age/ young mothers.

[gatorgrl12]

So please don't take this wrong. We are all young! But I am seeing more and more very young mothers or preggers. And just want to now how it makes everyone feel. My sisters entire class seems pregnant. 15-17 years of age. I know age doesn't define the type of mother you are! I was 16 and pregnant and am now 22 with my 3rd on the way. But I'm established and been married since my first. I get a lot of negative looks comments ex ex. But even I sometimes look at these girls who look fresh out of middle school and want to just hug them up cause their just looking so young.  I am terrified because I want the best for my own daughter! But would never turn her away if she came to me with a baby issue and would never push abortion or anything its her choice! But guess I just wanted to know how it made everyone feel even you super young mommas how are you feeling. I know I was so lost and alone at 16.

[baby1130]

Before the baby I was in a really really bad place I was young immature running around living life like crazy drinking every night partying then this test came back positive I laughed and brushed it off but I never thought my baby would change me. I always said imma let my kid drink imma drink with my kid an get high imma be a "cool" mom but ask me now if that's the way I feel today and my answer is heck no I can't believe till this day that I changed I was so immature and only cared about myself and getting drunk. I still ask myself how when did I change. What I'm trying to say is that if it wasn't for my little one maybe I wouldn't be here today I'm glad I had my baby even if I was young. But one thing I do wanna say to those teen moms that think its "cool" to have babys so young. Live ur life girls don't get pregnant that's not the way it though its not easy going to school and having to study and take care of a baby at the same time. Your "friends" don't come around ur "boyfriend" walk away an now ur standing here alone trying to keep ur head above water. Diapers are expensive. Nothing is cheap an u can't explain to a little one u have no money for formula or diapers they don't care they don't know. I also lived in a fantasy world I got pregnant young an because I wanted to I was with my boyfriend for a couple years and thought it would be perfect to have a baby I never thought about how we were gonna buy diapers or anything he didn't have a job an neither did I we were young he always told me ill never leave u ill never leave my baby will always be together an I believed him more because we had like 3 years together I NEVER EVER thought he would walk away but he did 3 months into it he walked away he chose to party drink before us. Now I'm raising our baby alone with my familys help. So learn from me an tell me is this what u want? I only thought about me and that we wanted a baby I was selfish so thanks to that my baby is been raised by a single mom and does he deserve it no but I made bad choices and its not his fault. Now how will I explain why I changed and daddy didn't. But that happens when ur young an having baby when the dad or mom are immature.  

[babywhalen2]

At chlo17, im so glad to hear you are working hard to provide for and make a great future for your child. I wasnt a teen mom, (22 with my first) and absolutely meant no disrespect to those who are and were. I just know how much i struggled @ 22 coming to terms with all that being a mother involves, and when i see the little girls i used to babysit, who are 15 now and having babies themselves, i DO want to hug them, and show them my love and support. Thats not me knocking their choices, or degrading the kind of moms they will be...thats the mentor side of me that sees the fear and struggle behind it...the same fear and struggle i have experienced becoming a mom as an adult, which i can only imagine must be compounded by age and circumstances. If i could help shoulder a bit of the weight and worry they carry i would...not because theyre "so irresponsible they cant handle it" but because i care about them and the new life being brought into the world. I would love to help them make the best possible start they can. We all need all the support we van get at this time in our lives. I dont have to know you, or even have met you to care and want to help...thats just me...this is who i am, its how im wired. As a mother, daughter, wife, friend...please just take it for the well meaning it is, not as the judgement its not.

[RoopStetter]

Agreed. We pretty much all said we had our children at 16 or 17 and I think someone was even younger. No one is bashing teen mothers in general BC most of us have been there. We are saying how sad it is for these kids who's parents choose to be teen parents and don't want to be responsible for them. Like the girls who's parents raise their kids or the girls who can't keep their legs closed when they can't afford their first child and end up sucking money from the government to support themselves and their kids or the girls who use what money they do get for their own selfish reasons or the girls who do see it as a fashion statement like their kids are the new purse pooch. There is NO reason for ANYONE to be having children when they are still children and we are simply stating how sad it is that the number of these kids having kids has increased DRAMATICALLY. You are being responsible for your child and no one has said anything negative about mothers who do what they need to. Chill your grill and actually pay attention to what you are reading instead of jumping to conclusions

[Ashdub07]

Lol most of us who posted said we were teen moms. Cool your jets. It's not rainbows and unicorns it's hard work. When I was 12/13 boys had cooties I would never want a penis anywhere near me. I worked my *** off at 17 to get thru high school pregnant and graduate with honors. If you are one of those girls who is sacrificing for your baby awesome! Kudos! But it's not the norm. I have a friend who is 17 with her second baby on the way by 2 diff dads, no job, dropped out of high school at 14, she and her son are couch surfers. That is what upsets me . Is that children have babies before they are ready to step up and accept responsibility. It makes all of us moms who were teen moms look bad. I'm 24 with a 6 yr old. I get looked at like the village doorknob because im "too young" to have a 6 yr old and I'm the youngest mom at PTA. Not all young moms are stupid and not all are mothers. Any one with a vajayjay can have a baby but not everyone is cut out to be a mother whether she's 15 or whether she's 45. It's just a fact of life.

[GordonBaby]

@chlo17....It's the younger mothers or moms to be that don't do what they have to do for their child or for themselves to better themselves to benefit both them and their child. S*** happens and we all get it. A lot of the ladies here had their first children at a very young age and turned out to be great parents. Sad but true, yes, a lot of girls are very immature and do everything else, except provide for their children, taking the "easy way out" Hell their are adult women out there that are just as bad, popping out kids left and right while collecting child support and help from the government while they are out at the clubs and dressed better than their own children. But, I think a lot of what we were saying is, even though we have been blessed with these beautiful children, a lot of us would love to see our children have it better than we did. A lot of us would love to make some young girls understand that its not the "cool" thing to do, its a life changing event. Like I said, some young woman make the best mamas, but unfortunately not all.

[chlo17]

hi girls. i dont exactly know if ive got this right, i apologise if i come of deffensive, young and stupid. but to me, i may be mistaken, yous are being critical or maybe judgemental.. my reason for this is, "teen moms" wana hug em, there throwing their lives away etc. i am a teen mom! im 17 years old. im from the uk and im in college. i wudnt have the things i have if it wasnt for my mum and dad. so i guess im one of those **** moms yous refare to. i guess, in america things are different. but where im from, young parents isnt a fashion, its lack of responsibility and i totaly admit i was stupid. people look at me asif i had sex with lots of boys when they see me. i got pregnant my first time having sex. i was in a relationship and left before i realised i was pregnant because i was being abused. i truley believe in my heart ill be a good mom. ive been raised around babies and ive also raised my cousin baisicly. i earn about 50-60 pounds a week. i dont want to go o benifits and im doing my very best to finish my college course. theres alot of moms over here i see and they sponge their kids of, that disgusts me. my mum and dad have supported me and got the main things i need although ive bought my bottles, clothes, blankets, etc. i feel like im trying my best. and thats all i can do. im 30weeks on monday and i cannot wait to spend the rest of my life looking after my baby boy.