boyfriend...

[jazz20]

My boyfriend is worried that if i decide to keep my  baby which wasn't planned for, this soon in our relationship we will later have to be more "mature"...and we will not have time to do things that he would like to do in a relationship.  Pretty much he thinks if I have this baby it will get in between our relationship... Any opinions would be great!!.

[debi28]

I spent nearly seven years with my partner and left him when our baby was 6 months old.. he wouldnt grow up and we changed as a couple. Relationships do change!!! X

[debi28]

I spent nearly seven years with my partner and left him when our baby was 6 months old.. he wouldnt grow up and we changed as a couple. Relationships do change!!! X

[RockRose]

I think it's very,  very wise Jazz that you're going into this with your eyes wide open.  Yes,  it will make dramatic changes in your lives - jarring,  unwanted changes for your boyfriend who doesn't want to make those sacrifices.  

Parenting is very difficult,  even in the most perfect of circumstances.  In very good relationships between two very mature people,  having a baby changes the relationship and gives it a extra depth it didn't have before.  But in a survey a few years ago,  in their privatest moments,  nearly half of parents of adult children said if they had their lives to live over again,  they would choose to be childless.  And that's the truth.  

Loving kids,  and parenting them correctly,  will become your life.  Parents who do a slipshod job aren't as affected,  but to be a good parent you have to give over your freedoms and make yourself second priority.

I don't advocate aborting healthy babies,  but if you're talking about adoption,  I think you should strongly consider it if you're not ready to put yourself second.  

I wish you well in this decision.  

[Lennyxo]

That's how my bf and I felt when I found out I was pregnant. I'm young and have always had lost of goals set for myself. It was hard honestly accepting it and getting use to all the chances so quick and young I'm 37 weeks pregnant now and were both more excited than ever!!! I'm so happy with this blessing and even if I could go back I wouldn't change a thing. I couldn't be happier it's been tough and although I may be 2 steps back from my goals I know I can still do it. God is great and he does things for a reason

[BabyBuck15]

A baby is a miracle so that's your choice.

[luxah]

Like the above said, but also a baby grows up, and even though you can't take a 7 year old clubbing, there are other things that you can look forward to doing with your child. I'm already prepared for a disney vacation when she's 10. There will always be things that can be done later, including having a child. But that decision solely is yours to make.

[cheericee]

The truth is, if course a baby will change your relationship, but any parent can agree that it was in a good way! Yes, it can be hard abd you have to work hard on your relationship, but it's so worth it for the beautiful new addition to your family. You do have to grow up fast, but when the baby comes you'll want to, and it will come naturally. So yes, he's right that it poses challenges, but if you do decide to raise your little miracle, then you will get so much reward in return. And the good news is that it isn't like the end of the road. There's a lot of your freedoms and dreams/ambitions you can still keep! They just look a little differently once there's a baby in the picture (: