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ex threatening
Okey so i am currently 22 weeks pregnant but dont know for sure who the father is.
A bit of background: ive known my ex for over 6 years and wad in a relationship with him for 4 years, lived with him for over 3. I did everything for him, cooking cleaning, washing, even got clean clothes ready for him before he showered, looked after his 15+ fish tanks, including changing the water weekly, plus we lived with 2 of his friends and i cleaned after them swell and cooked them dinner too. He was abusive mentally, always putting me down and would not take no for an answer when i didn't feel like giving him bjs ( he didn't want to have sex with me most of the time) so he wad pretty much raping me day in day out but i thought its alright coz i loved him. Also tying me up or tolling me in a carpet, kicking me out of the shower and me having to go outside to hose myself down to get rid of soap, so there's slot of horrid things i put up with because i was so in love with him and thought he'll change one day. Also i was working for 2 years for the time we were together and he took most my pay every week the whole time.
The relationship ended coz im from overseas and went to visit my family after almost 3 years of not seeing them and he cheated on me, actually planned to cheat on me and told me all about it, i came back to him in the hopes of working it all out but he kicked me out with no money and saying that if it doesn't work out with this new girl he'll take me back.
I fell in love with someone else tho and was seeing this new person when my ex decided he wants me back and stupidly i did go back for a few days but couldn't do it and ended up going for the new guy who is now my husband ( love him so much) but a month after going back to my ex and finally deciding its all over with him i found out i was pregnant.
Unfortunately id had unprotected sex with both of them within 2 days and can't be sure who the father is. Im praying its my husbands tho to us it doesn't really matter except for my ex threatening to take my baby away from me after its born if it does happen to be his.
My ex comes up with the most delusional things and is stressing me out. I have not said anything about him not being able to see the baby if it is his but i will not let him take my baby away from me no matter what. I'll do anything i can to keep him from getting full custody because after all he put me through i don't think he is capable of looking after any living thing.
Its so hard and stressful when i should be happy and excited. I've got severe depression from being with him( was cutting myself while with him) and i just want to move on and be happy with my husband but my ex is ruining one of the happiest occasion of my life.
Im sorry its so long but only my husband knows everything and he is helping me and supporting me and i just needed to get this out.
There's so much more my ex has threatened me with due to me not being a citizen, it just does my head in that i ever fell in love with that man.
Sorry again. Quite the novel heh. Thanks for reading.
A bit of background: ive known my ex for over 6 years and wad in a relationship with him for 4 years, lived with him for over 3. I did everything for him, cooking cleaning, washing, even got clean clothes ready for him before he showered, looked after his 15+ fish tanks, including changing the water weekly, plus we lived with 2 of his friends and i cleaned after them swell and cooked them dinner too. He was abusive mentally, always putting me down and would not take no for an answer when i didn't feel like giving him bjs ( he didn't want to have sex with me most of the time) so he wad pretty much raping me day in day out but i thought its alright coz i loved him. Also tying me up or tolling me in a carpet, kicking me out of the shower and me having to go outside to hose myself down to get rid of soap, so there's slot of horrid things i put up with because i was so in love with him and thought he'll change one day. Also i was working for 2 years for the time we were together and he took most my pay every week the whole time.
The relationship ended coz im from overseas and went to visit my family after almost 3 years of not seeing them and he cheated on me, actually planned to cheat on me and told me all about it, i came back to him in the hopes of working it all out but he kicked me out with no money and saying that if it doesn't work out with this new girl he'll take me back.
I fell in love with someone else tho and was seeing this new person when my ex decided he wants me back and stupidly i did go back for a few days but couldn't do it and ended up going for the new guy who is now my husband ( love him so much) but a month after going back to my ex and finally deciding its all over with him i found out i was pregnant.
Unfortunately id had unprotected sex with both of them within 2 days and can't be sure who the father is. Im praying its my husbands tho to us it doesn't really matter except for my ex threatening to take my baby away from me after its born if it does happen to be his.
My ex comes up with the most delusional things and is stressing me out. I have not said anything about him not being able to see the baby if it is his but i will not let him take my baby away from me no matter what. I'll do anything i can to keep him from getting full custody because after all he put me through i don't think he is capable of looking after any living thing.
Its so hard and stressful when i should be happy and excited. I've got severe depression from being with him( was cutting myself while with him) and i just want to move on and be happy with my husband but my ex is ruining one of the happiest occasion of my life.
Im sorry its so long but only my husband knows everything and he is helping me and supporting me and i just needed to get this out.
There's so much more my ex has threatened me with due to me not being a citizen, it just does my head in that i ever fell in love with that man.
Sorry again. Quite the novel heh. Thanks for reading.
Have your husband sign the birth certificate. In most states that makes him the legal father and your ex can't do anything
Thanks, think ill have to do that if he doesnt stop threatening me. He doesnt know my number but found out where i live because the girl he cheated on me with lives around the corner so not the ideal situation but me and hubby moving in a month anyways.
I would contact your local police department and make a report about how you are scared for your safety and the safety of your unborn child because of this man. Just in case anything happens. I would also cease all communication with him. Change your phone numbers, email address, stop talking to mutual friends, anything you can think of that will make it harder for you to contact him. If your husband is willing to accept this child no matter what, then don't even bother doing a dna test, because then that could possibly give him ammo to keep fighting you. He can't force a dna test on you. And mamaof4410 is right, in most states and provinces the husband is the legal father regardless of dna. My own dad went through this when he found out his dad was not his biological dad. But because he was married to his mom, all papers said he was the father.
Thats what i gathered but its just the whole situation is way too stressful to be any good for tje baby or me. No question in there but i needed to get it out.
If this second guy is legally your husband depending on what state your in the legal husband at the time of birth is the legal father regardless.
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