what to do...

[alixdani]

Im 28 yrs old...and my boyfriend and I just learned I am pregnant. We are excited about it however it was a surprise. We were not trying to get pregnant but we are and we are preparing. My problem is, my grandmother and my aunt, who raised me, are both very old fashioned. They will not be happy about my pregnancy because I am not married. However, my boyfriend and I are planning on getting married and moving in together shortly. I am not sure how to tell my family and I'm very nervous about what they are going to say. If there is anyone who had a similar issue I would really appreciate some advice.

[jenalovelyy]

Our situations are a tinsey weensy bit similar. Im 22 and have been engaged since 2009 (proud procrastinator & worst planner you'll ever meet. Besides, what's the rush right?) Well Im 25 weeks and we didn't plan it at all. (Date of conception: right after one of our little arguement days. *wink wink*) And I had just one month before I was on my way to enlist in the air force. My family is also old school. My great grandmother, grandmother, and whoever else already wondered why me and my fiance had moved in together without getting married first. So there was no WAY I could tell them we shacked up, now Im knocked up. Especially since they know me as the reserved and quiet one who follows the rules. But my honey said I should just blurt it out. So I did. And while Ive had to hear my old ladies gossip "lord please let them have the sense to get married before the baby gets here" & "why don't they just go to the courthouse?" they are STILL supportive and can't wait for Jr. to get here. (To be honest, if they had turned their backs on me, that would be their mistake since I had done nothing wrong. Same for you. Life happens!) I hope everything works out for you! Good luck :)

[alixdani]

Thank you all for the support. The sad part is my mom passed when I was 16 and I know she would have been happy about this bc Im older. But my grams and my aunt are very old school and this isnt going to work for them...i know once they see the baby they will have no choice but to be happy..but right now I have no idea how to even break it to them

[Jordansmom86]

I was pregnant at 15, had my son at 16 and raised my now 9 year old son by myself. My mom was devastated and so was everyone else but even at that young age my family (most of them) came around as they saw what a good mother i was and how great my son has turned out. So it's not hopeless it just might take a while for ppl to come around, this isn't 1950. I'm now26, newly married and expecting (5 wks, 5 days :) unfortunatly my mom passed away last August so she can't join in my happiness, but the rest of our family is very supportive :) good luck, everything will be fine!!

[MinkY001125]

I hear u. I am from a country where u r expected to be narried first and then have a child. I am 25 now married and we r expecting. If i werent married it would have not been so simple on my family. You will have to take it all in and tell them. Are u closer to your mother more? Sit her down and just tell her although it wasnt planned, u r expecting and she will be a grandmother. There is little chance she will be mad if u r just upfront and honest w her, plus they will be grandparents and those r happy times. It will be ok, i've been through a lot w my parents due to them being extremely overprotective and strict. It will be all fine.

[deahh]

I definately was not in a similar situation with my first child, i was 17years old like pp, had NO intentions of getting married to the father. My mum isnt old fashioned, however my grandma is.. Turned out my mother didnt speak to me for 3months & my grandmother was more into my pregnancy & her grandchild than anyone! She was wayy too involved lol.. I obviously dont know your family but given your in a happy loving relationship, planning to get married & your 10years more mature than I was at the time, they should share your happiness.. Any chance of getting married asap since your wanting to anyway, and then busting out & we're having a baby too?? Lol. Goodluck hun

[jessicaann21]

Well i'm only 17 and got pregnant but telling my family was really hard. They are also old fashioned. But they understood and have been great. Nobody can be upset about a baby. At least you are going to get married and doing what you think is right. And hopefully they understand as much as my family did.