disciplining your kids ??

[promisx]

how do you ladies discipline (hope im spelling it right ) your kids ? or how do you plan on ? do you believe in spanking ? or just time outs ?


me personally believe in spanking, whooping whatever you want to call it . the bible says " spare the rod spoil the child " something iv been told throughout my liiiiife ! but it isnt something I'd do over every little thing they do .

[esorelleinad]

I don't believe in spanking, hitting etc. I was physically abused as a child and once I got to 14 years old I found the rage and power in me to lamp my mother back! I instantly regretted it, and before anyone judges me for hitting my mother, it just goes to show that hitting someone doesnt teach right from wrong. I would hate if my son got to an age and hit me like I did my mother that day, I just got so fed up of being hit all the time when there are other ways to go about it. Being hit didn't teach me anything.

[LlamaLlover]

I was raised without any physical discipline. My parents went by "Use your words not your hands". They would talk to us about the issue instead. Also my parents were very big about not being that parent that says "do as I say and not as I do", rather they would set examples and taught us to look up to them. I have a 19mon old son and currently 20wks with baby number two and I am raising them the same way. You would be surprised of how much a toddler understands when you explain to him why they're not supposed to act out. I never want my children to be afraid of someone (especially their mommy) hurting them. You tell your children to not hit others but then you hit them? Don't be a hypocrite. Hitting is never the answer or the solution. That's just where I stand on this topic.

[Emi10172013]

My husband spanks and puts our toddler in time out I do time outs and pop his hand those are the only ways he'll listen to us but we only do those things when he's doing things that could really hurt him like eating the dog food, playing with the plug in outlets, or trying to walk out of our apartment by himself (we live on the second floor; up 20 steps) but overall he's a very good child I was spanked as a child and believe I turned out better because of it I didn't turn into a wild teen and me and my parents are very close they would always explain to me why I got spanked and even though my son is 20 months old we do the same to him well explain to him why he got popped

[Mrs_JP]

I believe to each there own. Certain kids do well with certain discipline and others don't. I cant say im going to spank my daughter because I dont know how she will be behaved or completely out of control like her father was(from what I've heard ) when he was little. The only problem I have is when other people will sit there and bash your parenting skills when its a simple spank.

[doulamommy]

My personal rule for spanking: I'll only spank her if what she's doing could hurt her worse. Examples: playing in the road, trying to climb out of her crib, walking the stairs by herself without someone helping, etc (she's not quite eighteen months).
I'd rather my daughter learn not to do certain things because spankings hurt versus her falling down the stairs/getting hit by a car, etc which could seriously hurt her.

[Lilseamonkey]

I'm only going off of what I've seen my friends go through, I was never spanked, I go to my mom for everything. My friends were all spanked or beat with a belt, and they are the ones that ran wild and never talk to their parents about anything, and still don't. My gramma sure threatened me with her wooden spoon often enough lol! But nobody ever hit me, if it works for you then bY all means, raise your children how you see fit :) just giving my opinion

[RissaDenae]

I was spanked and my parents are my best friends - always have been. My cousin who was never spanked is an entitled little brat even as a teenager. Its the same way with every kid in our family: those who were spanked and showed a firm hand whilst being raised are the ones who respect our elders and do right by our peers, and those who weren't are the kids who have gone to juvie (sp?), do bad in school, are disrespectful, etc...
My child will be raised the same way I was: I will talk to him like a little adult (none if that baby talk nonsense) and when he is deliberately acting out, he will have his butt busted.

[Ftm1990]

Just bc you spank a child doesn't mean that they will not love you or forever be afraid to come to you with their thoughts and problems..like I stated before I got spankings throughout my childhood and me and my parents are very close to this day.always have been..I know they done it bc they love me and just wanted to make sure I was safe and doing the right thing.icant thank them enough bc I know they care about and love me bc I can see they did bc of the way I was brought up and taught.we aren't talking about literal "beatings"...if that was the case in sure a child would resent you..but a good ole fashioned spanking is needed from time to time and I'm pretty sure your kid will be upset for a split second but when you explain to them what they did was wrong and that there will be repercussions bc of it they are more likely to understand and not do it again..and I know they will still love you.

[nahtanha]

I believe in spanking but at first I will talk to them and sit then down if they so it again you better believe that could will have a red bottom! !!!!!

[Lilseamonkey]

I was never spanked, I can't even remember even being in time out, my mom just always talked to me in a way that I would understand and explain that there's right and wrong. I don't believe in spanking. I don't know how ill discipline my daughter yet, but I won't be hitting her. I want my daughter to love me, and know she can come to me for anything. Not be afraid that if she needs to talk to me about something bad or come clean about something she did wrong, that she'll get a whooping.

[firsttimer2014]

I was raised from an early age to be respectful but when I was being bull headed I would get a spank and I learned real quick nope dont do that again.... so depending on the situation I will spank my kids

[ashliee93]

My mom use to spank both my sister and I. And what I can say is we almost never acted up. We always knew the consequences and we decided not to do stupid things cause of them. Kids now a days are too out of control.  I've seen kids come into my store and DESTROY it cause their parents aren't caring what they are doing. If I destroyed a store when I was young I'd definitely get a spanking that's for sure

[knufrio]

I think it works well with both as opposed to one over another... If your child knows the threat of spanking exists they'll be more likely to listen in a Time out. So most of the time only once or twice is all you need... Once they know that's an option they'll gladly accept the lesser punishment without fight

[ccaden]

My husband believes in a good spanking and seems to listen to him, i do time outs and some pats on his hand telling him what he did wrong. Yet he seems to listen to both. I think its all depending on your kid.

[Ftm1990]

Lol I agree bentleysmommy!thats all I ever do and I don't have a Facebook,instagram,twitter,nothing!i hang out with hubby and play some zombies;)haha

[mamanature]

I do both... my daughter is nearly 2 and wow shes a tough little lady!! I only smack her bottom when shes really really rude, ignores me over and over, hits other children or hits me... other then that its to her room.. shes so stubborn! I believe she needs the smacks, example, yesterday I asked her to go to thechange table and she wouldnt so I had to pick her up and take her, so she pinched my hand, hut me and when I put her on the change table she continued to kick me in the stomach, lucky im no longer pregnant.. but it hurt me so I smacked her and she kicked so I smacked and she kicked lol we had a war hhahaha, so I stopped and had to send her to her room, she will even hit her daddy back, shes too touch haha... some kids need the smacking other kids are fine with just being told off with a raised voice.....

[Bentleysmommy18]

That's just what the world has come to! One reason I don't have a Facebook lol! I have this and a cellphone! Nothing more! I need some entertainment I just watch my son play or play xbox with my hubby!

[promisx]

@Bentleysmommy18

[promisx]

lol yeas I totally agree with you , the kids today are OUT OF CONTROL ! 11 year olds talkin about some "im  sexualy frustrated!" all up on facebook -.- girl when I was 11 I was " frustrated" because my big brother wouldn't leave me alone while I play with my dolls . I don't even think I knew what sex even was lol, the only time I even used internet was to play a game . or watch funny cat videos on youtube lmao .. I actually still do that sometimes ,-, lmfao don't judge me -.-

[AOlivia94]

When I got my butt whooped I knew I was in trouble and I knew I did wrong and i made sure not to do it again. Spankings only become a problem when they are constantly used as a means of punishment. If you save a spanking for when you really need to show your child you mean business then they will listen. Sometimes time outs do not work.

[knufrio]

Actually if anyone knew law once you put hands on its battery, not assault. So don't listen to them... I was spanked as a child and you know what it worked, time out in mosr cases does not. You may think it is but children are create. My niece used to use time out to talk to her imaginary friend and didn't think of it as punishment at all. Every mom is entitled to discipline how they'd like. Its just like anything else in this world, if you don't like it, don't do it.

[Bentleysmommy18]

I agree!!^^ promisx

[promisx]

from what iv heard , it only become a felony when you injure the child , or leave any type of marks . me my brother and sister grew up getting whoopins, acting up in school more than one time , constantly bringing bad grades home , talking back , being disrespectful , or doing something a child is NOT supposed to be doing . but for my dad , everytime he gave me a whoopin he would hate to give me one , than an hour later or so he'd come apologize to me , explain why he did it and told me he loved me . every now and then we would get time outs . never have I feard my parents as a child or now , everytime I was thinking about doing something I know I wasn't supposed to do it made me remember the punishment I would receive which mad me not do it.  not only did my parents do it , but every child in the family got it done , even my friend's . none of us feard our parents . but if you were to go to far with beating a child then thats where it becomes a problem , and the child will fear you  . but me personally will be spanking them butts if they need it , only on major occasions . other than that it'll be a time put or a little swat on the hand . but I will always make sure that they know the reason and that I still love them . but yeaa , everyone has their own ways .

[Bentleysmommy18]

What happened to the good ol days when it was okay to take a switch from a tree and spat a booty! That's what's wrong with the world today! They stopped truly disciplining children and that's why 16 & pregnant come about and that's why most teenagers are up to no good, on probation already or in jail!

If anyone things that's wrong then say whatever the heck you want but I stand by it! I wish my parents would've whooped my *** more cause maybe id have an education instead of getting pregnant so young and losing every chance I had at life!

I'm lucky to have a wonderful husband that takes care of me and our kids and has been there since day one!