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[mbanuri]

So i had my baby on nov 26th... N since i was 8 month me n hubby didnt have sex cuz i had pains ..
now, after hez born healty, n its been more thn 6 weeks , i cant get my mind on having sex.
He tried but i am..afraid of vainal pains. I dont let him in n keep morving upwords. I am reallyyy ypset abut it tht im not keeping him.happy... he never complains, but still, i fe so bad.
Any ideas on how to get bck things to normal. I knw its in my mind tht i had stitches n pain n everything, but i want to get over itnow :(
How did y'All ladies do jt after birth? Any tips  ..

Thnku in advance

[2nd_time]

I'd advise lots of lubricant, (some wine in your system won't hurt either), and you on top so you can go as slow as necessary. It probably won't hurt as bad a you think....but you won't "enjoy" it as much for a while.

But this is a time when practice makes perfect...  ;)

[febmama2013]

Tell him go super slow from foreplay, and let him know that you may want to stop. Also use lube. You don't need to be pressured into sex, you did just push a watermelon out of your vag lol. Go at your pace.!

[mandi41389]

I was 4on weeks pp when we did it after having our last baby he stood next to the bed n i laid on mt back off the side. That way there was no pressure n he could quicklu get out if it hurt. We went very slow

[Jessiebaby21]

I didn't rip with my first so I didn't need stitches and I waited till 8 weeks after my son was born to have sex.

[mbanuri]

Lube ??? ... I am..sorry i dont knw wat it is ? If u cud explain :)

[mbanuri]

Thxx...we do all this but i am just scared of him going in ... :( .. I was so in favor of c sec ,.cuz i knew i wudnt b able to touch or feel anything for long time. I cant stand wounds n stitches.. N down there...uh hu uh .

[carmarie25]

I was the same way after i had both my daughters knowing ihad torn and had stitches i just couldnt get into sex u was teriffied of the pain me and my hubby just started with forplay and did that for weeks and then about 12 weeks after my having the baby i was able to attempt sex! I know it sounds like such a long time but for us forplay satisfied my hubby and for me it gave me the time i felt i needed for everything to heal down there!!

[Combs7]

Use lots of lube & know that it's going to feel amazing. If you go into it all tense & expecting pain it will hurt because you're tense. Have him go slow & do things you like first to get you going.

[fristtimemama]

Hey hun...well try starting off slow try like maybe oral or a little foreplay with you and just regain confidence slowly let him...start slow to see how u feel...everything takes time...ull get there best luck hun