Honest opinion ladies

[lovelylay]

I havent talked to my baby dad in about 5 days and im confused about us i want to have things planned out for me and my child and if the hes going to be here for me i need to know should i ask him about it or not i just wanna really know if i have to be a single parent i wanna have things planned out im not due until august but i have until then to find a apartment and save money i just need to know so my priorities will be straight and have plans for everything so should i talk to him or not

[rosey3216]

Adhd doesn't make it impossible for a person to be responsible and reliable, it sounds like he is using that as a crutch.. my bd has a brain injury after his terrible car accident 3 years ago, he has had 7 brain surgeries. Yes it makes things difficult but even he doesn't go 5 days without at least talking to me... Also if he chooses not to take his medicine then he is just being stubborn because there are medicines out there that help those kind of disorders a tremendous amount.

[katngary143]

I think if it will help you find better closure talk to him talking to him wont hurt anything but about the adhd that isnt going to stop him from being a dad my own father has it and helped raises me and I just watched a documentary on a women whom is paralyzed and has a baby...thats how I feel about that..

[lovelylay]

Yea I know but he has a disorder he can.barely think properly but I guess im the one who got pregnant by someone like that imma leave it alone I guess he also doesnt take his medicine so iam and I started just thinking about me and the baby but I feel sorry for him about the way his family treats but I gotta think about me

[marie8736]

I wouldnt depend on him either.. I would worry about u and the baby.. And if he wants to help out let him but dont wait for a man,, im in the same situation im going to start thinking of myself and my baby im also due in august

[mckee513]

I would ask. And ask for no lies cause you want to be prepared.

[YDOC_hope]

Communication is always best. You won't really know where u stand as a family until you know what his plans r. I would definitely prepare for you and your baby and that way whether he is in the picture or not you can feel your own security. You can do it either way! I hope things work out.

[lovelylay]

yea i know he has a horrible case of adhd so i know its hard for him with alot i just wanted to try to talk to him but i still think ill be a single mommy though

[babyonboard24]

Sure talk to him but it sounds like you might be going solo,five days with no contact doesnt scream family to me.good luck though!

[lovelylay]

ok thanks

[hayang]

you are your baby's family. all baby needs is an amazing mom(:
you should talk to him to see what HE wants, then go from there. good luck.

[lovelylay]

im not i just wanna know if im gonna be a single mom or not or is my baby gonna have a family

[hayang]

you probably shouldn't try to depend on him either way, seeing as he doesn't seem very reliable. I'd get myself set up whether he claims to want to be there for you two or not, if i were you.