Should I tell my fiancés mom she can't come?

[Jules_mommy]

My fiancé and I come from different worlds. He was born to a drug addict mom who lost him when he was 4. I was born into a more privledged family with strong family values. My fiancé got back in contact with his biological mom when he was 18, he always felt like he was missing something. The first day we went to meet her she asked us for $100, claiming she desperately needed it for food for his little sister (she's about to lose her..). Since then she pretty much only calls when she wants money or something. She once left over 10 voicemails and 30+ texts on my phone asking for money. My fiancé told her to stop but she's done it since. Her boyfriend is always in and out of prison for theft and I cannot stand him. For whatever reason my fiancé still wants a relationship with her and I support that. I'm being induced next week and she keeps calling my phone saying how she and her bf want to be at the hospital. My fiancé won't be able to be at the birth unfortunately and he said if I don't want her there that he's fine with it and will tell her but I know that will hurt him and I don't want it to end up being a fight in the future. I told his mom her bf was unwelcome but she threw a fit and said he's coming. My biggest fear is her coming and asking my family for money or her bf stealing something. She literally asks EVERYONE for money and her bf stole money from my fiancés aunts purse once when we were visiting.  I don't know what to do :/

[melissa_182]

I already told my parents & family I don't want them in the labor room because they didn't want to be a part of my life when I found out I was pregnant. Now I don't know how to tell my sister in law that I don't want her there either because we're having problems at home (moving out soon).

[collegeMarriedpregnant]

Yeah I'd say she can come when your fiance comes... it's not fair she gets to be there when he can't be anyway... say you want him to be the first to see the baby

[1st_time_mommyscarbro]

Tell her definitely not! Also tell the nurses and your doctor to not let them in or make sure the nurses let you know if you have visitors first and let you decide if they can come in or not. That's awful and I'm so sorry you are stuck in a bad situation like that. If you want her to come than tell her either she doesn't bring the bf or they can just both stay away! This is your baby and you don't need that extra stress!

[Mel_Singh]

Wow girl cant believe she didnt respect ur wishs on not bringing her bf. Good dont have them there. My family want to come to hospital for the birth too. But i just want my partner with me only,il make the anouncement i had baby one week later...lol

[skyskymommy]

Giving birth is stressful enough. Have the people around u that will make u feel good in that painful moment. I wouldn't hesitate to say she can't come.

[NewMomma199]

I believe you have every right to tell her no. My husband mother sounds about the same. But actually gave up my husband at 2 months old to his father. Fortunately his father and step mother are wonderful people. But I will also be telling his real mom she cannot come. And my child will not call her grandma. He will call her by name. Do what you believe to be right, and you can't go wrong. You'll know what's best mama !

[ProudMommy921]

if u dont want her dont have her ! i swear i dont want my sister near my baby well none of my sisters i kinda get u

[Mreeah]

Wow,
She and her bf want to be in the labor room?
I wouldnt want a guy in there other then my fiance. Lol
I feel if i were in your shoes itd feel too personal for the relationship.
And id be annoyed as hell, its one thing when parents raised you and ask for money but if she didnt even raise his son?
I would never feel obligated to give her money.

[february2015]

I agree, you have every right to say no especially after what's happened ... But if you do decide to let them come ... Maybe make it a time where your family isn't visitng so that there's no one to ask money from . if they want to come while you're giving birth ... Well that's up to you having them around your family

[AnnabelWilson18]

My boyfriends mom is a lovely lady.  But she's lovely for a tolerable period of time.  She will not be there nor will she know when it is happening.  Your reason is better than mine.  I say no no no.  That's asking for trouble, exactly what you dont want on that day.  Good luck :)

[Roxy_martinez]

You definately have a right to say she is not welcomed. Shes done multiple things to make you feel that way, so I think it wouldnt be wrong of you to not want her there. Especially her bf, you dont need that. She cant blame anyone but herself & bf