please don't judge

[october22_]

Ok so my child's father is a jerk and hasn't been helping with anything... he doesn't even show interest in the baby . So I don't want him involved at all. My ex knows about the pregnancy and is willing to step up. He wants to be in the delivery room with me and ND sign the birth certificate. ... should i allow him?

[Jeka1202]

I would leave it blank for now hun.

[hersheyma]

I wouldn't...if he wants to do any stepping up he can start by marrying you...that shows more than him telling you anything...

[rachaelbutsch]

Is your ex wanting this to be a serious thing of so think of it this way anyone can be a father it takes a real man to step up and be a daddy. Do what feels right in your heart

[misswest91]

I would leave it blank... if things go well with your ex down the line he can always legally adopt the baby

[Lissaj]

We it's only up to you if you want to or not. You can also use your own last name.

[Rayniece]

Nobodys perfect hun. But this kinda reminds me of my relationship now like my ex doesnt do anything yet for my child & im 7months already & my ex shows more attention about the situation than he do, just be happy that you have someone that loves you for you & willing to accept your baby as well. I believe thats sweet

[Adalenys_Mommy]

My bf now got with me when i was 5 months pregnant with my first child her biological father did not want anythin to do with her since the day he found out i was pregnant and still wants nothin to do with her now shes 1 already my bf now was there for my daughters birth he did not sign the birth certificate but still raised her as his own and i am now pregnant with a child of his own n this one he will be signing for a good man will raise it like his own even if its not his n signing the birth certificate wont make a difference Hope it all works out for u

[emery20]

Do what your heart tells you to

[october22_]

Me too I'm 37 weeks smh

[12_4_14]

Im sort of having the same issue, the father of my child wants nothing to do with her, but my bf who i had cheated on is stepping up and wants to raise her and help me out and still be with me. He wants his name on the certificate as well. I just dont know if that would cause a problem later on or not.. im 31weeks now so its getting close

[jewels94]

Don't have your ex sign the birth certificate. It is illegal in some states because that is false information on a legal document and you can get in alot of trouble. It's better to leave it blank or as unknown. Plus if you get married down the line and he wants to adopt the child it is easier if it is blank. Good luck hun I'm in the same situation minus having someone who wants to step up

[Danndie]

Girl, keep that ex where he belongs. You have to resolve this relationship b4 you start letting other pple in. Some dudes just like competition and honestly, your ex needs to respect your child's father. Regardless, the child's father is the actual father but if he doesn't want to step up, just leave it blank. Like your earlier posts, some guys don't become a dad until they see the baby.

[october22_]

Can can't demand rights unless I agree to a DNA test from the courts. Not only that but the father is legally not the father unless he signs the birth certificate.  But I guess my best bet is to keep it blank

[yowuddupkeey]

Sometimes guys don't really understand that they're going to be a father until the baby is here. If you do have your ex sign the birth certificate he will be legally responsible for that baby whether or not he's the father, and the birth father can still have rights if he demands them.

[meg52115]

You don't have to put include the fathers name on the birth certificate. Maybe leave it blank for now to see how things go?

[nicolehashy]

I mean yes it is his kid but why not just keep the birth certificate blank .. just a.thought

[MoniBxx]

I don't think so you should put the real fathers name on the birth certificate even if your ex does raise him as his own