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hi everyone, just need a little hope if there is any out there. ive been trying for a baby for 2 years im only 25yrs old and im finally pregnant. i went for my 1st scan and the baby measured 6 weeks and 6 days which is dead on how long we thought i was gone bar 1 day. but there was no heartbeat i had an internal scan btw. so im just wondering if theres any hope that things will be ok when i go for another scan at 8 weeks. i cant understand why it measures at what we calculated it out at and not be alive, did i loose it that day? they saying a silent misscaridge but im not convinced. my husbands heartbroken and icant bear to see him like this. ive had no symptoms of loss at all still have all pregnancy symptoms. any1 have any simular stories that ended well? PLEASE 

gemma

hera6891 · Answer

i have had irregular periods anyways ive never known when im ovalating until i bought this clearblur fertiltiy monitor and 1st month of using it i concieved and now its saying im fertile so i hope i am cnt stand feeling tis empty 
gemma x

hera6891 · Answer

my nurse said to wait till i have next period purely because of dating the pregnancy. but surely the body wont let you concieve unless your ready? and i thought thats what a dating scan was for?

gemma x

PetiteWonder · Answer

you could be but at the same time, it may be to soon... they say ovulation can occur anytime after a miscarriage generally within 2 weeks of your HCG  reaches under 5.....  But you cant use your d&c bleeding the same way as a period because it is not the same..

After a d&c there is a risk of infection so they recommend that you wait 2 weeks without having sex....  

i think myself personally it took a littleb it for my HCG to return to 5... It took 6 weeks for my period to return, which means it probably took me 4 weeks to ovulation approximately after my d&c....

they generally recommend you wait to ttc after a d&C so your uterine lining has time to bulk up again.... heard taking vitamin d can help build a strong lining...  I know my doctor recommending waiting 3 cycles before ttc after a D&C so you have time to heal and as well, so you can have a better idea of where your cycles are at as they can be screwy after a d&c.  I believe my were like 6 weeks, then 32 days then 27 days then 37 days .....  after that i was pregnant so who knows where they were going...

I would wait until you have at least 1 normal cycle before you start to ttc.. I say this because of dating.  You cant use your d&c date as your last missed period for dating a pregnancy, so you would have no idea how far along you are technically, which causes a whole bunch of grief when getting ultrasounds and determining viability...

hera6891 · Answer

hey ladies just a quickie, got my monitor back. i have set it as day 6 cse i started bleeding from d & c 6 days ago so using it as a period. its showing that im fertile, could that be right|? cse ive heard your more fertile after a miscarridge?

hera6891 · Answer

im scared to hun about next time......im thinking about things non stop when i go to bed at night and when i wake up. having a pee wasnt an issue for me i had the problem that it didnt want to leave me, that was the worst part having all pregnancy symptoms and having no bleeding no cramps nothing for them to tell me your baby has no heartbeat its died. its like what? i dread the 1st scan. maybe you can steal a catheter from the hospital or put a corkin it so ul never have to go the loo again :)
you know the way i see it, if your bodys not ready then you wont concieve im trusting mybody 100% this time and it better not mess up lol my periods are so irreguilar i bought the clearblue fertility monitor...and within a month of using it i was pregnant :) so it does work. i then lent it to my aunty whos struggling to concieve and now both of us arent pregnant and i want it back and she has offered but i feel so guilty cse i know how u feel when ur building your hopes on this monitor praying it will help. so i wondered does any1 know when you are most fertile after a d&c? so i dont have to ask for it back :(

jleelynn · Answer

Bless you sweety .. me and my partner are closer than ever now aswell after going threw all this, its a great feeling and makes me realise why i love him. At first hunny i was thanking him for staying with me and he sat down and said "look babes i love you more than anything in life and we will get there in time" and that really reasured me .... im more frightened tho sweety for the next time, al be frightened to go to the toilet everytime i need a wee :( but  were going to be trying again but not till november due to hospital tests and stuff and also my partner wants me to have at least 2 more periods :( 
Its reasuring hearing about ppl such as your friend as things do work out in the end i guess, well in most situations :) xxx
sending you heaps of love n hugs sweety and lots of baby dust :) xxxxxx

hera6891 · Answer

jleelynn dont let it destroy you. im trying to hold it together cse i cant bear seeing my husband upset and if im ok hes ok. I know its bad but we made love last night 1 day after d&c, just because everything that we went through has made me feel closer to him and it felt right. i had a few tears before but they soon disapeared when he held me in his arms. and im going to carry on making love as usual one reason is because i do want to get pregnant again but the other reason is im not letting the bad experience have a hold over us, well as much as i can help it anyway. i want to get back to normal and put it behind me, im going to the spa and getting my hair done before i go on hols in a few weeks. Hopefully i wont have a periiod so i wont get that empty feeling again and can move on. My heart breaks for you jleelynn i cried reading your post but be strong! my friend at work said she had 5 miscarridges in 2 years and now shes got 2 children and shes trying again and had another 2 miscarridges. so its hard but not impossible and im sending you lots of luck hugs and anything else you need! wont forget my butterbean angel but im determined to give it a brother or sister!

PetiteWonder · Answer

Im so sorry it turned out like this...  I remember when this happen with my first... I went into the meeting totally against the surgery because I just thought it sounded horrible... but after reading about the pills, I was like I dont know.....................  So after thinking long and hard, I decided to go for the d&c....  I was in and out in 15 minutes, home after 3 hours...  It turned out well.... But I remember how weird it was after.. so empty. I cried so much...  There are risks with d&c but im glad things have gone well for you..

Take some time to yourself..  It only gets easier with time....  When you get your first period after the d&c, you will get that same kind of empty feeling.. It hurt so bad (emotionally that is)....  LIke a reminder of the loss...  But know that you are not alone in this.. many people here have gone through the same thing...

Im so sorry, it is one of the hardest experiences to go through.

jleelynn · Answer

ahh sweety uve been threw the mill .. i just pray to god it happens for ppl like us and soon aswell .. i had a similer experience babes ... and ive now lost 4 :( im hardly baring up but at times like this the only ppl that understand are ppl like you and me ..pl that have gone threw it.. im here if u ever wana talk hunny .. sending much love xxxx

hera6891 · Answer

i went back and not only did the baby have no heartbeat but the fetal pole had got smaller so we decided there was no hope and decided we would let it go. We decided on the tablet treatment, had the 1st dose and i had the runs, and bled medium flow and passed a few clots and had the pains, completed the course and went home followed by a scan few days later. showed the baby was still there and they suggested another course so i went back in. From 9pm till 6am i had no sleep, had the runs, bleeding so heavy like never before the pain was horrific, vomiting non stop and headache. emergency doctor had to come up and put me on a drip and inject me with all kinds of **** then at 8am everything kicked in and i had an hours kip then they woke me for a scan. went for scan BABY STILLTHERE! then the nurse said right wel get u to surgery on an emergency list, and took me back to my room and got ready for theatre. waited 6 hours then  they took me and i was so scared i cried like a baby all the way lol then the sexy anethatist and nurse made me cheer up and they out this stuff in my canular and woooooow stars then i remember waking up in recovery room. home 4 hours later :) felt groggy and tired today but omg asif the doc tried to put me off surgery from the off and that turned out tobe the best! mynurse was basically telling me to go for surgery discreetly and being carefull how she worded it, i should of bloody listened. i feel empty now and sad. i dont want to see anyone. everyone wants to visit and im just making excuses. i justwant to be left alone with james and dont wna go outside. please tell me it gets better :(

hera6891 · Answer

thanks so much for the quick reply. i will do we have just 3 more sleeps till my scan and il be 7 weeks and 6 days. the scanner person and the doctor seemed so sure, they didnt say anything positive and even gave me paperwork saying id had a silent miscarridge there in black and white. why would they do this if they wernt absolutely sure? why would they put someone through it iof they wernt 100%? im so confused. the longest week of my life. do u know if they will do any tests?

PetiteWonder · Answer

I would wait it out. The hb could show up anytime. These boards are full of people who did not get to see a hb ubtil 7 or 8 weeks. Some places wont do scans before 8-12 weeks to avoid this. Sometimes these situations have negative outcomes but it is a positive sign that the baby measured dead on.

RmberMe69 · Answer

I would really wait till your 8 weeks to see. Sometimes there is no heartbeat until your 8 weeks or more. I wish you all the best. Please always get a second opinion.