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[My2LoveBugs]

I honestly don't know what to do in this situation. . . I have a 4 year old daughter , & her dad has never really been an active person or role model in her life . . . As I am typing this , I can't do anything but cry & think because I can see in my child's eyes that she's really hurting from him not being there for her in ways that he should be but I can't make him . I haven't talked to him in God knows when . . . He has a 2 year old daughter that he has spent more time with than my child & my daughter is the oldest . It tears me apart when my child cries , everytime she does she always says "I want my daddy" . & she always says this . What do I do??? Should I contact him?

[loveYou4Ever11]

Your situation is a tough one. I wouldn't contact him just because if he really wanted to be there for your daughter he would look for her. And seeing the fact that hes justt been a ghost is a no brainer for me..but then again if your daughter is asking for him and cries about it maybe i would reach out and do it for her. So i woulf say you can go for it and see how much involved he is in her life after that..like i said your in a tough situation but i hope the best for you and your babygirl

[jewels94]

My mom and i went through this with my biological father.. It is a really hard situation to deal with from a child perspective. You can do what my mom did: she would invite him to come and spend holidays, or my birthday, or just a random say with me. He never did but I saw my mom try, and as I got older I realized it was him and not her. If you don't try and contact him she might blameand say you didn't try and help, and that is not what you want. You want her to realize you have and did go to bat for her and were always trying to help. It's going to be hard I'm not going to lie. I don't know how many times I would cry because he would never show up when he said he would. I don't know what type of man he is but with the way you described him it sounds like she will be too. And I'm sorry she is and going to experience that kind of heart break if he doesn't change. All you can do is be strong for her and help her wipe the tears away and put the process back together.. Good luck momma you're in a difficult situation..

[missymarie214]

My nieces are going through a similar situation with their mom as she's gone MIA with some dead beat guy, and they cry for her all the time. They're actually both in children's therapy to help cope with the situation, and the advice from the therapist was that if it's not guaranteed that the other parent is going to be in their life all of the time, it's best to just let it go. Only seeing the other parent occasionally is much more harmful for them than to just be allowed to "mourn" the loss of the other parent for lack of a better word. I'd reach out, but I'd be cautious about letting them interact until you know for sure he's serious about being there, and not just going to see her a time or two, and then be gone again. It is really heartbreaking to see a child cry for their parent, but trust me, it's even harder to see them hurt over and over again. I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but I'm sure you'll find the best way to work through this. Good luck!

[lovemyboys2]

with my oldest son(now 6) he has never seen his father. his father told me not to contact him and i never have. a few years ago my son asked me why he doesnt have a daddy and i told him that not everyone has a mother or a father and i named a few of his friends that dont have both parents in their lives. but my current bf has been there for him since he was 2 1/2 and i told him that he can always look up to my bf as a father. their relationship has grown really close and theg do things as "father and son" so he isnt missing out. if he doesnt want to be there for his daughter believe me.... there are good men in this world that will take her under their wing and consider her their own. my bf says he has 3 kids. our 3 y/o, the baby im pregnant with, and my oldest

[My2LoveBugs]

Thank You Guys Sooo Much, I Been Came To My Realization That If He Wanted To Be In My Daughter's Life He Would Have Been There Without A Doubt. I See Sooo Many Kids Go Through This Exact Same Thing , Especially Little Boys & They Grow Up Being The Most Disrespectful Human Beings Alive. & When You Talk To Them They'll Tell You , "My Dad Was Never There For Me, & I've Never Had Anyone To Look Up To Thats Why I Act The Way I Do" . But, I'm Not Worried About What He Won't Do Because I'm A Very Strong Human Being & Have Always Been For My Child and Soon To Be Children. My Boyfriend Has Been There For Her , But Nothing Can Change The Fact That She Wants Her Daddy. The Last Time We Seen Him , I Invited Him Over For Dinner With Us & He Was Actually Trying To Be With Me . Ugh! It Just Scared Me Away From Him Seriously Since That Day, It Turned From Him Spending Time With My Daughter To Him Wanting To Be With Me & I Made Him Leave!

[My2LoveBugs]

Thank You Guys Sooo Much, I Been Came To My Realization That If He Wanted To Be In My Daughter's Life He Would Have Been There Without A Doubt. I See Sooo Many Kids Go Through This Exact Same Thing , Especially Little Boys & They Grow Up Being The Most Disrespectful Human Beings Alive. & When You Talk To Them They'll Tell You , "My Dad Was Never There For Me, & I've Never Had Anyone To Look Up To Thats Why I Act The Way I Do" . But, I'm Not Worried About What He Won't Do Because I'm A Very Strong Human Being & Have Always Been For My Child and Soon To Be Children. My Boyfriend Has Been There For Her , But Nothing Can Change The Fact That She Wants Her Daddy. The Last Time We Seen Him , I Invited Him Over For Dinner With Us & He Was Actually Trying To Be With Me . Ugh! It Just Scared Me Away From Him Seriously Since That Day, It Turned From Him Spending Time With My Daughter To Him Wanting To Be With Me & I Made Him Leave!