delivery room issues

[april_baby_momma]

Am I the only one who doesn't want very many people to come visit while in the delivery room, like before and after birth? I dont want any of my friends to come see me in that condition and I REALLY don't want any of my bfs family there since they all just consider me his trashy *****, even though weve been together for 3 yrs. I don't even want my family coming over there for that other then my parents and sisters since we live with them and my mom is insisting on being in the room when I give birth.

Is thay wrong of me?

[isabela2]

I feel the same way as you I don't want visitors and I don't want my mother in law in the room when I'm having the baby but somehow she invited herself and I just don't want her there she is loud obnoxious and she is very rude! But I don't know hoe to tell my husband that I only want him and my mom in the room.

[jmalone1031]

Well when you tell them be the bigger person and just explain to her it's not personal and that not even much of your friends or family will be there. You can also have the nurses tell them that you need your rest if you don't want to tell them yourself :) whatever happens your man needs to back you though :)

[april_baby_momma]

Idk how to tell the cousins and friends and all the family, his moms side of the family especially, that I don't want any company there. His mom hates me, so does her whole side of his family and I do not want them there at all. Not even for just a minute or two and I know they will show up bc it's her first grandchild. Shes done so wrong by him that I dont even know why he wants her to be anywhere around our child.

I aint even told him I dont want hardly anyone there. I just dont know how to say it without him getting mad at me over ir.

[jmalone1031]

When I give birth it will just be my husband there. I feel for me personally it is such an intimate thing that I just want between the 2 of us! And dr.s and nurses of course.  And probably no visitors until the next day so we can get our rest. I won't mind people posting photos but only after I've posted myself :) you have to do what makes YOU comfortable at the end of the day :) people will get over hurt feelings.  And if they don't respect you and your decisions they certainly don't deserve to be there :)

[GSYoung]

I haven't even considered the people I want there no one In mine or his family are insisting on being there it's just my mom and my husband, in the delivery room and I didn't plan on having visitors except maybe my brother and aunts, I tend to keep to myself so hopefully they don't start up with anything even if they do my husband sticks up for me a lot when his family starts harassing me about the baby they aren't rude of anything their just persistent and ask too much.

[iLovekjoy2]

I don't want company either just because its flu season and I don't want extra people around other then bd and my 3 year old. Also, with my last pregnancy I had so much company that I could hardly bond with her bc people were stopping by and wanting to hold her.

[lexie_423]

Same here im 21 weeks but still thinking about not having anyone there but mom sister boyfriend dad , and bf dad but noone else I think it would be so fustrating having everyone there !

[lovemia28]

I understand you, in my case i told my hubby that i just want 2 people in the room with me, just hem and my mom and just bc of I say that we have a big  fight about it, he could understand y i don't want his family in the room, he was very mad with me for hours but after i explain why he was okay with my decision, i just feel comfortable with my mom and my hubby I mean is a moment where u  going to want to be comfortable not a party. i just thinking that i will be nude in the room  and his family in the room LoL nop sorry!!!!!    is my opinion. don't feel bad! okay  

[Jewelz05]

Same Here I Completely Understand,  I Already Told My Boyfriend I Rather It Just Be Us Since Its Our First And I Want Us To Share The Special Momment...Plus I Think Its Too Much It Probably Be OverWhelming You Need Rest &&_ Your Baby Needs Time With Mommy &&_ Daddy lol. If Anything They Should See The Baby Whenever Your Ready Not Because They Want To Come .... Good Luck!

[FloridaMommyof2]

My mom was in the room when I had my daughter. (I was 16). However I'm 19 now and I've made it clear my fiancé and I will be the only ones in the room at the time of birth. After he is born I want our daughter brought in so the 4 of us can spend time together. I've also thought about keeping it small as to the guest. Last time I had EVERYBODY coming and going the entire time I was at the hospital. I'm thinking of keeping it just my family (mom,dad,moms bf, sister&her bf  & mybrother) and then his (parents and 2 siblings). My bestfriend/only friend is moving so she's going to be video called when he is born.

[summer9284]

That is understandable. I dont want a million visitors either, id prefer to get as much rest as i can before coming home. I am contemplating when i will notify both sides of the family and I'm thinking after i have the baby so do what makes you comfortable girly!!!

[jmstb]

Same ! I don't even want pictures taken after my baby is born specially if they're going to put it up on fb or instagram. Only my sister and my boyfriend are going in the room with me .

[moonmoon18]

Nope. I completely understand.