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[kimmyy93]

So I am giving my son up for adoption. It is going to be an open adoption with this amazing couple that my family knows and ive been thinking about getting a tattoo of my sons birthday once hes born im not sure if thats weird or not? I mean he will always be my little boy and my first baby. Once he gets old enough the adoptive parents are going to tell him I am his birth mom.

[faithdevereux]

My sister did an adoption and it was easily the most amazingly strong and christlike thing I've ever seen a woman do. At the same time it was INCREDIBLY painful and will be her entire life. She intended on doing an open adoption with our family's best friends, however a couple months after she gave him up the entire family and extended family moved to north Carolina. The scariest thing is being prepared for what could happen. It will be the hardest and maybe the best thing you ever do. My sister had planned on getting a tattoo of his birth name but is happy she didnt bc he is named differently now and she would have a constant reminder of the sadness of it. My advice would be to wait a little while after. Make sure everything is going well. Be aware of what your adoptive family is thinking and prepare yourself for what is coming. You are an amazing woman for being willing to make such a sacrifice for your son. It is truly the strongest representation of love I have ever witnessed, bc it is SELFLESS. Good luck my dear. I will be praying for you and your sons adoptive parents!

[Calijayy]

Adoption is a great thing! I gave my daughter up for to an awesome family who couldn't have kids. I got a tattoo of her name and birthday it was the name I had put on her 'proof of birth' but the family was naming her a different name. I ended up getting her back due to the adoption falling threw. But its great what you are doing for your child and the adopting family. Just always remember in your heart that what you are doing is what's best for your child :) good luck!!

[bumpinbaby1995]

Aww

[katyrb]

I'm not usually into tattoos, but I love the birthday idea. You will always be his birth mother, the one who gave him life!  I admire that so much!

[NikkiPrego]

Check your local laws. Open adoption isnt legally binding in most states. I found that out the hard way and that "great family" took off with my daughter and I havent heard from them nor even got so much as a picture or shes still alive in 6 years and theres nothing I can do about it.

[kimmyy93]

Thank you so much ladies!

[drcm24]

Honestly open adoption is a good choice. I was thinking about doing that but didn't have the will power to give her up same with abortion. I know that in my heart I'm suppose to have her in my life whether me and the father work out or not shes suppose to be apart of my world. You are very strong individual for knowing what is best for your unborn child and giving him up for an open adoption. I support you in your decision because either abortions or adoptions are a hard decision to make. The tattoo idea is a great idea and when the child knows you can tell him you will always be in my heart and that is where you have always stayed. I'm getting my daughters bday and initials done on my right wrist...that way I can look down when I'm not around her and feel as if I am when I'm working and going to school. You have made a right decision thats for sure and you have a lot of attributes that anyone should be envious of and want for themselves. What you are doing isn't selfish but wanting your child to have a better life and future which I dont see a problem with. Good luck :)

[kaitnelson23]

I have an open adoption and I have known my entire life. I am probably one of the few when I say I wouldn't change anything! I have the best relationship with my birth mom and her whole side. We see each other at least twice a year! She made a very hard decision but because of her I was raised in an amazing family! She is more like an older sister than my birth mom. I respect you and know that your making a hard but beautiful decision! Good luck with everything!

[rebeccaann11]

You are doing what you know is right. Dont let anyone tell you different or bring you down. You will still be in his life and get to see him grow up.

[kimmyy93]

Thank you! (:

[ReneeM1987]

I respect the decision you are making 100%-its not easy but its better than having an abortion. I think the tattoo is a cute idea. Good luck with everything

[ravenamaru]

I Totally Understand. You Don't Have to Validate Your Choice To Anyone! Its Yours And Yrs Alone. Good LUck. Also Yes, The Family Will Be So Grateful. You Are Giving Then A Gift.

[kimmyy93]

And the fact that I can give someone else such a precious gift that they cant physically have themselves.

[kimmyy93]

Ravenamura
I mean I will be there as he grows up just not parenting him you know. Im not financially stable just lost my job and im not in any way trying to put anyone down when I say I dont want to depend on the government for food stamps im not that type of person I mean the protection I used failed i dont want to punish my son because I cant take care of him right thats my opinion. So this is what is best for him. Its not that I dont love my son bcuz I really do but sometimes we have to make tough decisions for the ones we love.

[expectin2ndbbyromo]

Aww dis is sad... that cant ever past threw my mind puttin my bby dat ima carry in me for 9 mtns in adoption thats just crazy... but its your decision n hopefully ull never regret it..

[kimmyy93]

Thank you newjulymommy.

And melcarin
I know its a tough decision but it is what is best for my son I need to put myself a side and do what is best for him. I know when they tell him he is going to have a lot of questions but god will help give him the right answers.

[ravenamaru]

I'm Adopted. ThIs May Sound Harsh, And Its Unique To My Situation But I Really Resent My BirthMother.She Came Back Into My Life As A Teenager And I Refused To See Her Or Talk To Her. I Hope That YouAren't Think I'm Being Rude, OR Trying To Sway Your Choice, But Phrase Please Be Positive With Thus Decision, It Is One Of The Biggest Of Your Life.

[melcarin]

Adoption isnt easy. Im adopted so i know all too well. If its open and you can have contact then i dont see a problem with it. Just never ever regret the decision youre making. If adoption is best for your baby then so be it. But even if they tell him youre his mother be prepared for the whys and hows when he comes to the realization that you didnt keep him. Its a hard thing to deal with sometimes but if you wont regret giving him up then go ahead and get the tat

[newjulymommy]

That is so awesome of them and of you! I thino the tat idea is totally great!