visits

[bigprincess]

Okay im 18 and 8 weeks pregnant.  The father of my baby moved back to oklahoma and has no plans at all on coming back.  (Upsetting,  but I can do it on my own)  however.  We want to have a plan wjere je can still visit his child.  His idea was to drive down every 2 week's and keep our child for 2. There is no way I will ever let that happen.  I don't think I will ever be okay with sending my kid back with him.  Am I crazy for that?  
Also the way we see it,  go to court to get a court ordered custody agreement.  Do you think they would ever send my child back with him.  (I'm about to start a fantastic job and I hope to have my own place by then).
Any advice would be appreciated!

[bigprincess]

Thanks guys.  And there is no way I would not want my child to see his or her father.  Thats his right and he is actually excited. But yes he works and that was exactly my point.  If he wants to be around that much he shouldn't have moved that far away.  I guess its all just overwhelming.  

[Mommy_ivy]

Your baby is entitled to see its father so don't take that way but try a court agreement of supervised visits until you realize that your baby is safe with his/ her dad

[baby_love2014]

They might when the baby is older. My friends two kids go to their dad's for 2 months for summer vacation. ..she lives in Washington,  he lives in New Mexico.
I Highly doubt a judge would let a newborn or even a baby be passed back and forth like that.  
My friends kids are 7 and 4 so it's different.  The only way I see it happening is if he stays close by you for a few days and he can spend time with the child then. He shouldn't have moved if he wanted to be such a big part of the child's life. The child needs stability.

[Allocate]

I think that they would only send your child back with him when school is out. And no you are not crazy for not wanting to send your child back with him. Work on getting a lawyer. Im having to get one but for a totally different reason

[SamanthaUresti]

I dont think they would want to seperate mom and baby for so long. But if he gets baby will he watch the child? Like with a babysitter daycare what... cuz he works right?