telling parents

[layniebug]

Im 31 , not married  pregnant and actually scared to tell my parents, yes at my age i'm scared! I am an adult so I shouldn't be, but I know my parents, especially my mom will give me hell... Im so excited i'm having a baby, I want my parents to share my joy :(

[layniebug]

Thx mambear!

[MamaBear0612]

We'll always be their babies, but if you (gently) remind them that you're a grown woman and have the resources and ability to care for a child, it'll sink in. I gave them a wrapped present, inside was a framed picture for each of them of a sonogram. It took them a minute to figure it out, but when they did it was definitely one of those priceless moments. :)

And by the way, they'd never met my ex either. They've actually never met anybody I've ever dated, I keep my private life very private. After I told them, I talked about him a lot, always trying to stay positive about him. They finally met him when I was 30 weeks pregnant at my shower. Not ideal, but they like him anyway. It's different doing it this way, but if you tell them you're trying to create a positive family situation for your baby, they'll try too.

[layniebug]

Ty so much to everyone for the support & ideas.
I agree kkrb, sadly I still get treated as though im 15 @  times lol
I know they just want the ideal situation for me, but such is life

[layniebug]

Congrats to you as well!
I need to just get it over with! And if she's mad she's mad, let her cool off and get over it. My sister had her 1st @ 19 and mom eventually came around, now 5 grandkids later from my sister she's in love w each of them. I'm just hoping she realizes how truly happy I am and want them to be too.
hell, im not getting any younger lol

[Jwilliams229]

Congrats on your pregnancy!  When I got pregnant my hubby and I were not married.  It was a few weeks before Christmas when we found out.  So I held off telling my mom until xmas eve.  I got her a picture frame that said guess who;s going to be a grandma.  Here reaction was piceless.  I was worreid because she always said she wanted us to be married before kids.  But she was estatic.  She could not be happier and when my husband and I got married a few months later she is even more happy to have a great son-in-law.  I chose the present thing becuase I couldnt get the words out of my mouth to tell her.  So if you find that might be easier or a conversation starter it might help.  Good luck and let us know how you make out.

[kkrb]

I had to tell my mother at 15, and 17 that I was pregnant.    I believe 30 is old enough to do yer own thing. They should be happy(:

[Nola18852]

Congrats.. I'm 27 and had to tell my mother, worst of all me and BD r not in good terms, and she has never met him. I told her and she seemed a bit dissapointed because am not married, but i guess she consulted with other relatives and they told her i am not 21 and i have a good Job, so she has accepted it, calls to check up on me every other day...  And gives advice on the pregnancy.

So don't worry, they mIght not b thrilled at first but once they get used to the idea, they'll b excited.

Good luck.

[Nola18852]

Congrats.. I'm 27 and had to tell my mother, worst of all me and BD r not in good terms, and she has never met him. I told her and she seemed a bit dissapointed because am not married, but i guess she consulted with other relatives and they told her i am not 21 and i have a good Job, so she has accepted it, calls to check up on me every other day...  And gives advice on the pregnancy.

So don't worry, they mIght not b thrilled at first but once they get used to the idea, they'll b excited.

Good luck.

[layniebug]

I just know how they reacted after my sister told them she was prego years ago & that's stuck in head.
I feel the same, im old enough, i'm mature and I have a great job. the father & I are ok, they don't know him which is going to cause an issue too...
Im hoping eventually they'll get over it, I just don't know how to bring it up.Any suggestions?

Im beyond excited, I was beginning  to think id never be blessed enough to have a little miracle

[MamaBear0612]

Why do you think you'd be upset? I'm in my 30s too, and the baby's father and I had just broke up when I told them, but my folks were happy. My mom honestly was kinda worried about the single mom thing, but I was like, Mom, I'm not 16, and she was mostly happy. My dad was over the moon, he thought I was getting old lol, and he'd never get a grandbaby. :)