unwanted advice?

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Getting to the stage i am so sick of everyone telling me what to do and when to do it when baby arrives. Sure i get they are trying to advize me on there mistakes but i will learn on my own! Its quiet degrading when some of the advice is coming from people with no kids! Argggh!!

Also everyones rubbing me belly.. started rubbing theres back to show how uncomfortable it is, seems to be working!!

JaylinsMommy · Answer

Lol this made me laugh when I read it cus I know exactly how you feel. My husbands side of the family is driving me nuts! It's gotten to the point that they just show up at my house without being invited! at one point they even told me what color I needed to paint my babys crib . They are just trying to help buy you should talk to them nicely & let them know how you feel. Goodluck!

Zombonnie · Answer

I completely agree I'm 27 yo and this is my first baby but my mother left my life when I was just 7 but now that she knows I'm pregnant she keeps calling and texting to tell me to stay cool drink water and relax so that her grandbaby is ok... I'm thinking b**** if I didn't need u when I got my period kissed a boy dressed for prom graduated what the hell makes u think I need u to tell me to drink water for my baby I just wanna slap the u kno what out of her it makes me so angry

rachyrou · Answer

The advice keeps coming when baby's here too and my little girl is nearly one.. So annoying. I just politely tell them I'm happy with our parenting choices and don't think we're doing too badly haha.

Murum · Answer

Ugh I totally understand. Its annoying when people touch your belly! And all the advice is really not needed.

kennimae92 · Answer

I soon totally agree. I flipped on my mom the other day because every time I talk to her she gives me the same "advice". Well I finally got tired of it and flipped. I also get the oh well if your tired now just wait. It all just gets on my last hormonal nerve. I think that's why I love the one onsie that I have that says, "my mom doesn't want your advice".

having_twins · Answer

People are just trying to be helpful. Its not advice that bothers me. Its the rude comments.! Like when I first told people I was pregnant I heard well your figure will never be the same again. Your boobs are going to get stretched out. Good luck with all those poopy diapers. Anything I did are said was turned around in a negative way. If I said I was tired.... get used to it you'll be up all night. Those are the things that bother me. The other stuff I can deal with even though I don't really care to

codibear · Answer

I cant stand it when ppl with no kids trys to give advise. I have a 4 1/2. Yr. Old. I kknow what im doing. Hes wild, but i like it that way. Kids should b kids... Not adults! 
I had a friend that was pregnant when i was and she had no babies.  I knew what she was talking about when she told me what her doc. Was doing... Ect.  Oneday i just told her. I have a kid, please dont treat me like im not a mom, or a first time mom. Iv done it all by myself  once b4. And i can do it again..
She started verbally yelling at me. But we didnt talk to about .4 months. Now its light.

kfrasher · Answer

Yeah, my poor hubby ends up getting the brunt of my frustrations from all the advice!! The worst offenders are his family, so he understands for the most part!! The main reason I'm getting so much advice thus time around is we are finally having a boy after 3 girls. I believe I DO understand that a boy is gonna be different from the girls!! Lol!!

natalie_hh · Answer

Ive been smiling and nodding along with bitting my tongue but having to be really carefull cause im taking it out on other people. Not sure how you coping after having another 3 they should know you could write a book on do's and dont's !!

There face drops more than mines when i do it, luckly i havent had any males going in for a feel dont know how i would react to that haha!!

Spiket77 · Answer

I just advised on another post to rub bellies back! I did the same thing with my first baby. It works like a charm.

kfrasher · Answer

My motto is, smile and nod!!! You will get tons more advice hun. I'm going on my fourth baby m people still give me advice!! Yes its annoying, but most people mean well. But I do agree with the kidless ones offering their words of wisdom! My SIL has no kids, but feels the need to tell me things!! It drives me nuts!!!!

hairdid · Answer

Lol I I.could picture their faces when u start to rub their back! That's a good one! I had a male resident touch my belly the other day as if he was going.to feel the baby move ... that was a little weird!