Anybody feel pressured to have sex

[AriellaMer]

I literally feel like I have to give it up so he won't have a reason to cheat. The intimacy is not there. I'm not horny and truly have no sex drive. I have to deal with complaints of lack of sex and his sarcasm. Idk if I'm the only one who feels disgusting after sex like a cheap ***** just so he can shut up and stop hinting at it. Any solutions?

[BabyK2015]

I'm 35 weeks and have NO DRIVE WHAT SO EVER! It drives me crazy and I feel so bad for my hubby, but just to be touched disgust me. I've never felt like this before. And now I'm even at the point where My belly is so high and my hips hurt so bad I can't even think about it! I just snuggle him and give kisses all the time to let him know it's not him it really is me and the hormones!

[Soli_4]

I have been experiencing the same thing. I am 38 weeks and sex is painful so I don't enjoy it and it turns me off.

[Rudy1994]

Well i feel like dat some times i do it anyway cuz i know he gotta go six weeks without having sex with me after the baby so i just act like i enjoy wen all i wanna do is sleep lol

[Sian_Evs]

I was the same when pregnant! Now 9 weeks postpartum and only just starting to get my sex drive back!

[dasart13]

Glad I could help. :)

[newmom2b27]

So glad I don't have that problem so not interested in sex at this point and bf completely understands plus he works so much at this point he is too tired to even think about sex so we just cuddle and go to sleep

[LadyRawls7612]

I went from antisex to a animal , lol I think my poor SO is tired he told me no last night and I felt so bad

[Octmommy2015]

I struggle with not being in the mood as well and yes my man gets disappointed but you should not have to feel worried your man is going to cheat on you. It sounds like you two need to communicate a bit on this cause there is something in your relationship that needs to be worked on if you have to feel afraid he's going to cheat.

[meekie15]

dasart i just laughed so hard at ur post lmao thank you

[MomofSTR]

During pregnancy I have absolutely no sex drive. I totally understand. It's like, who can get in the mood with a big ol belly right there in the middle? & any position you get into doesn't change how it feels. My dude will tell me I'm sexy while trying to get dressed & i just wanna smack him. What's so sexy about me struggling to get pj's on?!? Lol. With my first two kids shill I was prego I had no sex drive either ( there is a once a week moment where I'm like hey, let's get it on, but I regret it afterwards, I get sore everywhere lol ) but soon after having my babies, I couldn't wait for the six week no sex period to be over!! My sex drive returned with a vengeance & i couldn't get enough of it!! Just hang in there, & don't make yourself do anything you don't want to. Just try to explain to him that it's not that you don't love him, it's just you & your mind set & there isn't anything you can do to change it.

[dasart13]

Lol I didn't want to have sex before I even got pregnant. I've seriously started debating if I'm a lesbian or asexual bc I couldn't care less ab ever having sex and penis' have started to majorly disgust me.

[meekie15]

I must be abnormal because my sex drive is thru the roof lol

[Meisha101]

omg No you are not the only one. I do this all the time I am 26 weeks pregnant w/second child  and I don't have no sex drive at all but I love my boyfriend so much and don't know how to explain it to him without hurting his feelings so I just do it and it really is just not pleasing to me idk what's going with me and this pregnancy. Our first child my sex drive was really high with this one it just flew out the window.

[K_Madrid]

2 things...if he loves you, he won't cheat on you for not having sex AND he'd be more understanding of how you feel. If he really did love you he wouldn't be sarcastic about you not having sex with him, he'd be understanding that you're pregnant and aren't in the mood. Sometimes I'm not in the mood because I get minor contractions after sex and although my husband really wants to, he understands and doesn't pressure me or gult me into having sex. TMI but instead I'll just give him a hj or a ** and rub his chest. I also understand that he has needs and it ***** that sdx discomforts me at times. You guys just need to communicate better about it and hopefully he'll be more understanding. Good luck, and don't do anything you don't want to, EVER.

[Tricia0818]

I don't think guys understand that we aren't trying to be this way on purpose. My husband knows I can't have sex during pregnancy, hurts way to badly. He is a trooper.

[babypersephone]

I think talking to him might work. Or just relaxing. I'm sorry. I feel the same, but I want sex but it hurts so I don't want to do it anymore.

[firstbabyboy]

^ i agree. having sex with him wont stop him from cheating i learned the hard way. If he loves you he wont cheat on you. Dont make yourself have sex when you dont want to.. you cant stop someone from cheating.

[alexis444]

Just tell him no. If you don't want to have sex then don't. You shouldn't have to worry about him cheating on you if he's going to cheat, you having sex with him won't make him not cheat he will just find some other reason to. If he loves you and is a good guy he won't cheat.

[Kasai3163]

I get light contractions after sex it *****. Makes me have no sex drive what so ever because i feel sick afterwards. I still give it up on occasion because he gets so cranky about it. I feel you girl, it's tough.

[stephaniexoa]

I'm 32 weeks and you're not the only one! I hate leaving him like that but I'm not in the mood EVER! I  force myself. But try to make him feel close to you as much as possible. Hug him cuddle with him as much as you can