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[niyaaa]

Hi I'm niya and I'm only 16 years old I recently discovered I was pregnant about 4days ago and it's been hard.  I had the guts to tell my mom and she didn't take it lightly of course, she wants me to get an abortion and so does the mother of my Childs father they've been talking and feel like they can decide for us which they can cause we are not grown but how would they feel if someone made them kill their child it's just wrong and it's gone have a HARD effect on me I couldn't take it knowing I killed my child I just couldn't I mean I know I'm young and it's not going to be easy , but that doesn't mean it's impossible I just wish they'd stop making it about them and listen to me and my boyfriend for God sakes but I think my mom is going to make me do it and his mom is going to back her up 100% but that's not what we want , not to kill our child I can't do it .... What should I doo ....

[babybump223]

Abortion has a negative effect on woman...Im assuming your mom dont know about the deprrssion ladies have after abortion.  a lot of girls feel major regret and fall into a deep depression whcih has led to suicide.  Abortion is not just a easy fix...im sure you can try to look up some info on depression after abortion and show your mom how much a negative effect it could have ob your life...good luck with everything!

[niyaaa]

Thanks I really needed that and it feels good to have support especially after being beat up about this for the last few days and I want you all to no that I'm NOT going to go threw south the abortion thanks so much <3

[elizabethhhkitty]

I'm also your age and  30 weeks pregnant if you feel you can do it you can you can do anything you put your mind too! Good luck

[Toriiee]

Yur parent can not make yu get an abortion! Yes yu are still a minor but that is yur child! It's yur decision not anybody else's.. do not let any one pressure yu into doin something yu dnt want to specially somethin like that cuz yu will regret it.. if yu really want to keep the baby nd both yu nd yur boyfriend are really ganna step up to handle yur responsibility then I think both of yu should sit down wit both yur guys parents at the sane time nd talk nd tell them how both if yu guys feel about this but first yu guys should make a plan together on Wat yu guys plan to do so wen yu guys talk to yur parents yu guys could let them no yur guys plan! Nd mby after that nd they see how yu guys really feel nd that yu guys have a plan mby they will feel different.. I'm pretty sure they will come around eventually.. it may take time.. mby sooner or later but I'm pretty sure they're not ganna abandon yu guys nd their grandchild... Nd even if they did, I'm nit sayin they will but if they did I'm sure yu guys could make it still if yu set yur mind to it nd do Wat yur suppose to do the right way.. it's ganna be hard but in the end its yur choice not anyone else's... Good luck! Yu could message me if yu want to talk..

[Jessiebaby21]

They can't make you have an abortion underage or not. I was 14 when I got pregnant with my first and my father wanted me to get an abortion and I wouldn't do it and they wouldn't let him decide. Now I'm 21 my son is 6 1/2 and I'm pregnant with baby #2 due April 14. With the same father, got our own house, own vehicle, finished ect. Good luck and hope everything works out

[lanismommy]

I personally hate when parents do that . They should force you to have an abortion or adopt , I personally think that its YOUR decision only . It's not even the child's father's decision because you're the one going through it .... God would never put you in a situation that he believes you aren't strong enough to handle . It would be HARD , but if you think that you're up for the challenge, keep it ! Don't let anyone influence you to do something that you don't want to do

[adgal]

Well, no one can legally force you to abort.  YOu have to be willing and have to sign a consent form.  If it is not what you want, then do not allow anyone to force you.

16 and pregnant is tough, but people do it.  Just remember that if you and your boyfriend choose to have this child and raise it, it is your responsibility not your parents.  This means finding your own place to live, paying the rent, ensuring that baby has all of his/her needs met, etc. etc.  So whatever you decide, it is a very big decision to make.  I am not advocating abortion, but there are other options.  Just please make sure you think everything through carefully.  This is a real life you are bringing into the world and it is a huge responsibility.  I wish you all the best.

[LAdodgergirl12]

well its up to you to sign those papers if it come down to it... its not up to them!!! dnt do nothing your gonna regret later...if you have the support of your boyfriend then thats what counts. im not one to bash on teen pregnancies i was 17 when i got pregnant with my first daughter... its just time you your man to hustle.its not as hard as parents make it seem.. that just my opinion.. some may say things are gonna be hard.. your too young..but screw them.. this is your baby!!!

[leoNarianna2011]

Honey they can't make you have an abortion, it's your child so you choose.

[mommygg]

Do u wanna raise a child? If u dont feel ready maybe adoption would be a better option then abortion is ur baby daddy willing to step up and take care of u and the child it will be hard but u wouldn't be the first 16 yr old to raise a child and I dont think ur mom can force u to have an abortion

[niyaaa]

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