disciplining your kids ??

[promisx]

how do you ladies discipline (hope im spelling it right ) your kids ? or how do you plan on ? do you believe in spanking ? or just time outs ?


me personally believe in spanking, whooping whatever you want to call it . the bible says " spare the rod spoil the child " something iv been told throughout my liiiiife ! but it isnt something I'd do over every little thing they do .

[Bentleysmommy18]

I spank and do time outs for my toddler! Now it works better when it's his dad doing it but I try lol!
Something about dad's deep voice always makes him listen!

Spankings are okay and I believe in them I just don't believe in leaving marks or bruises on kids that's too much! My little guy gets a red buttcheek every now an then but only when he deserves it!

[mwinder]

I dont really believe in a spanking to me hitting yourb kids is no different then getting mad at your spouse or someone else and hitting them being  hit doesnt teach them not to do something or its wrong it teaches them if I do this im going to be hurt I think some kidsbjust

[mwinder]

Just dont listen but if you teach your children respect from a early age you should be able to teach them whats right and wrong also life is all about living and learning

[Melissa_Yvette]

I spank my toddler, not enough to leave a mark or bruise. Or I just slap his hand. But honestly it doesn't phase him anymore, he doesn't even cry, even if daddy spanks him, still nothing. We're gonna try timeouts now to see how that works out.

[Princessmikaa]

I rather put my kid on time out bc spanking isn't really gonna teach them anything. They learn as they get older you just have to know how to talk them & discipline them without putting your hands on them

[jaaked]

I plan on whooping some tail lol but I've always been taught that you should explain what the child did wrong & ask why they did it before whooping & only whoop them if they continue to do that bad thing over again because at that point they know better!

[Bentleysmommy18]

Every parent does it a different way and to each it's own! My child has ADHD and he can't help but be hyper and bad sometimes and spanking calm him down and make him listen!

Depends on the parent and kid honestly! Everyone is different!

I can guarantee that my son loves me more everyday and never any less! He needs a spanking every now and then and he knows it! Still my happy go lucky little boy that's my whole world!!:)

[bama_mama]

I dont spank, and i agree it doesnt teach them anything valuable, it just teaches them to fear you and fear pain, and to me spanks or whoopings is no different than hitting someone else when they do something you dont like. I cant ever picfure myself physiclly hitting my child (even on the rear) and causing them physical pain, i just cant do it and hurt my child. In my opinion done correctly there are a ton of other technics that work better and teaches them things that will stay with them and help them become better productive adults. To each their own though, im not saying if you spank your child your a bad person im just saying we dont do that in my home and we feel its just a lazy approach to diciplining

[abbb01]

I give a swat on the butt when my son doesnt listen for the 3rd time and I know he knows exactly what im asking of him (like climbing on entertainment center or trying to play with electric outlet) if its something more minor thats not gonna get him hurt Im nicer about it. But I will not do what my dad did famous words were belt or pick a switch.

[Shansmoon]

The way I was raised was being.beaten and hurt but I swear by mother earth only.thing I will do is put my child in time outs at 17 I was getting hit in the head with glass mugs and being beaten with belts and.fists

[Channi7]

I Dnt Plan To "Beat" My Child. But I Think If Necessary I'll Definitely Take A Switch To Those Little Legs. I Got Spankings And My Brother Got Time Outs. We Are Nothing Alike I Think It's Bc He Never Took "Discipline" Seriously. I Also Thinks It Depends On The Child Though. Some Kids You Just Have To Give Them That "Look" And They Straighten Right Up. Hopefully My Kid's Like That Lol.

[RockRose]

What we think we can do to children legally,  would be a felony assault on an adult.  

Kids aren't that hard to control.  You don't have to perpetrate a felony assault on them to get them to pay attention.  

[Ftm1990]

I got spankings and I'm not dead yet..matter of fact I learned a lot quicker to respect my parents,not talk back,and to do what I was told to do when I was told to do it.to be honest I'm glad my parents gave me the discipline that they did.i see others all around me some older some younger and some the same age that their parents had different "tactics" of discipline and they are nothing like me and I don't mean that in a good way.im thankful for my parents and how they raised me.i got my tail tore up when I needed it and when I got my whipping I knew without a doubt that what I did or said was wrong and that I didn't want to try it again.ill discipline my children the same.but to each their own.different things work for different people.

[AOlivia94]

Seriously? Felony assault? Lmao

[Ftm1990]

Lol ^^ little dramatic I thought too!

[Bentleysmommy18]

What happened to the good ol days when it was okay to take a switch from a tree and spat a booty! That's what's wrong with the world today! They stopped truly disciplining children and that's why 16 & pregnant come about and that's why most teenagers are up to no good, on probation already or in jail!

If anyone things that's wrong then say whatever the heck you want but I stand by it! I wish my parents would've whooped my *** more cause maybe id have an education instead of getting pregnant so young and losing every chance I had at life!

I'm lucky to have a wonderful husband that takes care of me and our kids and has been there since day one!

[promisx]

from what iv heard , it only become a felony when you injure the child , or leave any type of marks . me my brother and sister grew up getting whoopins, acting up in school more than one time , constantly bringing bad grades home , talking back , being disrespectful , or doing something a child is NOT supposed to be doing . but for my dad , everytime he gave me a whoopin he would hate to give me one , than an hour later or so he'd come apologize to me , explain why he did it and told me he loved me . every now and then we would get time outs . never have I feard my parents as a child or now , everytime I was thinking about doing something I know I wasn't supposed to do it made me remember the punishment I would receive which mad me not do it.  not only did my parents do it , but every child in the family got it done , even my friend's . none of us feard our parents . but if you were to go to far with beating a child then thats where it becomes a problem , and the child will fear you  . but me personally will be spanking them butts if they need it , only on major occasions . other than that it'll be a time put or a little swat on the hand . but I will always make sure that they know the reason and that I still love them . but yeaa , everyone has their own ways .

[Bentleysmommy18]

I agree!!^^ promisx

[knufrio]

Actually if anyone knew law once you put hands on its battery, not assault. So don't listen to them... I was spanked as a child and you know what it worked, time out in mosr cases does not. You may think it is but children are create. My niece used to use time out to talk to her imaginary friend and didn't think of it as punishment at all. Every mom is entitled to discipline how they'd like. Its just like anything else in this world, if you don't like it, don't do it.

[AOlivia94]

When I got my butt whooped I knew I was in trouble and I knew I did wrong and i made sure not to do it again. Spankings only become a problem when they are constantly used as a means of punishment. If you save a spanking for when you really need to show your child you mean business then they will listen. Sometimes time outs do not work.

[promisx]

lol yeas I totally agree with you , the kids today are OUT OF CONTROL ! 11 year olds talkin about some "im  sexualy frustrated!" all up on facebook -.- girl when I was 11 I was " frustrated" because my big brother wouldn't leave me alone while I play with my dolls . I don't even think I knew what sex even was lol, the only time I even used internet was to play a game . or watch funny cat videos on youtube lmao .. I actually still do that sometimes ,-, lmfao don't judge me -.-

[promisx]

@Bentleysmommy18

[Bentleysmommy18]

That's just what the world has come to! One reason I don't have a Facebook lol! I have this and a cellphone! Nothing more! I need some entertainment I just watch my son play or play xbox with my hubby!

[mamanature]

I do both... my daughter is nearly 2 and wow shes a tough little lady!! I only smack her bottom when shes really really rude, ignores me over and over, hits other children or hits me... other then that its to her room.. shes so stubborn! I believe she needs the smacks, example, yesterday I asked her to go to thechange table and she wouldnt so I had to pick her up and take her, so she pinched my hand, hut me and when I put her on the change table she continued to kick me in the stomach, lucky im no longer pregnant.. but it hurt me so I smacked her and she kicked so I smacked and she kicked lol we had a war hhahaha, so I stopped and had to send her to her room, she will even hit her daddy back, shes too touch haha... some kids need the smacking other kids are fine with just being told off with a raised voice.....