living with in laws

[kmommy2b]

Does anyone have experience living with in laws and if so how did it work out for you? im nervous about it and need advice before i make the decision to move there.  i live an hour from my boyfriend and if i dont move there i wont have any help.. we r saving for a down payment on a house and are trying to stay with his parents for about a year to get the money up and im worried about how its gonna be living with them. Can someone give me advice or help on makin this decision?

[Berplus1]

It really depends...  from what you say it sounds like you might butt heads a little bit but be sure to set boundaries especially where baby is concerned!  It will be nice that u live with someone who could help u with baby when neccessary just make sure they are doing it to your standards!  I lived with my in laws for about 4 years but they are very chill and I didn't have a baby at the time so it was great!

[Galvez]

We movd in wit my parents wen we got pregnant cz we were trying to save but 2years was not good for us everybody hot along but eventually my marriage started falling apart the best thing we could do was to get out on our own. Don't get me wrong my parents n hurband were great with each other but the loss of privacy, things going mising n other stuff eventually got to us so the best thing we could of done was to move on

[chickenlittle13]

My fiance and i are currently living with my in laws and for the most part its ok. his mom is a nurse so shes really helpful. his sister is a pain in my a*ss tho. she was supposed to move out this weekend but ended up not. well she said she didnt care if we took her bed down bc weve been sleeping on a mattress on the floor for about 2 weeks waiting for her to move out. well she got pissed off last night and went off saying the f-word constantly and i just couldnt handle it. when she doesnt get her way she is a total brat.

[tordee]

I lived with my in laws for over a year. I hated it. My boyfriends sister and husband also lived there. I would be the only one who cleaned. We would give his parents money every paycheck while his sister and her husband wouldn't pay anything. They both had good paying jobs and no baby at the time. It wasn't fair. I could walk into a room and it suddenly got quiet. I knew they all talked about me behind my back. I started getting depressed and would cry all the time. Then we moved in with my dad, sooo much better.

[kmommy2b]

I get along with them but im most worried about them being up my butt about alot of things.. his dad is from the middle east and has problems with turning the air on in the summer and putting the heat on in the winter because of how much it costs. they are retired and have ALOT of money but do not like to spend it(they are really cheap) and get mad when we want to buy stuff for our baby or go to dinner once in a while. his mom is american and is cool and really nice but she does too much for everyone and i feel like shes gonna be butting in alot with the baby, and im going to have a problem with that because my bf and i want to raise the baby together the way we want to not the way she wants to

[BabyTurnip]

I did a few years back. It was okay the first bit but quickly got on my nerves. They dont have the same values i do and unfortunately didnt care if their house looked like a pig style. So the first couple months i would clean a lot becaise thats how i was raised. They got use to it and when i got tired of picking up after there **** all the time and i did a little less they got pissed off saying we did nothing around the house. So i decided i was gonna do as much as my SIL did which was nothing. There was a lot more to it too. I gave them money to help out and they kept asking for more but never got groceries or half there bills payed so they asked for even more. I got out very fast. And we moved six hours away lol but if u can stand it for a year or so, just keep smiling, be polite.....but dont let them try and take advantage of you either.

[maybay]

^agreed. Just remember it is their house even if you live there you are still a guest. So mind your manners, help out around the house, and be respectful it will go a long way.

[jessileanne]

Ive lived with them the past year or so. They are so wonderful that it makes me feel bad sometimes.

But, getting along with anyone you live with can be a challenge at any time. If you are friendly, helpful, and open as well ad respectful it should rarely be a problem.

[Bubbs92]

Well it all depends on if you get along with the in laws. My husband and I were living with his mom about 2years ago and his sister, her ex partner now and her 3 kids also moved in.. And that did not end well.. So we are back with his mother and his sister broke up with her partner now her and the 3 kids are back in with her.. We had to give our bed to his mom so we had to come and stay with my folks because there is no room for us there, but I love it at my mom and dads.. There's so much more room and privacy. My advice is to if it gets too much for you go sit in your room for a bit. Don't ignore your in laws and be their friend. Im lucky because I get on with my MIL. Good luck, it's not the easiest but you'll be fine :).x