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how to break the news to "in laws"?
Were nervous about telling my bf's parents. Weve been together four years im 19 hes 25. I think they think im older than I am since theyve offered me alcohol before? He still lives at home but they are very accepting of me, let me stay the night whenever I want (which us often a la baby on the way lol) they bought me christmas presents the past few years and invite me to tons of family events. Im even on his family's cell phone plan. Were just worried that they will be mad and kick him out. Anyone in a similar situation? How and when did you tell them? How did they react?
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I reckon you should put your scan picture in a special card that says congratulations nanny and grampy (or whatever you think they will want to be called) then both of you sit them down and give them it. Once they have seen it just go by their reaction. If they are mad just calmly say we are sorry you feel like that but we are very happy and excited. We would really like your support while we finish saving for our deposit etc... whether they are happy for you or mad just explain to them your short and long term plans so they know that you aren't expecting them to do anything other than what they are doing now other than be grandparents. Then if they are mad give them some space to get used to the idea. If they are decent people which they sound like they are they will come round pretty quickly. Hope this helps. Good luck and congrats :) xxx
thanks youngmum91 thats a really cute idea! and mama_luther that is exactly what i am afraid of but it sounds like its working out for you so thats good! glad to know im not the only one worried about the significant other's parent's reaction! I know my parents won't really care my mom got pregnant with me when she was 18 so she cant really say anything. congrats moms! :)
Im sort of in the same situation except we live in my fiances moms house ( shes moving out in 6months) the one thing she has made clear is that we should wait 7years to have kids because she didnt want to be a gma yet ( not even kidding) we found out on Christmas eve and told her as her Christmas present to which she replied"are you f****** kidding me" we thought she would kick us out and although shes a bit upset she's really come around good luck and remember they cant be mad forever and no one can ruin your happy unless you let them!!
Well since u put it that way maybe they wud of appreciated him telling them the reason he moved back in was to save mney to a bby or since ur "already half way thr " if he's afraid of getting kicked out he can tell him once yall have enough since he has a gud job shudnt take long
I put "inlaws" in quotes bc were not married yet. And the whole point of him staying there is to save money while i live at school. He makes a good amount of money. Before we found out I was pregnant we were saving for a down payment on a house (more than half way there). My question wasnt about his competence as an adult or a father it was about how to tell his parents that we are having a baby.
"Inlaws" then u call him "bf" kinda confused r yall married?? Well if he's 25he Shud have his own house nd b able to take care of his family so maybe that's y they wud b mad if they feel like they r raising their grown son then I'm sure they wud feel like they wud also have to help raise their grand bby... So cudnt blame them if they get mad if I was u I wud tell him he has a kid on the way nd needs to step up nd do wht a man is supose to do sorry if that sounds harsh I just cudnt imagine bn married to a 25yr old who lives w his parents still
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