family

[scottsgirl2011]

hey all can you help or give me advise.

I am coming to an end of my first trimester and my partner of almost 2.5 years has not yet told his family, his sister knows and is very excited about the baby and being a irst time aunty like wise my sisters and parents are happy not so much my dad but he exepts it. any way myself and his sister have tried speeking to him to get him to open up to his mum and dad before they find out by any one else as people talk lol i think he is scared we are both in out 20s he is coming up to 23 and i am coming up to 24 lol and this is our first. i personnaly do not know his parents but they know of me which is good and keep asking about me and how i am his sister feels bad and so do i as she is in a possition were she will get in trouble if her parents find out and then find out she new and never said anything i think it is unfair on his sister who i get on with very well she was the first person i told he is happy that he is going to b a dad for the first time i can understand he is scared but he needs to tell his mum and dad as it is not his sisters place to say or mine as i do not know his parents much pls help xx

[scottsgirl2011]

no no he aint ashamed he is very excited about becoming a dad but as any new expectant perant we had our doubts about if we could manage finacially when he goes back to afghan he has gotten over the initial shock like my self as it was not planed well it kinda was but we were going to wait till after afghan next year but it came sooner then expected we are happy so i dont know why he is affraid to tell his parents i think it is becausse before he joined the army he was not always an angle if you know what i mean he was in trouble with the law and almost faced a prison sentance for stealing and crashing a car in which he almost died so he was up for theft and attempted manslauther but as he was thinken about joining army they gave him a dead line and comunity service which he completed after his training the amry has made him the man he is today and has made him a better more disciplined person so i think thay he is affraid to tell his parents incase they are dissapointed in him as he has been doing so well and has been given his first promotion and another pay rise his parents are so proud of him now and so am i but i think that he must feel that they will change their opinion of him which i doubt very much even his sister is saying they will b happy about becoming grandperants but obviously they will like any perant be concerend if we can manage if anything happens to him in service or in afghan so i ahve no idea what he is scared of xx

[PoohsMommi]

He isnt ashamed is he ? Why he wait this long ?

[missymay34]

I did not meet my husbands family until after we were already married and he did not even tell them about our daughter until I was well into my 2nd trimester. Give him time he will tell them. Why would he be worried in the first place?

[scottsgirl2011]

we are he keeps saying today today i will try but he never does so it is getting quite fustrating now he is currently trainging to go back to afghan at the moment as he is with the british army so im not sure if that has anything to do with it but if he dont do it then his sister will haev to and that just wont be good tbh xx

[bb421]

Omg that was my exact situation except he is 22 n I'm 24 n we weren't together long. Keep on him...he will come around.