new mon

[zaydensmommy79]

Did any of you ladies have a hard time adapting to being a new mom? Did u immediately become a fantastic mother the second your baby was born or did u struggle? I'm a new mom I had my son a week ago and I'm having the hardest time. I'm very overwhelmed and depressed. I feel like I can't do anything right and I feel like I'm a bad mother to my son. I feel like he doesn't bond with me, but does with everyone else. I know that's not true but I feel so ashamed of myself for feeling so down. I get so overwhelmed especially at night waking up I'm so exhausted and I get so upset all the time and my boyfriend is always telling me how I'm a bad mother and that my son doesn't need me because I do nothing for him. At first I didn't believe that I love my son and I try so hard for him, but now I believe it.

[zaydensmommy79]

Thank you ladies I appreciate the supportive words, u all have no idea how much it helps to hear these things

[Love35888]

Im sorry this is a hard time for you. When I had my first daughter it was hard getting adjusted to being a mom.
You'll learn his different crys. Try to hold him and feed him as much as you can. Sleep with him.
Don't worry about cleaning or anything.  Your son will get big so fast this stage will be over before you know it.
As for you boyfriend,  damn could he be more of an a*s.. (sorry)
He should be supportive,  being a new mom is very hard.
Dont let gim get into your head and bring you down.
I hope thing get better hun:))

[sambino93]

Im not a mom yet but in the matter of weeks or days maybe hours i will be and I had fears like this. You certainly sound like you may have post partum depression. You should contact a pharmacist. They will help you through this life changing event.I have never been depressed in my life until I was pregnant and had to talk to a professional as well. It will help.

You can be the only judge of if your a good mother or not.and most likley youll be too hard on yourself. In my eyes being there for your child, providing what you can, loving, and caring for your child is the definition of a 'good mom'. No one will hand you an award or tell you that your the best because that is simply not rational. There is no 'best' there are only just moms.

Bonds don't happen right away either sometimes it takes weeks or days and sometimes professional helpis needed. dont let someone judge you on being a mother. Because you are the only mother to that baby and you are important to thay child.if someone has negative things to say maybe they are the people you should seperate yourself and your baby from.

[Jessica712]

In my opinion, your baby needs you more than anyone right now. Hes your new born. Dont let what your bf tells you get to you. Im sure everything is very overwhelming right now but youll get past this soon enough. And youll see that everything you have done for your baby boy is worth it.

[scribblechick16]

It's hard to feel like a mom sometimes. But if these feeling are hanging around and not getting better, talk to your doctor. You could have postpartum depression