partner doing the perineum massages..

[camerinj]

my sister had an episiotomy and I had tearing with both of mine. she had a much more difficult time having bowel movements because the stitches went all the way to her anus. that also meant it took longer for her to feel like she healed. less stitches is better imo

[kennimae]

I had a small tear. Only needed 2 stitches.

[knufrio]

I've always heard the opposite, because its easier to stitch a straight cut than a jagged tear.