im so frustrasted with my mom!

[Ayanag7]

Me and my mom never had a great bond, she never attempted to have a good bond with me. And every since I've been pregnant she put this fake personality on like she wants to make up for it, and every time we give each other a hug I can just feel how fake it is. I'm getting induced this Thursday and she been asking me can she be in the delivery room to watch and I told her no I just want it to be me and my husband, and she's steady trying to talk me into it by telling me aww I really want to be there, that's not fair, or I want to video tape it and I told her my delivery isn't a movie I don't want it video taped so she said well o can hold your leg while you're pushing and I told her you can just see him when he gets here you don't have to watch him come out of me. It seems like she wants to see me down there. And its weird. And when she was leaving she gave me a hug a told me you filled out so much, and I said what you mean? I'm fat? What are you trying to say? She just really gets on my nerves and she always says the most hurtful things, but try to sound nice with it, she also told me she hope my son don't come out looking like me she hope he looks like my husband!

[jaxsmomtobe]

Your baby your delivery I think you should only have positive and loving people with you, you don't need any added stress be it from your mother or anyone else. Your baby being born should be a happy and exciting experience so don't let anyone guilt you into something you don't want. This coming from someone with a great relationship with her mother, once my labor is in full effect my mom will be leaving the room since she can't take seeing people in pain and i'm afraid on her reaction to things stressing me out and she is completely understanding. Good luck with your delivery! I'm also being induced Thursday and way excited to meet my little guy and that's all you should be feeling right now ☺

[sharonda_heather2015]

Exactly that's all I'm saying.
  Babies change people.

[mandyalyssa]

Some people wont understand and thats fine but i qet what you mean , my mom wasnt there either and now she wants to act as if it didnt happen and thats not ok . My mom talks about my weiqht as well and Id just rather not be around it . I qet what you mean , you do what you feel is riqht reqardless of anyones opinion because noone has to deal with it but you

[Destynee2015]

My mother can be this way but ive grown to learn why. There may be things you dont know about your mother and the reasons for the way she acts but shes still your mother. I learned my mom grew up not having a great bond with my grandma either so she nvr really learned how to be a mother or how to be loving towards her children. I still love her and I respect her even though i can barely get her to even say I love you back at times. Ut hurts but as long as your showing that ur not being resentful, your doing your best. I think you should give her the opportunity to be in the room to see her grandchild be born. A baby can change a lot of people. Maybe shell open up to you more. Just give her a chance. Hope I helped a little sharing my experience. Take care

[Ayanag7]

Exactly Shanaya

[sharonda_heather2015]

Hope it gets better for you.
   Just stay away from her

[sharonda_heather2015]

Well okay

[Shanaya3]

I am so shocked after listening your story..I mean how can be mother like this especially who gave you a birth.?

[Ayanag7]

I'm not disowning her. My husband see how she talks to me, treats me, and he don't like it either. And he's really big on family. I just let go of her a long time ago, she didn't raise me, she was never there for me like a mother should be, she used to fight me when I was a kid. (Punching me pulling my hair) and now I'm grown she wants to make up for it, but she still does hurtful things. Of course I wouldn't disown her because she said I gain weight, that's what happen with pregnancy. I don't like her because what she put me through and still continue to do it and she thinks she deserves to watch her grandchild be born. I think not

[sharonda_heather2015]

So because she said you gained weight you want to disown her.?
  At the end of the day you only get one mother so you might want to rethink things. Me and my mother never had a great bond. But it didn't make me love her any less. I be so mad at her I can yell. But I'm 24 and I don't live either her so it gives me a lot of space. Family is really big. My mom gave me life and I will always respect her for that.
   I didn't want my mom in the room either but she said she wants to see all jer grand children born. So I invited Her Anyway. Hey that's the least I can do. We may fight all the time but I know when the world is against me I will always have my mother and her love no matter.  Plus I don't want my daughter to do the same to me lol

[Ayanag7]

She my birth mom.

[Ayanag7]

Yes after she left me and my husband was talking about not inviting her back over because every time she come she bring negative energy. And she says something hurtful every time. My husband literally had to bite his tongue after she said I filled out. Really? You going to say that to a 9 month pregnant woman? Ugh

[Shanaya3]

Is she your own mother.? Or your mother in law.??

[mandyalyssa]

I never had a qreat bond with my mom either and its the same situation as well , and once my first baby was born she tried to control everythinq and it was extremely annoyinq . Its youre baby and whatever you say is what qoes . I stopped talking my mom after giving her plenty of chances to chanqe her attitude and her rude comments and nothing chanqed . Now shes the only one suffering because she cant see my kids since I dont want to be around her neqative enerqy .