Adoption.Please Help

[BabyBumpBump]

I'm thinking in giving my baby up for adoption to my parents. They are both young(37) but I'm not sure the baby's father will agree. We are separated and not married will this adoption process be complicated?

[BradleaMarie]

If the father wants the child he should here him/her before you even consider adoption...

[BradleaMarie]

Get* not here

[BabyBumpBump]

He lives in another state. He works 24/7 he can't take care of a child!

[mpattea]

U will still need to talk to him because he will have to sign papers n everything saying it's ok ( the hospital will contact him n if he says he doesn't care then u have all the rights to do as u please) (that's how is it in Arizona)

[alexx1216]

Does he know you're expecting & if so is he okay with this option?

[jmat1002]

If you don't want baby and he does he deservea the baby. Im sure he'll figure out a new schedule but its suppose to be parents first so he has rights

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

I'm slightly confused why you would be thinking about giving your baby up to your parents yet plan on getting pregnant right after the 40 days are up? I'm not trying to be rude just curious

[married_mommyof2]

Talk to him nd explain y u want to do adoption. I personally think if u feel yu cant take of.the bby the way u want to nd if its ur parents then go for.. you will be able to.always see the baby and help take care of it. Its hard to have a baby.. i have a 3 yr old its hard doing it alone.. but thats totally up to u nd the father. But its also about wats best for your child

[scarletbegoniass]

Maybe the child's father will adopt the  baby.

[minna1996]

You can go through with the adoption without his consent, however he can come back and take the child away from your parents because he did not sign away his rights. If your parents are ok with that possibly happening in the future go for it, if they want to be able to keep the baby then you need him to sign over all rights

[twinsohlord]

But you want another baby do you not want this baby because he's not around I Dont get it this will be us third baby

[scarletbegoniass]

Wait I just saw you post on another thread you want another baby after you have this one I don't get it????

[minna1996]

Ok just saw the other post to. If you plan on having another baby why give this one up? If you cant take care of the ones you have or are about to have you really shouldnt plan on having more, its not fair to the babies

[Tas218]

Why would you give it to your parents though

[Zahra147]

Why would u give this one if u'r planing for another!?
Thats not faire , stop having babies if u can't take care of them..
Sorry but the adoption idea pissed me off, no one will love u'r child as much as u..
So if u don't want this one don't go for another please!!

[Marieemichelle]

You're confusing.
You want to give this baby up yet plan for another one ?
How is that fair to this baby ? Just asking ..

[Pamela0128]

Im not sure if she is real or fake but if you read her previous posts she stated this child was not by her husband. And thats why it says she is not married to thr father of this child. But im guessing she wants to have another biological child with her husband, so thats why she doesnt want to wait the 40days.

[Pamela0128]

Its a bit confusing lol but not my life.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

Thank you for taking the time to review before posting, Pamela!
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[BabyBumpBump]

Okay so i went back to my first marriage the father of my first marriage.. He is not the biological father to the one I'm pregnant with don't get me wrong I love my baby but I never said "this is what I'm gonna do" it's just hard to have a relationship with the baby's father(he is a tough I left him for abuse) . Does it make sense now?

[minna1996]

I think we are all just confused why you would give up this child yet try for another so soon. So what if this childs father is not around? He or she is still your baby and deserves to be loved just as much. A father is someone that is there for their baby not just biological... just doesnt seem fair to the child

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

OK I was just curious as to why. Is your husband willing to raise the baby you are pregnant with now? If so I would just try to get the baby's father to sign over his rights. Then your husband can adopt the baby as his own. Good luck figuring it out either way! :)

[Pamela0128]

I thought that was the case:) well to answer your question, the biological dad does have rights to the baby so you will need consent from him if you want to give the baby up for adoption, unless you have proof that he is uncapable of caring for the baby. I honestly think it will be hard on you and the baby if you give him/her to your parents because like you said you love the baby already so itll be hard to not want to care for the baby or see the baby knowing you can never take the baby home. Once you sign those papers there is no going back, just talk it overwith your husband see if adoption is really what you both want, im sure your husband wouldnt mind loving another baby:)

[Zahra147]

U'r husband can adopt u'r baby.. Think about it a father is person who is their for the child not inly who makes them!