single moms

[firsttimer19]

Okay so the guy doesn't want to do nothing with my baby which I really don't care. all that is in my mind what am I going to tell my baby when he/she starts asking me about the dad? I don't want to sound mean or tell my baby a lie. What would or are going to tell your child when they ask?

[firsttimer19]

Sorry that you went through that. You're right just leave the bad stuff out. Thank you :)

[baby2_on_the_way]

When the time comes you will have to set all personal emotions aside, and leave out ALL dirty details. My 2 year old daughter was abused and strangled by her biological father (try explaining that one to you're baby! Lol) but I have decided that I will not tell her that, I will tell her that mom & biological dad weren't right for each other, but that we made an amazing and beautiful little girl thatI couldn't imagine life without her, I will tell her that even tho her real dad wasn't ready for a family, that Daddy (my bf, who she right now thinks is real Daddy) was ready and loves her so much he wanted to be her real Daddy and that blood doesn't make a father/daughter relationship, but love does :-)  when she is old enough and if she chooses to find him I might have to tell her what happened to her to protect her from danger but I dread the day I will ever have to tell her that someone was able to do such cruel things to her:-(

[firsttimer19]

Awe thank you. I know I shouldn't be thinking about but it's just there and I don't want to talk bad about him either im 19 he is 21.

[BeccydeBear]

I had that happen with my daughter though she has a step dad now and known him since she was a little over one but I'm going to just tell my little girl that it just wasn't right between her biological father and me (even though he is a filthy pig..) and any other questions she has I have my ex's motherto explain some of it to her coz I feel if I say it it will just sound like I'm bad mouthing him and I don't want to do that coz she may not believe me like think lots bull crap. Plus I'd ever want to say anything to her like that when the time comes she has to make her own opinion of him

[rosey3216]

Yeahh, that's kinda what I was thinking was just telling them that dad isn't grown up enough to be a dad and isn't ready for all the responsibilities. But then if they ask "when will he be ready?" Then I'm really lost. :/ if that's what it comes down to I will cross that bridge when I get there I guess like I said. I would like to be somewhat prepared but I just don't think there's an easy answer for this one unfortunately.

[elizabethhhkitty]

Im in the exact same boat the dad said he didn't care what me n the baby did and he was out. I am just going to tell my baby the truth. Just say daddy wasnt ready to handle such a responsibility it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Im not sure how old you are but im 16 so im also going to say he was very young and didnt know what to do.

[lovelylay]

hunny you shouldn't worry about that now in plus dudes change so you can't tell if he will be in the babies life or not but in the future you will know what to tell your child its a maternal instinct I guess just don't think about it just think about you and your child having a great rship nobody else matters

[firsttimer19]

Me too im just thinking my baby will come out talking lol thank you though :)

[rosey3216]

Yeah my relationship with the bd is rocky and I never really thought about this...that is tough to answer. I mean sorry this isn't of much help but im in the same boat and lost as well. But I guess ill cross that bridge when I get there...