Pre-partum Depression?

[mandyk1821]

Hi ladies,

I am 26 weeks pregnant today. I am so excited to become a momma, and so excited to meet my son. I had a miscarriage this summer and incredibly got pregnant 2 weeks later with this baby. Despite all this, I feel like I'm going crazy. Everyone I know LOVED being pregnant, but in all honesty I HATE it. I feel like an elephant, I hurt all over and I'm an emotional wreck. I have NO sex drive anymore either. Bless my husbands heart. He's fabulous and completely supportive and encouraging, but I feel like I'm hating being pregnant so much, and I start feel so horrible- like I'm an awful mom already! When my friends ask how I'm feeling I'll lie and say fantastic, but then I'll just snap occasionally and say how miserable I am. I try to have a filter, because my older sister is infertile and I know a number of people are.... But that just makes me feel worse- like I'm taking this pregnancy for granted. But no matter how much I try to talk myself out of this funk I just can't.

Is there really such thing as PRE partum depression? Anyone else experienced this? If so, what did you find helped you? (Although I don't feel very comfortable with medications)...

Any advice would be appreciated. And if you're TTC- please don't get angry at this post. I know it's so frustrating to want something so bad and see someone who seems to take it for granted. I can't explain it myself!

Thank you!

[jeninky30]

Please do not feel guilty.  Your body is going through some serious changes right now.  You are growing a little human!  I felt the same way when I was pregnant.  And we are TTC #3 right now, I know that if we are successful, I will eventually feel the same way again.  For me, those feelings went away as soon as my children were born.  And even now, I dread being pregnant again but can't wait till I get my positive test.  I honestly think it is because of so many changes so fast, I have always said that I would go thru labor and delivery for any woman in the world, as long as I didn't have to be the one pregnant! lol. This does not mean the you are a bad mom, don't beat yourself up over this.

[JoyRenee]

It is common to be depressed or not enjoy pregnancy while you are pregnant. The most important thing you can do is talk to your healthcare provider about it so they know to watch you after you give birth to make sure you don't develop serious PPD. My sister hates being pregnant; she is absolutely miserable the whole time. BUT once her baby is in her arms all is well in the world.

Remember that getting the baby blues is common after delivery (feeling weepy) but PPD is more serious in which case you neglect the baby or have thoughts of hurting yourself or baby, etc. It's important to speak up as not all doctors will be on the lookout for it.

[Clysta]

I had this a lot, and still feel guilt. Don't. I fell pregnant without trying and had a rough pregnancy and detested it beyond imagination. I was sick all the time, couldn't do much and it was just overall bad. You don't sound like you are taking it for granted at all, and youre not a horrible mom. What worked for me was just taking it one day at a time and remembering what I get out of it. It does end. Keep that in mind. Good luck!!