mom issues

[blackdove69]

Mom was mad at me 4 not wanting her in the room when i deliver...so i changed my mind but deep in my heart i don't want her there yea this is my 1st but she also has 3 other grands n she saw 2 of them b born she couldn't make it to the other cuz he came 2 fast the thing is how can she b mad its my moment not hers n all she do is argue with me n say mean things i live with my mom still but i dont want her there am i wrong

[newmom2012]

I know how u feel my sister is my problem so I stay away from her and it helps to have these website to talk to others. I understand how it is at times with crazy people. My sister will not be called when I go in are get home.

[blackdove69]

Thanks...she truly makes me stress to the point that i had to.talk to someone at the 1800 Crisis Center HotLine cuz she was making me DEPRESSED

[newmom2012]

No your not wrong at all you need to be stress free

[blackdove69]

Your so right...i thank you so much i know she gone to be mad but eventually she have get over it n besides a baby coming into the world so she just has to get over it

[MamaBear0612]

If you ask for an apology before you let her in the room, it's probably going to deteriorate into an argument. I think if I were you, I would just say that it's something you want to experience just between your child's father and yourself, and leave it there. You're the one who gives permission for who's in the room, which means that the nurses will block her from the room if you ask them to. She's having a selfish moment, it's somewhat understandable but in the  end, you've got to do what's right for you. She got to make that decision when she had her kids, now it's your turn.

[blackdove69]

I tried telling her she a very loud bold woman...i thought bout asking for an apology for the things she said b4 letting her in the room...she told me that she think b4 she speak there 4 what she said was no mistake told me im drop.my son n hurt him im a FTM but haved worked with many kids n babies n took care of my nephews cuz they had parents that love to party reasons she said them thing was cuz i don't want her 2 b n the room WHY CANT SHE BE UNDERSTANDING

[VaniDavila]

I think if you don't want her there then there's nothing wrong with that. It's your special moment and you have the right to say who's there and who's not. Let me tell you though, with my first daughter I was in labor for a long time and my mom was very supportive (more than my husband, he slept thru almost everything). I ended up needing a c-section and I felt bad because she couldn't be there, only one person and that was my husband.  You should tell her how you feel and let her know that her arguing makes you uncomfortable.

[blackdove69]

Wish she understand that its my day n decision i got a friend that want to support me but i just want me n the bd n the room...y do i feel so bad bout my decision

[MamaBear0612]

I'm not having my mom in the room, but for a different reason. She freaks out easily, especially when one of her kids are in trouble or in pain, and I feel like I have enough to worry about with the whole labor thing without worrying about her too. She's a sweetheart though, and she's fine with it, at least she hasn't said anything about it. They'll be the first visitors allowed in the room after the birth, and that's enough. I do feel like it's your day, so do what makes you comfortable.