should i stay for the kids

[SuperMomma2012]

Basically I have been with my bf for almost 6 years the past 3 yrs have been awful to the point where I can't trust anything he says, there is no communication and he treats me with very little respect. I still love him but idk what to do. We have a 16 month old and I'm 32 weeks with number 2. I've already left him once and went home to my family 1200 miles away. I came back because of hid promises and supposed remorse but nothing has changed he loves his baby but doesn't like to spend time with her he blames me for not getting an abortion and dreads the new baby. I still love him but idk if this relationship can be fixed after everything he's put me through I'm not happy and I really just want to go home but on the other hand I still love him and the idea of saying goodbye breaks my heart. And what about the kids? They will be soooo far from their dad. Do I even gave the right to take them away like that? How do I know whats best for them. What was supposed to be some of the happiest times of my life have turned out to be miserable any advice?

[SuperMomma2012]

Thanks guys this is really hard

[solemomma6]

You need to be smart for you and your daughter. If you aren't happy you should leave. It won't be good for your daughter or the new baby to grow up and see you so unhappy. You need to enjoy life and obviously you're not doing that now. I say leave.

[tomorrow264]

Its better to come from a broken home than to live in a broken home. Do you want your children growing up thinking this is how relationships are supposed to be? Or do you want them to know how to be strong and independent and know that their worth being treated well and respected?

[sepmom13]

My parents stayed together until both my sister and I were out of school because they felt it would be best for us.  Because of this we grew up in a house where we were afraid to say anything for fear of saying something that would upset them.  You could just sense the tension whenever you walked into the room.  It actually hurt the relationship I had with my parents.  Today they are both happy in their own lives amd it allows my sister and I and our kids to have a good relationship with them.  Wish they would have done this years ago!

[mrsMartinez91]

No. Be strong and move on.

[MammaBoobundaBird]

Don't stay for the kids. My parents stayed together 5 years after I was born and I could tell something was up and I have quiet a few memories of them just fighting all the time. When they got devorced it was for the better. Yeah you have to see your parents desperately but its for the best

[kmommy2b]

Dont stay for the kids. You both are equally responsible to be good parents but that doesnt mean you have to be together.  Dont waste your life hun, one day your kids will grow up and leave and ull be stuck with him, and you still wont be happy.. if he hasnt changed, he never will..  if he cares enough, he can get visitation (whether its court ordered or you guys agree) but you have first rights to the kids. good luck, only YOU know what is best for yourself

[flaka88]

Thats what kinda happen to me but he never spent time wit us he rather be drinking wit his friends n hitting me but one day i juss couldn't take it no more i didn't love him i ws juss there for my daughter but i left an now we are in a better place she happy...do what u think is better u cant be in a relationship wit nothing there if he not goin to change o did when u left he will never change at all..if i was u i would leave an see what he does dnt listen to any lies he says because if he didn't do it when u were together when y would he do it now.

[arnitia]

Absolutely do not stay for the children.  If your not happy its only going to get worst.  There's going to be arguing and the kids are going to feed off of that. Think about your babies. You deserve better and so do they. They can still see daddy that's not a problem sweetie.

[jerica86]

Never stay just for the kids they know more than you think and your distress goes to them too

[SuperMomma2012]

To clarify he blames me for not aborting this current pregnancy not our toddler :(