so during labor..

[tabbykatt92]

how many people do you plan on having there? i know my mom and husband will be in the room while i deliver. but how many people will you have waiting. i can't decide on if i just want them there an let everyone else come the day after i have him. really i just dont want my mil there the whole time cuz i know she's gonna drive me insane but i know my husband will probably say its not fair or something. he's always defending her even though he knows she drives me crazy most the time. idk. i really need advice. i just can't decide and im scared that if i say something about it to him it'll probably start an argument or something. but i really want us to have alone time when my son is first born. instead of having like 10 people there passing him around.

[lailasmama]

See i would like it to just be my husband my mom and my sister but my husband would freak out. Like i can only have four people in there with me and he got all upset that both his mom and sister can't be in there and i was like im the one that the baby is coming out of. And he still didn't understand. But if his mom makes me mad before i start pushing than i will tell her to get out. I have a feeling thats going to happen because she is really loud and makes everything about her..

[Mrs_Baze]

I just want my husband and the medical staff. With my first our families came in and visited pretty soon after she came out, and I didn't have a problem with that. I was so flooded with positive emotions! The only person I wasn't happy to see was some girl I had only met once, who my friend brought with her. It was weird.

[krizmart]

Well I'm having my mom and fiance in there for sure but also my grandma because I'm very close to her shes like 2nd mommy to me,but my mother inlaw will most definetwly not be in there even if she wabts to,she's too much to deal with especially in a moment like that,plus I woulsnt feel comfortable.but she can come in afterward

[lailasmama]

Express that to the nurses at the hospital when noone is around and they will kick people out of the room for you and say that you need to rest and they will not let anyone in to see you afterwards. Good luck. im  dealing with the same thing i dont want my mother in law there at all. Actually i would be sooooo happy if i never saw her again. Lol

[MrsCookii]

I am not telling anyone until the day after I have her... So the only one that will be there is my bf and mother. But I know my bf is going to slip up and tell his side of the family while I'm in labor lol

[tabbykatt92]

well i already told my husband theres no way in he ll that his mother is looking down there while i'm trying to push a baby out. thats just gross, and she has absolutely no right to see that kind of thing. i just really dont want her there all day before i even start pushing cuz i know she's gonna get on my nerves. and she really has no reason to be there all day. heck, i could be in labor for like 17 hours. i dont want her there that long. and then after i have the baby i dont want like both our families coming in wanting to hold him and everything while im laying there tired an just wanting to hold my son. im carrying him for nine months. im definitely gonna want my time with him when he first comes out.

[Ashdub07]

Hubby and birthing coach and that's it!

[lailasmama]

But i think you can tell the nurses you dont want visitors right afterward

[lailasmama]

Ya i have the same problem. My mil gets on my last nerve and my husband doesn't care how i feel about her or his family he gets really mad if i say anything about them. But when i go into labor i am having my husband and my mom and my sister and my husband is making me have is mom in the room which im not looking forward to because she is going to **** me off i know it. And i am probably going to let people come see me right afterwards but not for long but where i am giving birth they make people wait to see you and the baby. But my biggest concern is my husbands family being around my daughter when im not there. Sorry i have been going on for so long but i have been holding it in

[my1stblueberry]

I just want my hubby and mom. I know my mil wants to be in there but since my mom and mil seem to be feuding lately...i think its best to just have my mom n hubby. Everyone else can wait in the waiting area...I don't see the need to have a room full of relatives while I have my legs spread wide open and possibly screaming! Lol especially since its my first time

[tabbykatt92]

thats kinda what i want to do juliaann02. just not telling anyone til after he gets here. that way its just us for the time that we need. i dont mind visitors but after pushing a baby out i'm just gonna want to be alone with him and my husband. i mean, i'm gonna be exhausted and tired. people are the last thing i'm gonna want to put up with.  

[JuliaAnn02]

I'm thinking of only telling the baby's grandparents so they will be the ones in the waiting room. I agree on having alone time with the little one so I most likely wont tell anyone else until the day after! But during delivery my boyfriend and mom will be in the room.

[mizzqueenie88]

yeah the coming home outfit was a bit much she should have at least asked you for permission. don't b scared to tell her you already had one picked out. I mean after all it is YOUR baby

[RoopStetter]

My mom and husband, my mother in law will definitely be there she wouldn't miss it for the world! Maybe my step dad but that's it.

[mizzqueenie88]

my hubby will be in the room and his family in the waiting rm as well as mine if they make it in time since they r in a different state. I really don't mind a bunch of visitors because I know I'll wish I had them once we take the baby home and reality hits lol.

[tabbykatt92]

and to top it off, she bought the coming home outfit for him and instead of just giving it to me she's bringing it to the hospital herself. i dont see why she just cant give it to me in the first place. it will be my sons outfit. so why shouldn't i have it. sorry for the really long rant. i'm just super aggravated right now about it all.